I will keep this short as I can and will appreciate any help. God bless who ever can give me an opinion and give it to me straight, good or bad.
I had protected insertive anal sex with a latex condom and water based lubricant Aug 22 of 2012 with a strange woman. Additionaly there was fingering (I work with my hands so there are always little scuffs and whatnot on my fingers but they were in decent shape this day, no gashes or anything, maybe papercut sized things) and Analingus with a canker sore on my inner lip. The order of the sex was first analingus, second fingering, third penetrative anal. I also rubbed her clitoris a bit and later wiped precum from my urethra with the same fingers but that was outside in the air, so it was ok right? So the condom did not rip (I would know if it ripped right?) and there was no visible blood from beg. to end. The girl told me she tested neg last test and she tests once a month but I did not see proof and have reason to believe she may engage in risky behavior. She had scars on top of her arm as if she cuts herself with a razor or something, she may have problems. Believe it or not what is worrying me the most about the encounter is the analingus because I pushed my tongue a bit inside and perhaps I took some blood into my mouth even though I did not realize it. Even though most forum members have the attitude that oral sex under normal circumstances equals almost no chance of HIV, I have been reading other official/governmental sites that make it sound like a high risk activity.The good news is I tested HIV negative at 55 days after "exposure" but the bad news is I still feel sicker than hell, swollen neck, swollen and pain behind ears, swollen lump under armpit, swollen groin, headache, warm body, etc, just general malaise. To be fair I have been under constant stress and panic for the past few months. Addtionaly I tested negative for gonhorea (sp) and one other std but I forget which one, and I had a Hepatits vaccine when I was younger. What do you all think? I am not the kind of guy to obsessively ask follow up questions or not accept the advice first time around.