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Rapid 6 Week HIV test

Background: Male/Heterosexual/No Drug User. Living in the Border Juarez, Mexico/El Paso, TX.

Good afternoon, i’ve A few questions, I’m losing my mind.

On Nov. 11, 2018 I had sexual intercourse with a girl (I don’t know her HIV status)

Sex was protected vaginal (I’m not sure if the condom broke, I didn’t check it, my bad)

And I received unprotected oral sex.

5-7 days after the encounter I got sick Tonsillitis, cold sore on lip and diarrhea for 4 days. (No fever, rashes) I look up the symptoms and I started to panick because it related to HIV, I asked this girl if she had any STD or something that I should know about and she got mad and blocked me from every social media, so my anxiety went to the roof.

I went to the urologist (in Mexico) 15 days after the exposure and he told me that is unlikely that I acquired HIV through oral sex, that I just had a cold, but I had to wait 3 months to take a HIV test.

I went to a lab 30 days after exposure and took an full STD test, all of them came negative.

42 days after exposure I went and took a rapid ELISA test on the same lab (no reactive)

The problem is that I have a stiff neck, the doctor (urologist) checked my neck and told me that is just muscular and no lymph nodes are enlarged.

But I’m anxious because the stiff neck is still there, tomorrow is 8 weeks after exposure.

What are the chances that the neck is a HIV symptom?

I know I have to wait a full month for a conclusive test, but the wait is long and painful, i’ve been with a bunch of girls before but this never happened to me before.

Thank you for reading this.

I’ll appreaciate any advice or comment, thank you.
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1) symptoms are unreliable and are not used to diagnose hiv
2) it is unlikely that the symptoms u r experiencing r due to hiv
3) the test isnt conclusive, but it is a good indication that u do not have hiv
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I really, really hope so, man.

Thanks for replying.
his answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.

You had no risk since you used condom. If condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and hangs in tatters so messy inspections are pointless. Move on from HIV and go back to your happy life. the first step to peace is to stop googling hiv symptoms cold turkey and to stop examining your body trying to work up hiv theories.
The first word of the above advice was supposed to be This

Millions of people have chronic sore neck issues and muscular issues, and lots can be treated by simple stretching or physiotherapy treatments if it continues.
fwiw - It is not surprising she blocked your accusations, however it is surprising that you decided this proved she had HIV to hide.
Thank you, for reading and taking your time for replying, I really, really, appreciate it.

So like my doctor told me 6 week hiv (3rd gen) test is enough, no more testing? How reliable is it?

Just the pain in my neck, I don’t know what it is, maybe stress, maybe anxiety.

Is there any way I can donate money o this community?
I know, but it was surprising for me that she got offended when I asked her that, she just could answer with a no, or “I got tested a year ago”, I don’t know her that well, anxiety took over I guess.
Which of the 3 do you feel was your risk, otherwise you are just making up your own science? Since you don't have any medical training, it is unrealistic for you to have any confidence in your ability to diagnose disease or to think that your theory can become reality.
The only risk I felt was the oral sex, but you already told me that is not possible.

Thank you for your time, I’ll take my 6 week test as conclusive and call it a day.

Have a happy new year, and let me know how can I donate.
You can try to connect with her now, and explain that  you didn't understand everything so made a misinformed decision - but have gotten over the anxiety now that you are informed.

btw, there is a reason why most csw require and PAY out of their pockets for condoms for anal or vaginal but not oral.
The site makes their money off advertising not donations.
I’ll try to make it up to her!, thanks for the advice, man, I really appreciate it.

I was going nuts!

Thank you!
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Just to update this post, I rol a 8 week antibody test, came non-reactive and I’m just gonna leave it like that and call it conclusive, thank you and have a great day.
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You are the only person who is surprised by your test result since you didn't accept the science. Seek therapy if this fear happens again, because your situation is straightforward.
yes, I know, I just got scared because I got a little sick after that encounter, but thanks to you I felt more confident about the results.

Great job you’re doing in this community! Have a great year, man.
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