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Oral hiv risk

hi everyone I am having a HIV scare and need help. 24 days ago I had sex with a man who’s HIV status I do not know. I am a female. He told me he gets tested after every partner but I dont know if to believe him or not. We had sex and used a condom. I did not use a condom when I gave him oral. He did not ejaculate in my mouth but I have heard that pre-cum can contain HIV and although i did not taste any precum i dont know if there was any. I also have braces and had some cuts under my top lip and some cuts on the inside of my cheeks so I am panicking. I have really bad anxiety i have not been able to sleep. About 2 weeks after this I started having a sore throat and groin pain. My armpits feel uncomfortable but do not see any visible swollen lymph nodes on my armpit but i do press on my neck and can feel pea sized lymph nodes but they move and it doesnt hurt. I can’t stop crying & I got tested last week for a HIV RNA test but results are still not here. I was so desperate I took a ORAQUICK test from CVS and it came out negative but then I read its only true if its been 3 months from exposure. What are my chances of having HIV? He also gave me oral but im more concerned about me giving him oral.
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Anyway, all that matters is you are negative and believe it so enjoy your life.
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( penis, maybe liquids, etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe.
The first step to peace is to stop googling cold turkey and the second is to stop examining your body cold turkey since there is nothing to find.
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Thank you so much this really helped.
Just received my results and im HIV negative. Thank you for helping me with my anxiety your post really called me down.
It is unfortunate that you wasted your time testing. Dead virus can't infect, so I hope you can move on.
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