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I’m afraid I might be HIV+

So about three weeks ago to date, I had sex with a prostitute for the first time, $100 for 30mins. She told me to bring condoms so I did. Long story short, we had sex for maybe 10-15 minutes, because I was so nervous and scared I never got a full erection. I did ejaculate inside the condom and continued for 3 more strokes (still flaccid) and then I was done. From what I could tell the condom did not slip off or break. I took it off tied it and threw it in the trash. I immediately felt guilty and ashamed and in complete disbelief as to what I just had done. I rushed home and washed my self with anti-bacterial hand soap. Feeling foolish I just threw all of my clothes off and took a shower..
it has now been 3 weeks since the encounter and I’m extremely terrified, at week 1.5 I got tested for all STDs including Gonnoreah and Chlamydia because I was feeling some testicular discomfort but everything came back negative. They did an ultrasound and found two small cyst but told me not to worry about it. Then I felt some tingling on the head of my penis. Not the tip but where the penile glands are. I only felt it when my pants were on, but when I take them off I didn’t feel anything( I’m circumsized) the doctor took A look and said she didn’t see anything unusual or out of the norm. She instructed me to wait 3 days for any lesions, bumps, ulcers etc. and if I didn’t see anything after those 3 days to celebrate because it’s not herpes. 4 days past and nothing. By the 2nd day the feeling was gone. With no rash or ulcers or new bumps on my penis. Over the past 3 weeks I have had some extreme depression, anxiety, stress etc. everyday all I wanted to do was climb back in my bed and not wake up. Every little thing feels like a symptom. One night I couldn’t sleep out of fear of contracted something, I kept waking up sweating( not drenched in sweat, just mild) and panicking. Our room is naturally blazing hot because we have no A/c but we did have 3 fans on that night, and I still slept under a comforter. I also had another panick attack on the bus one day, my heart started racing and immediately drunk some water and felt 10times better. I had diarrhea for 2 days, I couldn’t get an erection for 4 days, and I couldn’t even think about sex. I lived in fear every waking moment. Constantly online looking at symptoms and checking my body and genital region every second of the day. I just want to know what’s the likelihood of me catching HIV from this prostitute? If she even has it? I tried texting her and reaching out to her and I’m getting no response obviously. I’m deathly afraid and this is all I can think about. If there was a whole in the codom could I still contract anything from her? Could the condom break and I not even know it? I’m freaking out! Everyone I talk to about the situation tells me not to worry because all the other results came back negative and I wore a condom, but what about those symptoms? What if the condom failed without me knowing? I need help!!
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366749 tn?1544695265
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You had protected sex and protection means protection. If the condom does not fail during sex, it provides 100% protection against HIV, and yours did not fail too. So you have no reason to worry about, you are absolutely fine. It is not the infection or risk of infection that keeps you disturbed, but your guilt. So relax and move on with your life normally
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20821760 tn?1523370304
You shouldnt worried since you had a protected sex with condom which means no risk for hiv.
Symptoms can be due to other things beside hiv and never used to diagnosed hiv.
Only a blood test will be able to diagnosed hiv when done in a proper tme frame outside the window period.
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