You can relax, you never had a risk. Oral sex is not a risk (even unprotected) and you used a condom for the vaginal sex. Condoms, when they don't break, are 100% effective in preventing HIV.
Your "symptoms" are totally inconsistent with HIV anyway. I agree that it sounds like you got a UTI, which, while less common in men, are a common occurence.
You can not assess a swollen lymph node. Only a medical professional can do that, and it takes LOTS of practice since most nodes are always palpable. Even IF you had a swollen lymph node, it could be caused by about a thousand different things...for YOU, logically your urinary tract infection. Swollen lymph nodes are a reaction of the body's immune system when it detects any sort of infection, or abnormality.
You don't require HIV testing, however, you may want to test for other, non-HIV STD's that are transmitted much easier. You can go to any clinic and request an STD panel. Just explain your exposure.
Last time, I'll say it again, NO worries for HIV at all. You're a-ok.
u r safe u never had exposure
thank you everyone for your clarification to help ease my mind. i was worried since if ive gotten uti, i might have gotten other diseases from her as well.
i realized i didnt check after sex and not totally sure if the condom had not torn or there was a hole. her cleaning my penis and pubic hair, while then seemed like a good service to me, but now im paranoid she might have been cleaning up any signs of condom breakage.
i worry also that i may be getting thrush, since i already have a sore throat. it seems my tongue is getting slightly white... not completely white in all areas, and slightly yellowish on the front side of tongue. reading online added to my worries since these are the early symptoms; swollen lymph node, sore throat, thrush (possibly), diarrhea (still have it 2 days on). its kinda freaking me out, what else could i have apart from UTI from these symptoms?
the swollen lymph node on my right armpit is definite, its larger than the left and feels strange to me. it doesnt hurt though, is it supposed to if its swollen?
Had the condom failed you would have known without a doubt.
it is now 3rd week since sex, 24th may, yesterday and day before, i experienced a little bit of chest pain while inhaling. at first when i woke up, and then a little bit during daytime. very minimal occurence however now i have a sore throat again. i am getting worried again. are these also symptoms?
i have been browsing other forums as well. ive read that other people quoting from credible source like the cdc and such, hiv can still be transmitted through oral sex, and also dried blood (hiv can live upto 2hours if viral load is high). im worried if i might have it and may infect my family. i am worried and paranoid now. ive read that it can even be transferred through razors and tootbrushes.