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So, question . . .

So, do you consider getting all dolled up and sexy for your partner a labor of love with emphasis on the labor or the love part?  

Is it work to get 'hot' for the man in your life or do you still enjoy it?
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973741 tn?1342346373
When I was dating my husband, I'd take like 2 hours to get ready.  OMG.  I can't even believe that anymore.  I now am showered, dressed and all made up in 20 minutes tops.  

Sometimes getting 'sexy' is a bit of work for me.  I'll admit it.  I don't always feel sexy from the inside out so it is hard to get the outside to look that way.  Luckily my husband still seems to appreciate the efforts I do make . . .  but I feel a little bad I don't do more.  I go for comfort over sexy in the clothing department too.   Am I a bad wife?  
1580318 tn?1550258081
Haha I remember those days. Taking forever to get ready.

Now I'm lucky if I can get a shower in. It's really hard to have a shower with an almost 3 year old that's as smart as a whip. He knows how to unlock the deadbolt on the door. We have a screen door as well that has a latch. But he can also unlock that. He just grabs the chair, gets up and unlocks the doors. He's actually escaped a couple times. Good thing hubby was home to see. It could have been disastrous.

I rarely get all dolled up now. I'll dress nice for him on the weekends sometimes. But rarely do I put make up on unless it's for a special occasion. Hubby loves it when I do dress up for him, so I try as often as I can. But I too prefer comfort.

That does not make you a bad wife. Clearly your husband still loves you and that's what counts
6990909 tn?1435279416
Oh yeah, getting dolled up and sexy...like before kids?  Um, not so much.  If we are going somewhere I take an extra few minutes to pick out my outfit.  I am not one to leave the house without makeup, so that is always a given.  It is so funny to read this because I was just thinking the other day and was amazing myself that I get showered and ready and out the door in 25 minutes or less.  I have gotten lazy by scrunching hair while wet or throwing it up in a knot/bun.  If I blow dry and straighten then add an extra ten min or so.  Yes, it used to take a minimum of 1 1/2 hours.
We just had our 21 year wedding anniversary and he still thinks I look good (I do not think so....esp sans clothing).
Does these mean I am getting old and lazy or that my priorities have changed?  I think priorities have changed but also think I have gotten a little lazy in the "looking hot" dept.  Thanks for bringing this up and reminding me that I need to step it up every once in awhile.
973741 tn?1342346373
Maybe it is just a status of where we are in life.  I know that sometimes it's mid morning on a Saturday and I walk by a mirror and am like "uhhhh . . .   who is that" but my husband hasn't batted an eye.  If I were him, I'd be thinking "lady, brush your hair" but he just acts like it's all normal and fine.  Hard to argue with that.  LOL  I remember when I got all 'fancy' as my kids say and my son goes "mama, you've got black crayon around your eyes".  Ha.  
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