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I am freaking out

I had sex with a guy (we're casual friends) on December 12... almost 3 weeks ago, I believe.  We've had sex before, but this time we failed to use a condom.  Stupid, I know.  I really don't think he ejaculated in me (he told me he didn't and we were also worried about possible pregnancy), but he's really just a "casual" friend and I don't know how much I can believe him.  He DID ejaculate on my body and a little got into my mouth - I know oral is pretty low risk, but I am really just worried about the vaginal contact. Because if he really didn't ejaculate inside of me, he definitely got some pre-ejaculation inside of me.

The next day, I was very worried about a possible STD exposure, but really just freaking out about HIV.  I asked him if he was completely STD-free and he assured me that he was... but really, how do I know he's telling the truth? I don't.

My QUESTION: What really is my risk?  I want to get tested asap, but I don't know how reliable the results will be... And I don't want to wait and wait... the anxiety is killing me.  Do I really have to be completely freaked out for the next 6 months???  I won't be able to live my life having to wait that long for reassurance...

Please help  :(

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You do not have to freak out for the next six months, 12 weeks is consider conclusive.

Studies have concluded that precum carries an extremely low viral load, so low as to be undetectable. Please do yourself a favor here, calm down, get checked out at four weeks ( it will almost certainly be negative) and if you need to go for a confirmation test at twelve weeks, it too will almost certainly be negative.

Kevin.
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New year greetings dnt let anything freak you out 1st you dnt have symptoms that are suggestive of an infection and even if you have they are not an indicator of ones status but as you asked get a test at 28 days and 42 days and gumble with the math though under stress and anxiety hold on and finally test at 84th or 90th day but until then stay safe am very certain you are negative.
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There is no test that will give anyone a conclusive test result earlier than 3 months. Just because someone is undetectable in their serum lever does not mean they are undetectable in their semen levels.
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