Protected anal sex

[Ppschmidt]

Hi I may be freaking out unnecessarily but I tried anal sex for the first time- I was the receptive partner. He wore a condom, attempted to penetrate but it wouldn’t go in very far. He removed the condom, I masturbated him a bit and then shortly afterwards he put a brand new condom on. He tried again and got the same result so we gave up. Afterwards I noticed that I had some bleeding down there which freaked me out. I tested both condoms afterwards (put some water in and nothing came out) so I’m assuming they didn’t break. Question is, could the lube he used (didn’t check it was waterbased) have damaged the condom to the point where virus could have passed through to the blood? He didn’t ejaculate there and at most there would have been Precum inside but just worrying a little because of the blood and because it was the first time. Hope you don’t think I’m crazy but wondering if I need to test or have PEP in your view?

[CurfewX]

Using the wrong lube can cause the condom to break.  There is no other "damage" that lube could do that would allow HIV transmission.  Make sure to use appropriate lube so that the condom doesn't break, but barring a massive, very visible breakage, condom-protected sex prevents HIV.

[AnxiousNoMore]

This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You can't get hiv without penetration and he used a condom as well. if a condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and it hangs in tatters so close inspections and water tests are a waste of time.