Back in September when I was studying abroad I made this friend. He's a year younger than me, white South African who was also in London. I'm 20.
We ended up having sex which started out protected but sometime during the actual act he apparently took it off. Needless to say I was a wreck afterwards.
I spoke with him several times and he told me he had only had sex with two other girls before and that he had never been tested.
About three weeks to the day after I ended up with a horrible sore throat, headaches (which I get often), a runny nose, sneezing and coughing. There was no rash I could see and as far as I could tell my glands weren't swollen. The day before I got sick I had been at an amusement park by the ocean and it was extremely chilly and out of the five people in my flat, three had been ill with the flu not too long before- one of whom shared my room.
The sore throat lasted a few weeks.
Now it's June and so it's over the window period but I still haven't gotten tested and I know I need too. I'm just terrified. I have very dry skin around my nose and this odd rough/bumpy skin on my chest which doesn't itch and isn't red or anything..it's been there for a little bit, as well as recurring infections in my two lip piercings, though that might just be because I didn't clean the new rings when I put them in a few weeks ago. I did however go to the dentist and get a clean bill of dental health, which kind of excited me, as that means I don't have any of the oral symptoms.
My friend has since told me he's been tested and he's fine, but I don't know if I can/should believe him.
What is my probability that I'm HIV+, especially because he's South African, and is the rate of transmission changed because I have HPV (not the kind which gives warts).
And also how long does the asymptomatic phase last? Is it possible that from the possible transmission to know, which would be, 9 months, that it's progressed?