Worried

[chetra]

hi All i had a sexual intercurse with a CSW in Dubai like three months ago, after the encounter i had all the ARS Symptoms i came back to my country and did third generation antibodies test after exactly 12 weeks and the result came non reactive but I live in a third world country and i don't trust their labs so asked the girl to do a test in Dubai and fortunately her visa was expired so she had to the test to renew her visa, she did the test exactly after 78 days that sexual encounter with me she sent me the report and she was declared fit by government hospital in dubai and she renewed her visa. i don't know what kind of tests they do in dubai government hospitals but i belive they must be using some advance type of technology like 4th generation. so if she's not positive after 78 days of that encounter with me, is her test conclusive? i should not worry because the onlysex i had was with that CSW? or there is still a chance that test she did might have missed her infection she might still be positive and me too? sorry for my poor English

[GuitarRox]

This is hard to read how much the disorder of anxiety and possibly ocd that involves intrusive thoughts have impacted your life. Do they have mental health care where you are located? Today, they offer much online as well. Teleheath is quite popular for treatment. There are also many online resources as well. The place to start though is to deny yourself reassurance that you don't have HIV. We've stated the reasons why you don't but your brain has you hooked to keep you worrying and asking and ruminating. If you allow yourself to view the thoughts like any other random thought you have and float in and out without acting on them in any way (looking things up, retesting, going through everything over and over in your mind, asking us, asking your doctor, etc.), they will eventually go away. Asking and researching and overthinking feeds it to not go away. So you have to break from from the pattern. that's my 2 cents psycho babble pep talk. good luck

[CurfewX]

Your paranoia about the tests is not rational.  You tested HIV negative - this is not a complex test.  It is a standard laboratory test.  

Your partner tested negative 78 days after your encounter, which means she was negative at the time of your encounter and could not have given you HIV.  Move on from this event.  You do not have HIV.

[chetra]

i lost my job in dubai because I was scared i am infected, three months i didn't enjoy even a second of my stay in my home country, whenever i try to forget things and tell myself i am Allright  i get a symptom which is always listed is hiv symptom all over the internet, for example right now i have a lymph node, a rash on my chest, Psoriasis i lost almost 15kg of weight after that unfortunate encounter. now i am planning to go back to Dubai and apply for another job and for that i would have to get tested for hiv there and this makes me scared , always think of what if..she was newly infected with high viral load and it was first week of infection?  since she got tested after 78 days not three months? always think like this. i know i am wasting people time but one last question can a newly infected person infect others at her 6th or 7th days of infection?  i have heard it takes at least seven days?

[CurfewX]

I cannot help you with your irrational fears and anxiety.  No matter how many scenarios you think of, the fact is that your partner does not have HIV, and you (predictably) tested negative for HIV, and it is time to move on.  If you cannot do that, a visit to a mental health counselor is in order.

[Peaceful43]

You did not mention it was protected or unprotected sex .. but In all ways you are negative , beleive your test results also she did the test for renewal of her visa which was done which was done 11 weeks post incident and usually they are using advanced 4th generation test . Apply for new visa and move on you do not have hiv . Believe your results and her results ... symptoms you have related to anxiety , ignore it and move on .