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Scary of having this Virus , Please help

Hey Everyone .. Good to find this website kind of relaxed .

Here is my story ...

I came to USA in 2015 Aug and in OCT (2015) end I went to Strip-club in IOWA and there I had deep kissing with one of the stripper who looks like were on Drugs then.I also fingered her and during that time I have cut on my finger.

After 1 week ,  I experienced a sore throat and high fever with intense headache at for 3 days . Went to ER and Doc simply asked me by looking @my sore throat ,
"Did you have sex recently or are you involved in any sexual encounter " ?

In 2016 , I met one girl on dating site which was one night stand we had Deep kissing and I just rub my penis against her wet vagina . Then after couple of days
she stop taking my calls and she deleted her account from dating site ..

I experienced painless small pimples after 2 weeks on my penis shaft which comes and go .I am now also getting these brown or black lines around my gum-line and also
my are gum line are receding & Am I experiencing bone loss for teeth .

From 2015 to 2018 till date , I think I am having HIV virus inside me because of above encounter  
As a married person , I am thinking of my wife . My Wife want to have family planning and want to have kid . I am loosing my health slowly each day thinking that I have HIV .

I even Don't have guts to perform Testing . However every year from 2016 I used to
go for my CBC/HDL/C-Reactive P checkup ..

Below are the results :-

2018 - AUG

WBC = 6.1
RBC = 5.45
Neutrophils = 47 / ABS = 2.8
Lymphs = 38  / ABS = 2.3
C-Reactive P = 0.84

2017 - FEB

WBC = 5.5
RBC = 5.62
Neutrophils = 46 / ABS = 2.6
Lymphs = 40  / ABS = 2.2
C-Reactive P = 0.81

Could please someone help me with below Questions
1) Rubbing Penis (No Condom on ) against Vagina in my case can get HIV virus  ,
If she is HIV  + ?

2) Black Line around gums & Receding gum lines are sign of HIV infection ?(As I could see the testimonial of HIV + Person saying that they experienced receding gums and black gums )

3) Fingering Stripper (with Cuts on my finger ) can pass HIV virus? As it's direct contact with virus without coming out in air .

4) Small Painless pink/White pimples on my penis shaft is early sign of HIV ? or it's common to have Painless pimples in Hiv Infected person ?

5) Looking at my blood report from these 2 years , Do you think I need to go for testing .

Please help ..I am so scared and something thinking like commenting suicide

Thanks in advance
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You had no risk so your tests were a waste of time. Any negative person can get those symptoms so you need to stop wasting your time making HIV Googling into a hobby, and instead relax and enjoy the reality that you can't have HIV.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
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But why these symptoms after having these encounters ?

Painless pimples on penis shaft and black line on gums with receding gums ..

I am getting panic attack thinking all of this symptoms

Please help here with some more explaination on why these symptoms are coming around only after having encounters like mine ..
We can't tell you what is causing your symptoms - we cannot diagnose you.  See a doctor.  We can only tell you the symptoms are NOT caused by HIV, since you never had a risk for HIV.
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