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What is the risk of removing condom too soon?


I am bisexual and still struggling with my sexual identity. Sometimes I have sex with guys or women. In the last 2 months I had 7 encouters, each different person.
The 1st encouter was male and we had mutual masturbation. The 2nd was also male and he topped me with a condom. The sex lasted maybe 5 min. He ejaculated in the condom when he was inside me or when he was pulling out. I asked before at his status but didn't check expiry date on condom. Also don't know if we used lube but I don't think the condom broke because his semen was at top of condom.
My 3rd date I was top and used condom. I again asked at his status and afterwards he showed his lab results and I saw he had syfilis in the past but no hiv (or he could be hiv+ when he is in window period).
4th date just mutual masturbation, 5th and 6th I was bottom and used condom. There was no ejaculation but maybe precum.
My 7th date was with a prostitute from Columbia. She says on her website only with condom.

1) There could be semen on me from first date when we masturbated.
2) I didn't check expiry date on condom and I remember a tiny dot on my underpants. Maybe this was semen from
     him, so this scares me.
3) Could I contract syfilis from 3rd date?
4) Date 5 I checked date on condom which was fine, but when I saw lube I couldn't quite well see if it was
    waterbased. I performed oral with condom first, but it was really strange taste to the condom. Like he reused it
    and penetration lasted only 2 minutes. Date 6 was also very brief penetration but I am bit worried because had
    my semen in his mouth.
5) My last date I used condom again and checked date, but I wasn't fully erected and we didn't use lube. I pulled
    out and my semen was in condom. But it happened very quick and I had trouble removing condom because
    condom felt sticky when removing. Since it was sticky to remove maybe fluids from her cojld get in my urethra.

What are my risks for HIV from these events? I feel my anus sometimes itchy and my cheek has numb feeling. Also like sore throat but not all the time.
I had negative hiv test 3 months ago and 2 weeks ago negative hiv antibody selftest.

Sorry for the long text but there were 7 events.


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Your test is conclusive because nothing you posted is a risk for HIV. Only unprotected anal or vaginal sex and sharing IV drug needles with infected users are a risk for HIV in an adult.

As for how to get rid of your anxiety, you should seek therapy. That's the only way you'll get rid of your anxiety.
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is  protected and there is zero risk
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is protected and there is zero risk.
3. sharing hollow needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
Thank you.
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1. Mutual masturbation does not put you at any risk of HIV
2 As long as the condom remains intact, it is safe, regardless of its expiry date. There is nothing like cracks or pinhole in the condom
3 Syphilis is 100% curable STD therefore if she had it in the past, it must have been cured. Condoms provide protection against Syphilis too anyway
4. Even if the condom was reused, it still is not an HIV threat if it is intact. Though very remote possibility, still we assume the reuse theory, it is not a risk for you if you performed oral with that
5. As long as the condom covers head of penis (urethra and foreskin if you have), you are safe, no matter how limp your penis was.
It looks that overall risk situation didn't exist. Further if your antibody test was done 3 months from your last exposure, it was conclusive and rules out your risk completely
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Thank you for the reassurance.
Is it even possible to reuse a condom, like rolling back up and put it back in the package? The guy stopped having sex when he penetrated. He just acted weird. And should I test from these events?

No, it's not possible. Testing is not necessary, you were never exposed to the virus.
Thank you very much

I reread the comments because I don't know English well.

To diver58: my hiv test was 3 months ago, so test was before events and during events I just had antibody test. How is that conclusive?

To mike_no: did you mean no testing from all 7 events?

I also have bit anxiety to catch hiv and can't fully enjoy sex. Therefore I always try to be safe as possible. Any advice for me to loose anxiety?

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