If you were in a monogamous relationship why would you think that you needed to test?
what the hell kind of question is that? HIV just doesn't pop up out of thin air or are you asking because you haven't been faithful? If that's the case then you need to test if it was unprotected! Because you could have it and not have passed it to him!
He had to get a test for his job, works in a specialized field.
When we first were dating, we both got tested and negative results... We were seeing other people and I stupidly had unprotected sex with 2 other people as well as my now husband. I ended up with a treatable std as a result of unprotected sex with one of these guys, and had a whole std panel done which came back negative except for the one std I had (at that time I declined to get a HIV test). Stupidly, once we (hub and I) became monogamous we continued to have unprotected sex repeatedly even though I had an std (it was treated and went away and my husband never got it somehow) ...
Which brings us to present day, and my need to make sure I am HIV negative. Not to get into my sex life too much, but we do have sex with frequency, very often, unprotected (I wouldn't mind getting pregnant so long as I know I am HIV negative). Since he is negative, and we have been 100% monogamous for 2 years would I most likely be fine is my question?
Thank you so very much for your time and guidance!
There was a 4 month time frame when we were dating that we were seeing other people and I had unprotected sex and hadn't gotten tested. No, I wasn't unfaithful.
You said in your original post that you both tested when you first met. So which is it?
I'm sorry I'm not making myself clear, when I met my husband and he was a "guy I was seeing", we got tested for HIV and both had negative results. We continued to date and I saw other people and had unprotected sex with a couple of guys and him. After about 4 mos of "seeing" my husband we decided to become monogamous. However in the first 4 mos of dating, I...
ended up with a treatable std as a result of unprotected sex with one of these guys, and had a whole std panel done which came back negative except for the one std I had (at that time I declined to get a HIV test).
So I had an HIV test BEFORE I had risky sex, putting me at risk for HIV infection. Since this time (2 years ago, after the 1st HIV test), I have not had another one. Even though my husband and I are monogamous for the past 2 years, I did see other guys and had unprotected sex for the first 4 mos we dated, and I haven't been tested since. But as I said, my husband just got his results (today actually) and is HIV negative.
I hope I am making sense...I just want to know, since we have been together for 2 1/2 years and he just had his test come back negative, would in turn most likely I be negative OR is it possible that after 2 1/2 years of having sex with him, and he's not positive, could I be HIV positive from the risky sex I had during the first 4 months we have been together, and just not have infected him?
Thank you again!
1) You started a relationship with your husband a couple of years ago.
2) You both tested HIV negative at the beginning of this relationship
3) During the first 4 months of this relationship you cheated on him, having unprotected sex with two different guys. You had a risk
4) Recently your husband test HIV negative.
You can not rely on your husband's statuts to think you are also HIV negative. You had a risky situation and have not tested after that so you MUST test. The only result that counts is your OWN result.
I don't think you're infected, but you must confirm this by a test. It's the only way to be 100% sure.
Let us know.
About 2) I see you didn't "cheat" but you were dating other people and he as well. The point is you had unprotected sex, and you have to test.
--could I be HIV positive from the risky sex I had during the first 4 months we --have been together, and just not have infected him?
Yes you could be, it happens.
Do I think you're? Not, I don't think so.
Test and let all this behind. Keep us posted.
Thank you David! I will get a test this month and let you know what happens!!