Hi Al,
I’m a late 30’s happily married, heterosexual male. Exactly two weeks ago, I had my first encounter with a guy I met online. He told me he was openly gay and in a relationship. When I asked if he was “clean” he stated that he was, or his boyfriend would have killed him by now (I didn’t ask about last test, specific diseases, etc).
My risk factors are:
- Receptive unprotected deep-throating with ejaculation (as I recall, the semen was never in my mouth, it was on the back of my tongue/down my throat). Can that be considered a high risk exposure for HIV infection?
- Insertive unprotected oral with ejaculation.
- I fingered and rimmed his anus. The issue there was I had a two day old burn (probably second degree) towards the base of my index finger. I had popped the blister the afternoon before, but part of the dead blister/dead skin that had formed the blister remained over some of the exposed skin. The skin that was exposed was pinkish-orange and I noticed it would occasionally ooze a clear liquid. Would a burn at this point and in this state still be considered an open wound? If it came in contact with rectal secretions, would this be high risk exposure?
- Receptive rimming and anal fingering. What is the risk if his finger was bleeding and I was bleeding (I have a few hemorrhoids)?
- The head of my penis was pressed against his anus two different times for no more than two to three seconds each. I don’t believe any portion went in, but if the very tip happened to enter, would that be considered a high risk exposure? Also, I need to be worried about any potential blood, etc. that may have been outside of his anus?
I freaked out the next day and asked him if I should go to a doctor, but he didn’t respond. All he said was that it turns out that he came down with a bad cold, so I would most likely get that and then he went silent. Now I’m freaking out that it wasn’t a bad cold at all and that he was actually in the process of seroconversion. is this an unfounded fear? Do all these risks taken together increase my chances of infection if indeed he was positive? I’m absolutely terrified that I may have infected myself!