possible exposure with hiv+ person with condom

[badgerboy2006]

I am 20 years old.  Last night I had protected anal sex with a guy who is HIV+.  I was the bottom and he was the top.  I found out after we had sex that he was HIV+ and he said his viral load is undetectable (not sure what that means).  I am almost positive that the condom did not break during sex.  I am very worried that even if the condom didn't break or did break that I am now positive myself.  Can someone offer some insight to what my chances of getting infected by this one time encounter with a person who is HIV+, protected anal sex, and me being the bottom.

thanks!

[mike_no]

You are doing what Vance told you - "What ifs".

Condom breakages are evident. You don't need to test and NO, a test result, 25 days post exposure wouldn't give you a conclusive result. For some one with a REAL exposure, the best bet would be a 6 week post exposure - Indicative result (6 week changing ahead is very unlikely) and a 12 weeks post exposure for a conclusive.

I think, this is the best we could do for you. You have 2 options, either to accept the rational advice we offer you or traumatize yourself, embrace the ordeal, endure the window period and test to find out a negative and realize "Should have heard these guys". You decide.

Good Luck.

[badgerboy2006]

Mike, thanks for the clarification.  I am really worried after the encounter.  I had trouble sleeping all night.  I am almost certain that the condom did not break.  He told me later that he rechecked the condom a couple of times to make sure.  I am just worried that somehow there was a chance of exposure.  When should I go get tested?  After 25 days?  Is that enough time to go get tested?

[badgerboy2006]

Thanks for the reply!  I am just not positive about whether the condom actually prevented the transmission.  What worries me is the fact that he is hiv+.  When should I go get tested?  I read somewhere that 25 days after exposure should be able to detect antibodies.  Is that true?

[mike_no]

What Vance said and just in the interest of your awareness and other posters who aren't aware - An HIV positive individual being 'undetectable' on viral load doesn't mean that he or she has a changed sero-status / cured. It only means that they are still HIV positive. However, with no to very low viral genetic material multiplication in their blood samples.

You wore a condom and it didn't break, you are okay.

[Vance2335]

Oh and we don't answer "What ifs" so please don't ask "what it the condom broke".

[Vance2335]

Protected sex is safe sex, you had no risk. Had the condom broken you probably would have known and he would have known.