What is my risk?

[Prinkee]

I apologize for another "what is my risk" question as there do seem to be a lot of them, but I am so anxious waiting for my results that I have to ask.  I recently took a blood test given by an insurance company and of the many things they test for, one of them is HIV.  Here is some background:

1.  42 year old white heterosexual female, non drug user
2.  2 years ago did IVF to have my son (at that time was tested and negative for HIV)
3.  Before my son I only had two long term relationship/sexual partners in my life (again, tested negative twice with last being two years ago)
4.  A year ago I started a long term relationship (with unprotected sex) with a white heterosexual male (non drug user) who had just left a 15 year relationship.  At the time, when I told him I was clean, he had told me that he had bloodwork done the year prior and everything was "fine."
5.  Three months ago I did my routine exams and although not tested for HIV, was negative for all other STDs tested including chlamydia and gonorrhea.  

So you might be asking "why are you anxious?"  My anxiety stems from the fact that now, before I have my results back, my fiance told me that he never really checked up on the bloodwork he did and that he doesn't know all that they tested for because they were testing him before a surgery to remove an undescended testicle.  I am assuming he was not tested for HIV at the time because I don't necessarily think they would test for that before a surgery (although I have not asked him - yes, I am a chicken).

Now I am having major anxiety that I have to hide from everyone as I wait for the email from the lab telling me my results are ready to view.  On top of that, they tested me last Monday and I still don't have an email for results so my brain is freaking out telling me that they are delayed because they are retesting for HIV.

Can someone give me some words of wisdom other than to calm down and wait for my results?  I realize there is always a risk with unprotected sex with a partner, but can anyone tell me if they think it is a minor risk?

Also, I was hoping to ask one of the doctors but I can't seem to figure out how to access the ability to ask them, so if someone could let me know that would be great.  I apologize for anyone who is reading this long and rambling question.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Take an Oraquick right now for an instant result if the wait for the insurance medical is bothering you this badly. It isn't expensive and if it's negative you can rule out activity prior to the last 3 months.

[CurfewX]

No one can give you actual odds, particularly since you don't know your partner's HIV status for certain.  However, it seems unlikely that he has HIV based on his sexual history.  Most people, of course, do not have HIV.

I don't see any real cause for concern, here.  The delay in receiving results says NOTHING about your status.  At all.  If they needed to re-test, they would ask for another sample.