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Safer Sex and Relationships?

Hello there!

So,I now am in a relationship with a girl I've met last month.

We have talked about STDs and she has had unprotected sex and didn't test since, so status unknown.

I will suggest to go get tested, and from her general behavior I think she will be okay with this.

Thing is, I can't say that yet, we've been together only for a week, both of us 19 years old, it's more likely that she will think I am a psycho.

1)What should I do, any general advice?

In a more general manner:

2) I can understand that receiving oral sex is fine, fingering too if you don't have fresh bleeding wounds, what else would I take care about ( for example take care and don't do this at that time etc ), if any?

3) What about cunningulus? I understand that saliva inhibits the HIV virus and makes it inactive, but, well, you get vaginal fluids in your mouth consistently, so there is a risk, isn't there?
I mean, it's not like giving oral sex to a man, where he ejaculates for some seconds, you get a consistent amount of vaginal fluids. Can someone enlight me in this one please?

4) Of course, condom is a must, so, anything else?

I would love it if you answered in every question separately!
Cheers! :)
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Sorry unless they were born with HIV i should have added aswell.We are getting off topic here anyway.You have been provided with all the information you need.
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You don't think a virgin can't be infected? How about children born with HIV. Now move along with your BS.
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if they are virgins,unless they share iv drugs then they can't have HIV.
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You're actually right Teak, sorry to bother you.
I'm a pretty logical person in general and I understand the facts etc, but when stress and anxiety enter my mind, well, I think irrationaly.
Generally, unprotected sex with a virgin man / woman is considered high risk or no risk?
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There is nothing to comment on. You know how HIV is and is not transmitted
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Someone, please???
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On this note, today this girl got a rash on her chest and face, not something too big but not too small either.
Actually it looks like wormring on her face and like many pimples, which itch her, on the chest.
No other hypothetical ARS symptoms.
That's exactly 34-35 days, after she had unprotected vaginal sex with another man ( before I even knew her ) once.
The thing is, that man was virgin before,so, isn't this no risk?
He is not using drugs.
What can you say about this?
We are practicing safe sex anyway, but this stressed me today, as I went in her place and her chest and face were red.
I'd like your comments people,thanks.
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Re read Teaks first response to you--that's all you need to know.
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Cheers Teak,thanks!
Anyone else would like to add something?
Thanks anyway.
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HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug users
Mother to child
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Actually I would really like the answer for the question 3).
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Like you said there is no point.
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I don't think I will ever stop using condoms even if the girl is STD-free, I don't want a baby right now, but as I have done this mistake before, thanks for the advice,thought of that too. :)
Could you please answer at the questions separately, even if there is no point?
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Before suspending with condoms both of you go test 3 months post exposure before having unprotected sex.
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