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Oral risk with cuts in mouth

Hello, last week my boyfriend and I went to nightclub and had mutual oral intercourse with a older man. I unfortunately had a large sore on my lipsm
The last few days my boyfriend has developed a fever and cough. I also have swollen glands on my body.  We have only had oral sex together. Is it possible we have given each other HIV?

I'm worried that we got something and gave it to each other.  Could it enter through my sore on my lips?  
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The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected (no condom) penetrative anal or vaginal sex, OR
2) Sharing IV drug equipment with other IV drug users.

Yesterday, you were sure you got swollen lymph nodes from a no-risk event with a stranger a month ago, and now you think the nodes, which have been present for several weeks, were caused by no-risk oral sex that you and your (new?) boyfriend gave to a stranger last week.  That doesn't even make sense.

I don't know what you mean by "gave something to each other."  You can't spontaneously give a disease to each other that neither of you has.  Only one person can infect another person.  

In any case, you haven't had a risk for HIV, and if your nodes are giving you anxiety, get them checked out by a doctor.  Also, if having sexual encounters with strangers/people of unknown status gives you this level of anxiety, you should consider not engaging in that activity.
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Thanks 4 the answer, I thinq I get it now. My BF and I are in a mostly open relationship for 3 years but we haven't gotten sick until now so I have been scared we got some thing. We will halt with meeting others until we both get healthy.  
You probably got Covid or flu etc. so that's a good plan to avoid others until you're over it.

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