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Risk of infection in this scenario
Hi everyone.
I had protected sex with a guy 7 weeks ago, I topped for like 30 seconds and that was it.
I saw this guy again last week, and I topped (protected) for maybe 1 minute (yeah, I know, premature ejaculation). This last time however, the base of my penis was irritated from having shaved the day before, and I'm not sure the condom covered the penile base (I'm talking about the first 1.2 inch of a 6 inches fully erected penis). Of course, the rest of my penis was fully covered.
The day after that, I started having some serious anxiety and I called him to ask if he's been tested for HIV. He assured me that he got tasted the year before and was negative, but you never know. He was upset that I insisted so much and stopped answering my calls.
I went and got tested for HIV (Micro Elisa Test) and it was negative. This was 6 weeks after our first encounter. I also haven't had any symptons of seroconvertion so far.
I've had some really bad anxiety over this. I'm basically scared of our 2nd encounter. Was this risky?
Please help.
I had protected sex with a guy 7 weeks ago, I topped for like 30 seconds and that was it.
I saw this guy again last week, and I topped (protected) for maybe 1 minute (yeah, I know, premature ejaculation). This last time however, the base of my penis was irritated from having shaved the day before, and I'm not sure the condom covered the penile base (I'm talking about the first 1.2 inch of a 6 inches fully erected penis). Of course, the rest of my penis was fully covered.
The day after that, I started having some serious anxiety and I called him to ask if he's been tested for HIV. He assured me that he got tasted the year before and was negative, but you never know. He was upset that I insisted so much and stopped answering my calls.
I went and got tested for HIV (Micro Elisa Test) and it was negative. This was 6 weeks after our first encounter. I also haven't had any symptons of seroconvertion so far.
I've had some really bad anxiety over this. I'm basically scared of our 2nd encounter. Was this risky?
Please help.
This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You can't get hiv when you used a condom, so your persistent frantic calls to him would be annoying and it is not surprising that he blocked you.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You can't get hiv when you used a condom, so your persistent frantic calls to him would be annoying and it is not surprising that he blocked you.
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Thank you.
But my fear is about how the base of the penis was irritated because of shaving 24 hours before. I read that having small cuts increased the risk of getting HIV, and I'm not sure if the base of the penis was fully covered, althought I'm not sure neither if the base of the penis was also inserted.
I assumed that irritation = small cuts, therefore I panicked.
But my fear is about how the base of the penis was irritated because of shaving 24 hours before. I read that having small cuts increased the risk of getting HIV, and I'm not sure if the base of the penis was fully covered, althought I'm not sure neither if the base of the penis was also inserted.
I assumed that irritation = small cuts, therefore I panicked.
Reread about unrealistic.
Some sites use conservative risks that have never occurred in 40 years of hiv history, so that is a pretty useless claim.
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