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Unprotected oral and protected sex very scared.

Hello to all members.

I have been stupidly visiting csws for many time in the past but have always ensured that I do protected sex in case of vaginal. But have taken oral unprotected most of the times. I have kept testing also periodically.

But I am really afraid of two incidences where It was again unprotected oral for 10-15 minutes.After that it was protected vaginal sex for 10-20 minutes. Then it was hand job in the end to finish. I Infact used two condoms for vaginal sex.For best of my knowledge the condoms did not break. The second incidence was identical.

After two weeks suddenly i have pea size bump on my Fore head above ear.I am very afraid and it's hard and it creates a lot of pain when poked. I do not find any other symptoms other than watery stool for two days. I am very afraid now.i did searched but I did not find any lymph node location on fore head above ear region. Is this lymph node?

I also searched that in HIV many lymph nodes get swollen at one time but I have only one place swelled. Kindly help I am totally freaked out.
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk and your tests were a waste of time.
HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
People cough on your lips and door knobs so you got the flu just like billions of other negative people.
See a real doc about your bump, instead of searching the internet and convincing yourself that you can figure if it is cancer or whatever else you guess it is. You don't have any medical training, so it is unrealistic for you to think you can do a doctor's job.
Using 2 condoms increases the chance they will break due to friction, so you are wasting your money and making HIV risk, so don't do that anymore.
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A test will be a waste of time. you are safe, so you shouldn't worry about HIV, but I would see doc instead of poking your body and irritating it.
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Thank you for the answer but kindly do tell me is there any lymph node on the fore head Infact just above the ear on the sides and it's a couple of two symptoms one swollen part and watery stool is this something? and finally I have been told that in HIV many lymph nodes swell at one time is this correct?Thank you.
You don't have any medical training so you can't know anything about diagnosing.
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