Dear Doctor Handsfield,
I was hoping that you may be able to provide some reassurance regarding a sexual encounter I had about 12 days ago with an Indonesian woman in Jakarta...
I met her in a club / bar in Jakarta which is known to be frequented by prostitutes, although to my knowledge, she wasn't one; at least she didn't ask me to pay. I vaguely remember her mentioning that she had a child (although I can't be sure, because I was quite drunk) and I'm pretty certain that she said that she was a university student.
We had sex twice: once when we got back to my hotel and again the next morning. During the first encounter, she gave me a condom, which I used initially, but then during sex, came off. I noticed, but foolishly continued. It probably lasted about five minutes before I ejaculated outside of her. I vaguely remember her asking why I took it off, but she showed little concern when I couldn't give her a legitimate answer.
The next morning, she started rubbing my penis and then put it in her vagina; this time without any condom to begin with at all. Again, this lasted for about five minutes before I ejaculated outside of her. After we finished, she asked if I was sure that I ejaculated outside of her, to which I said yes.
Shortly after this, she got dressed, gave me a kiss and then left.
Since then, I have been hyperaware of any HIV related symptoms. I felt as if I developed slight inflammation to my throat circa three days after the episode, although there was no pain as such; this has since gone. Not sure if this had anything to do with the unprotected sex or if it was just a result of late nights combined with alcohol.
I haven't really been able to focus at work due to bouts of anxiety and hyperawareness of symptoms. Definitely a very foolish act, and really regretting it. The last time I had unprotected sex before this was about two years ago with my girlfriend at the time...
I'm going to get tested this weekend to make sure, but was hoping to get your opinion in the interim for my sanity. Given the circumstances, is my risk high?
Looking forward to your comments.