please help someone

[swedenboy]

I'm a straight person but use butt plug which balloons up when you press it through pump. I have had recent bad experience with it and got hemorrhoids (internal and external) which were fairly visible.

Right around that time (May be in a day or so) , I have had received prostate massage (deep two fingers) which lasted about 10 minutes or so and I also got BJ during that incidents....

The worst thing is I've had ARS type of symptoms (For 2 weeks - hot body/fever (99), fatigue, night sweats, brain fog, cold sore, leg muscle pain, armpit pain, swollen hemorrhoids, tinnitus, solid skin burning pain) and those went away surprisingly..

Above incident and timing are very important. I'm actually very afraid as surprisingly those symptoms went away.... Can't seem to figure it out my risk.. on paper, receiving prostate is very low risk situation, but having these symptoms right after two weeks and suddenly went away like miracle...

Please help.

[Sara_MHModerator]

Hello, what you describe is not a risk.   MedHelp adheres to the position of the CDC as well as the input of our and other leading expert physicians that HIV is only transmitted through unprotected vaginal or anal sex, the sharing of needles, or from mother to child.  Therefore, you had no risk and we are closing this thread.

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[ldnbloke]

Hi, fingering or being fingered is no risk for HIV. Being the insertive partner in oral sex is very very very low risk or even zero risk for HIV. Hiv is only passed on through unprotected sex - which you did not have - or through sharing needles - which you did not do. So, whatever your symptoms are, they are not HIV.
You may want to see your doctor about your symptoms.

[swedenboy]

I definitely have had exposure, I also got symptoms at 2 week and It stopped even after total of 4 weeks .......Also, Let say even there a small possibility of very small small small amt of blood , does all these takes longer ?

[ldnbloke]

How did you have an exposure? You do not get HIV from being fingered unless your partner was bleeding from his/her fingers. The risk of oral sex being the insertive partner (i.e. when you get a bj) is really only theoretical.
Symptoms are not a way of diagnosing HIV. Fever,  headaches and body pains are symptoms of a common flu and many other illnesses. Millions of people get the flu every year. Moreover, if you just browse through this forum and others on the internet you will read thousands of posts from people claiming to be HIV positive because they had a fever and some swollen nodes who only a few weeks later posted back saying they got a negative test result.
If you continue feeling anxiety about this I would suggest discussing it with a health care professional. You may receive counselling and you can also get tested for absolute peace of mind.

[swedenboy]

The lady told me that she was +ve afterwards, Fingers had cut on it and the fingers were inside my anus for about 10 min's penetrating. There was no protection or gloves. I'm so much worried.

Isn't receptive anal is at the highest risk ? wouldn't hemorrhoide adds to that risk alsong with +ve person ?

All above things and exactly after 2 weeks symptoms appearing and then in two weeks disappearing ....

[ldnbloke]

I don't think this changes things. The fact that she was +ve does not mean you would get the virus from this experience. If the cuts/sores were not open and she was not bleeding then there was no risk.
Receptive anal sex is the highest risk BUT it is assumed that you are penetrated by a PENIS and not by a finger. HIV is present in precum and in ejaculate. That's how the virus is transmitted from the insertive to the receptive partner.
I think you may be freeking out because you learned that she is HIV positive but I don't see how you would get HIV from this experience.
I don't know where you live but  you can get counselling at a sexual health clinic. In the UK the Terence Higgins Trust has an excellent helpline and you can give them a call from anywhere if you want to discuss your situation too.
For peace of mind get a test and put this behind you.