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What are my chances of contracting HIV through unprotected vaginal sex?
I recently had unprotected sex with a new partner about two days ago. It was only vaginal, oral sex, and he did not ejaculate in me. I am not concerned about pregnancy because I am birth control. I’m really paranoid and this is the first time I have ever had unprotected sex outside of a relationship. I asked my partner about his status and he has told me several times that he is hiv negative. He was recently in a relationship with a woman 3 months ago and stated that she cheated on him. He never got tested after the fact, and that drove my anxiety through the absolute roof. I have extremely bad ocd and my anxiety is super irrational. I feel completely stupid and I’ve made the most dumbest decision of my life. I don’t know what to do, I’ve stopped eating and I’ve become literally suicidal because of the thought of catching HIV drives me insane. The day after we had intercourse, he told me he was going to have sex with another female and I got extremely upset and yelled at home over the phone. As a result he blocked me, and I basically have no way of getting into contact with him and now I’m overly paranoid. I believe he also blocked me because I kept asking him over a thousand times about his status and eventually he got extremely annoyed and decided to end our fling. I don’t know what to do, I have to wait a month to get tested and I feel like my life is over.
I'm sorry that you are so upset and so depressed and anxious. If you are considering hurting yourself in any way, please get support. Call a suicide hotline or the ER. That's serious. And at that point, we really have to talk about underlying anxiety and depression and that these are things that can be treated. I urge you in the strongest way to take that advice and work on this because your life does matter and no one wants you to hurt yourself.
You had unprotected sex. I understand this is worrisome as that is a risk for HIV, however, an episode of unprotected sex is LOW risk. Less than one percent transmission rate for an episode of unprotected sex. And the person you were with is not a high risk person. They aren't a sex worker and they have had sex recently with only one other person. She maybe cheated on him with one person. While these are risks, it's all LOW. And to you, remember . . . LESS THAN ONE PERCENT. You really need to focus on that. Talk to your doctor. A duo test can be done at 28 days. My guess is that it will be negative. You can do an RNA test sooner if your doctor agrees. But ultimately, you need to work on your mental health concerns. Everyone gets nervous and worried and sad. But when it goes to the level of talking about ending your life, it becomes alarming and you need to reach out for help regarding this. Hang in there. I'd bet my right foot you're negative.
You had unprotected sex. I understand this is worrisome as that is a risk for HIV, however, an episode of unprotected sex is LOW risk. Less than one percent transmission rate for an episode of unprotected sex. And the person you were with is not a high risk person. They aren't a sex worker and they have had sex recently with only one other person. She maybe cheated on him with one person. While these are risks, it's all LOW. And to you, remember . . . LESS THAN ONE PERCENT. You really need to focus on that. Talk to your doctor. A duo test can be done at 28 days. My guess is that it will be negative. You can do an RNA test sooner if your doctor agrees. But ultimately, you need to work on your mental health concerns. Everyone gets nervous and worried and sad. But when it goes to the level of talking about ending your life, it becomes alarming and you need to reach out for help regarding this. Hang in there. I'd bet my right foot you're negative.
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My issue is that I’m already overheating. I did get tested before this sexual encounter and considering I was having night sweats prior to starting antidepressants it came to be negative. But now I’m suddenly overheating and I feel like it’s hard to breath I just don’t know what to do.
The symptoms you are describing are NOT symptoms associated with HIV infection. They are, however, symptoms of COVID-19 infection, and you should seek medical attention ASAP if you are having difficulty breathing.
These could also be symptoms of anxiety, but if you are ever having trouble breathing, your best bet is to be evaluated, in-person, by a physician.
You have quite a few post about hiv and mentioned anxiety and ocd in the past too, so that is not a good combination when you have unprotected sex risk because you just worry so much afterwards. Next time insist the other person test first.
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/Worried-about-HIV--am-I-at-risk/show/3062306
You can take a duo after 28 days for a conclusive result. There is nothing else to do so talk to your doc about the situation you will be in for the next 4 weeks to see if she can help you deal with it.
https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/Worried-about-HIV--am-I-at-risk/show/3062306
You can take a duo after 28 days for a conclusive result. There is nothing else to do so talk to your doc about the situation you will be in for the next 4 weeks to see if she can help you deal with it.
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