Please Help!! is it ARS, STD's or PEP Side Effects?

[benec]

Hi, i hook up with an accuantaince for the first time, and later we had sex, we used lube and condoms, after i penetrated her anally (i didn't cum) we were spoonning together, i was in the back and i started to rubb my penis (UNCIRCUMCISED) with the condom between her legs, and then i came, just in that moment i realize that the condom had slipped, and i was rubbing my penis between the lube , the used condom with her anal secretions and my semen, i beg her, and we went to a lab that opens 24/7 and we waited for the results, then when we knew i was negative and she was positive, i went to an ER, explained the issue but was not given PEP, because the doctor explained to me that it was a no risk situation because the condom was exposed to air (but i told him it was just a few seconds of air exposure). Later, I had to consult a  private doctor who prescribed me only truvada as PEP, after 20 hours of the incident, and telling him that i hadn't shower, i only used baby wipes in my penis because of the hurry. Am i at risk of getting HIV? it's been 12 days and i'm coming down with a very mild fever, mild sore throat, cough, and a bit of thrush (i don't know if it was from before), i don't know if it's ARS, PEP Side Effects or because of some rimming that i did, or some STD... please HELP!

[AnxiousNoMore]

You should have listened to the first doctor because he was right. "the doctor explained to me that it was a no risk situation because the condom was exposed to air (but i told him it was just..." - your personal made up theory that you believed you could get HIV. The private doctor should be shot for giving you PEP.
You are safe and need to move on from HIV fears. This isn't your first cold and because you are like billions of other negative people you will get many more in your lifetime.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Since the private doctor steered you wrong, here is all you need to know about HIV prevention. You can see that what you did is not any of the only 3 risks.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV. No one got HIV from the situation you encountered in 40 years and likely no one will in the next 40 of your life, so there in no more likelihood of HIV transmission happening than of you getting hit by a meteor as you read this.

[benec]

Thank you very much for your time explaining and for calming my nerves, i didn't believe much the ER doctor because he looked impatience and like i was in his way (maybe long shift)... it just that the "cold" it's so accurately on time to pass like ARS symptoms, either way, i'll take a general STD  test on the 4th week. because some of them can pass through body contact. thank you.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You have to go to the std forum for std questions but don't bother taking an hiv test. A cold is not an std symptom.