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Im thinking I have HIV, so scared, please help
I had a sexual encounter with a girl I met at the bar (vaginal, anal, and oral) she was alot older then I am, I was fine after the incident the thought of hiv didn't even cross my mind, I was drinking heavily so I'm not 100% sure If I wore a condom but I do remember putting one on and I remember the oral sex was unprotected... but I honestly can't remember having any unprotected anal or vaginal sex... anyways then it struck me as I was reading on the city's local news "hiv is on the rise" people being diagnosed yearly has went up by 10%... the city I'm living in is small with only a population of 200,000, the news also said "hiv is more commonly found in people ranging from ages 30-47 and people who are using online dating sites" this is when I started to freak out, as she fits both of those categorys. about 2-3 weeks after the incident my tongue got really sore and the tastebuds at the tip of my tongue were swollen up... I was freaking so I got a hiv bloodtest at 5 weeks, the doctor didnt call back so it was negative I guess, as my family doctor would call me if there was a problem! I was relived for alittle while I felt great, then of course I Googled hiv testing and found out about the window period, the fear struck me again. At around the 2 month mark of waiting for the window period to be over I found white lines on the sides of my tongue, it's like patches, sort of swollen so I Google it, it turns to be oral hairy leukoplakia, that's really what it looks like to me, so now I'm really stressed out as its only seen in people with hiv... it's really ruined my life for the last 3 months, to the point where I just wanna sit in my room, sulk and not talk to anybody... before I was even concerned about contracting hiv off this woman me and a girl I was seeing had unprotected oral sex, when she was done I noticed blood on my penis where her tooth must of grazed, it was a fair bit of blood, 4 weeks later she gets extremely sick for over a week and ends up in hospital, now I'm extremely worried I have infected her to... I'm still waiting on my 3 month results which should be back soon but my life is ruined until then and the 2 week wait is unbareable, so my questions are what's the chances I contracted hiv, and gave it to my partner? And is my 5 week blood test a good indication? I'm really freaking out guys, I don't know what to do... I wish I could remember the full sexual encounter with this woman so I wouldn't worry about the condom, what I done was extremely stupid and I feel like I'm about to get punished for it.
"I honestly can't remember having any unprotected anal or vaginal sex." - If your sex was protected, then you had NO risk.
Next, even if you did have unprotected sex with this woman, the odds she was infected with HIV is highly unlikely. Second, HIV transmission from female to male during vaginal sex is also fairly unlikely. That leaves the anal sex. As long as you had protected sex you had no risk. However, if you did have unprotected sex, your negative result at 5 weeks is an extremely good indication that you were not infected during the encounter you describe.
Lastly, a standard HIV antibody test at 5 weeks is well over 90% accurate at that point. You can retest in a couple weeks at 7-8 weeks with a standard antibody test for conclusive results. Or, wait until 12 weeks using an instant oral swab. As handyman mentioned above, if you can find a DUO test, you can test for conclusive results right now. I would not expect your result to change.
Next, even if you did have unprotected sex with this woman, the odds she was infected with HIV is highly unlikely. Second, HIV transmission from female to male during vaginal sex is also fairly unlikely. That leaves the anal sex. As long as you had protected sex you had no risk. However, if you did have unprotected sex, your negative result at 5 weeks is an extremely good indication that you were not infected during the encounter you describe.
Lastly, a standard HIV antibody test at 5 weeks is well over 90% accurate at that point. You can retest in a couple weeks at 7-8 weeks with a standard antibody test for conclusive results. Or, wait until 12 weeks using an instant oral swab. As handyman mentioned above, if you can find a DUO test, you can test for conclusive results right now. I would not expect your result to change.
Statistically speaking your risk was low. But you had a risk.And it needs to be addressed.
You do not mention the type of test you had at 5 weeks. If it was a DUO then you would be negative. If it was a garden variety antibody test , then I would gauge it at 80% accurate.
HIV detection is no longer rocket science. The vast majority of infected people develop detectable antibodies after 22 days.
Your symptoms are irrelevant. Agonizing about symptoms and "googling" them only exacerbates your anxiety.
It already looks like you dodged the bullet. Get an antibody test at 12 weeks and be more careful in the future.
You do not mention the type of test you had at 5 weeks. If it was a DUO then you would be negative. If it was a garden variety antibody test , then I would gauge it at 80% accurate.
HIV detection is no longer rocket science. The vast majority of infected people develop detectable antibodies after 22 days.
Your symptoms are irrelevant. Agonizing about symptoms and "googling" them only exacerbates your anxiety.
It already looks like you dodged the bullet. Get an antibody test at 12 weeks and be more careful in the future.
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