dating

[Lyn116]

I'm a carrier , had 2 sons but they're OK was vaccinated right after born.   I'm divorce now for 2 years  and wanted to date again but was afraid of being a carrier . I'm 39 y.o.  I don't want to date wothout  telling the truth. Was any of you there date somebody even though you are positive and did you tell the one you date.  share your experience pls.

[nic2012]

Do not tell him.you will lose him.this i can assure you bc i have been there.even if he stays  with u it will be out of pitty he will  not love ubthe way he would have if u were not a carrier.trick him to be vaccinated.

[dawida28]

flyinsky
very true...most people in africa only think the way of getting this disease is by being promiscous,and when some relatives know abt someones status u become an outcast,not knowng such a disease like hbv is highly infectious and one can get it through many ways....i think they lack knowledge and awareness..

[flyinsky]

to jrai

my origines are not from europe(north africa)just i have the chance to have a comprehensive husband ,but you re right in this, theeuropeans are open minded  ,and when they love somone they loved him in hapiness and sadness and support him,also for ex for hep b they know if one partener is comtaminated and the other is protecxted no probleme
For me only my mam and 2 sisters who know about this even my faTher and brother dont know

,because i know how they think

[dawida28]

its true jrai2014,most people in third world countries lack awareness,its hard to be accepted when u have such a disease.But i believe if someone loves you he will stand by you no matter what,u can explain to them about the vaccine and that they will not be infected when immuned.
I thank God my husband is understanding and supporting me too....though my case is very confusing bcoz only the hbc tested positive and all other are negative.
I wish all human beings could be understanding coz for sure nobody would want to have such diseases bt again we dont choose our fate,and i believe God has a reason for everything.

[jrai2014]

In Europe and in the West they seem to accept anyone and its cool, but here in the east it's a different ball game! Like health_India said it's hard for people in or world to face day to day live. They look at you like you are......................................................................... but we all are fighting or own battle, they too (these without HBV) have their own challenge in life. as it is written  


Jesus said............. He causes the sun to rise on good people and on evil people, and he sends rain to those who do right and to those who do wrong.  (Matthew 5:45)

Everyone has their own challenge in life, but the way people treat another people makes a lot of different. So do pray for all the people around the world who are not so privilege like you guys in Europe and in the West, that they may also get love and support they deserve.


If we have the love of God, even though the hard rock, rain or storm may come on  us

[flyinsky]

no no i  am against your opinion at all
if some one loves you really he accepts you as you are
i amhep b carrier maried 2 child i didn t know that i have hep b but when i knew its me who asked my husband devorce because i dont want to hm to suffer ,but my husband refuse and he told me any one can have hep b or any other illness ,this is disteny ,and he asked me if its him who has this illness ,will i leave him?i tell him no
so he loves me too much and we live like any couple and wants more children from me
it come one day where you find a comprehensive and beloved person

[health_india]

hi , i am 38 year old female with HEP B without any health problems , i too feel it is very hard on our life that to find someone who will be able to understand our feeling . first of all dating itself we resist for fear of failure and even though if we go ahead it is very likely that one get rejected if we tell about  our carrier status . I think people are ready to marry persons  with Dibetes ,Asthma ,thyroid or had family history of that but not to hepatitis carrier .

[la_mestiza_415]

That's a very good question... one that I am struggling with myself! I'm not dating anyone at the moment but there is someone who I really care about. He and I are friends and we are mutually attracted to each other. I am horrified at the thought of telling him about my Hep B carrier status. I've been rejected in the past and I do not want him to think of me as a disease.

[Shasher]

I am 41yrs old with a teenage daughter. i was diagnose with HBV several year ago breakup with my daughter's dad who is HBV too, since than it been so hard to find someone who really understand what it feels like living with this virus. I always find it easy to open up straight away but the reaction later is more painful

[cajim]

"If the person you will be dating has positive anti-HBs, that is best because it means immunity:  your HBV will be cleared. "

Sorry for the vagueness:  I meant if HBV enters a body with positive anti-HBs, the virus will be cleared by the immune system.

[bberry]

m not sure i would wait a few dates before i tell him. maybe just enough to feel comfortable and honest without regardless of the outcome..a date or two or however many it takes then tell him you have what you have and advise him of what he can do if he isnt immune already.

some guys dont like to wait for a "few " dates before they make their moves so be ware of what and be honest to the guy . if you feel things are moving on a faster pace thn you probably dont wanna wait too long to tell him..some people will, in the heat of the momnet, get into things that they will regret later. if that happens he will resent you forever..

[bberry]

"If the person you will be dating has positive anti-HBs, that is best because it means immunity:  your HBV will be cleared. "

you are suggesting sex with an anti-HBs postive person will give you a chance to clear HBV?

what are you stealing some of their antibodies during sex ?

i didnt get your statement and i find it puzzling sort of..

[NashPred]

Here is a link to an earlier thread regarding this very topic. Hope some of the responses to the following thread are helpful:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/587751

I would avoid discussing it until you have had a few dates and gotten to know each other better, but I would discuss it before anything more than casual contact. If the other person is really interested in you and is open minded to letting you educate him about your condition, then hopefully it won’t be much of an issue once he understands that he is not at risk as long as precautions are taken such as him being vaccinated or if he is already immune. Just make sure that he understands that HBV is very preventable in this day and age.

Wish I had better advice, but since I was diagnosed, I have only had to explain my situation to my wife and I would guess that this is a lot easier than trying to explain it to someone when starting a new relationship.

Best of luck.

[cajim]

If the person you will be dating has positive anti-HBs, that is best because it means immunity:  your HBV will be cleared.

If the person has negative anti-HBs and negative HBsAg, then get vaccinated.

If the person is also HBsAg positive, then both of you are carriers.