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392759 tn?1200786083

A silly question about Sex

I'm posting this because I had to tell someone about my stupidity and you folk are a long way away and tho you can I hope laugh at me on line u don't live next door to me.
Actually I can't pretend to be a shy wee thing I just need to laugh at my self for a different tragedy other than looking ridiculous climbing on my horses and for having trouble touching my toes at the moment ( O ;
This post is about SEX or the lack of to be more honest.
Just recently I met a younger man (oh oh) he loves horses (he's my farrier) handles them beautifully they relax under his hands shiveringly (is that a word)hmmmm
He started to chat to me lots when he did my horses feet and even ph me to see how my horses were doing wow a dedicated man you think?
HE loves Quarter horses their lush and big bums and chests and it turns out other big chested things.
We started flirting on line a new experience for me then.......... I freaked out and ran away when face to face.
This friendly Lad offered uncomplicated lover and friend sex and laughter  and I said no at the eleventh hour (Well it was more about 10.30 pm.
Why did I do this? OK not as flexible at the moment. Alright, he was prepared to work with that.
Up and down like a yo yo pardon the pun . (and the man likes yo yo's)
I certainly could do with the exercise and recreation.
OK I did have a devastating break up with my partner of some years who told me he loved me right up to the minute he decided he loved 2 of us and wanted me to accept a woman into our lives I didn't even like very much.(Mid life crisis) when I was on meds and couldn't be clear about any thing.
But past herstory aside why am I doing this strange thing of saying no to a bit of loving fun with some one I like?
Am I now just wanting an mono sexual life with only myself for thrills and titillation (sorry had to throw that word in what can I say I'm obviously extremely immature)
Now I can see how silly this post is but is there a healthy sexual drive after hepc that goes beyond your self once in a while?? back out into the wider world or am I going to continue to feel like brave sir Robbin who bravely ran away away and bravely ran away. When danger rares its ugly head she bravely turned her tail and fled .......etc any one else scared to get back out there?
or is this just another tragic get over your self Linda the drama queen type situation???
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315996 tn?1429054229
BTW I don't have time for MFG
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HE loves Quarter horses their lush and big bums and chests and it turns out other big chested things.
We started flirting on line a new experience for me then.......... I freaked out and ran away when face to face.
This friendly Lad offered uncomplicated lover and friend sex and laughter  and I said no at the eleventh hour (Well it was more about 10.30 pm.
Why did I do this? OK not as flexible at the moment. Alright, he was prepared to work with that.
Up and down like a yo yo pardon the pun . (and the man likes yo yo's)
I certainly could do with the exercise and recreation.

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315996 tn?1429054229

No comprendo engles

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392759 tn?1200786083
DUH I C
ACRONYMS BAIC 2 Me TDMATBICPLM
BTW I don't have time for MFG
TTFN
Linda who's SITD about ACRONYMS

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315996 tn?1429054229

ROFLMAO:
"Rolling on the floor laughing my *** off"

heh

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264233 tn?1216342315
and all this time i thought they were telling me the truth when they called me your the best  :O)

p.s.  is it ok to peek .   .O)
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The last guy I slept with kept laughing at various points...I finally couldn't help it...I started laughing too.  I'm thinking that's the ROFLMAO position. ;->
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392759 tn?1200786083

To Bill
"Coincidentally, he ran his final exhibition run in my little hometown in California at Tanforan Park."
Oh my god Bill what can I say....
THat is almost a great significance of cosmic proportions (o;
is it fate?
if so we should probably be aware he returned home and ended out being stuffed and mounted in my closest bigger town of Brisbane HMMM.
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To Alagirl
"Yeah, I tried that and had found I had to quit, I was such an expensive date.  I wouldn't put out for less than lobster, a fillet and a bottle of opus..."
Good for you woman, I, on the other hand, according to ex lovers other than myself am an incredibly cheap date.
I don't drink very often at all,so a glass of cold beer on a hot sultry Aussie night under starry skies has me rolling around in giggles and I'm apparently very easy at that point.
Oh I obviously have a lot to learn.(o:
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Is Roflmao a new sexual position we colonials down under haven't heard of yet? (o;
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Scratch
Seriously..I've found there's nothing quite like sharing my partners experience of me experiencing mine like eye gazing while loving.
"flattering" well it sure touches you every where.
But I thought this was a blith little bit of coltish fun with each other If your going to get serious could take us to a whole new level. ( O :
Seriously yours and a touch of tounge in cheek.
Linda the kiwi chick from down under.... (the rest of the world that is not farriers)
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315996 tn?1429054229

ROFLMAO

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264121 tn?1313029456
well over the years I have developed a pretty on going relationship with myself
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Yeah, I tried that and had found I had to quit, I was such an expensive date.  I wouldn't put out for less than lobster, a filet and a bottle of opus...
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315996 tn?1429054229

Smile while you are having sex. If the other partner has their eyes open, it is very flattering. I'm not one for the "oh baby baby" look. Again, it might be just me. A smile goes a long way.

I'm thinking one notch above a Mona Lisa smile. Backed way off of the "sh!t eating grin".

seriously

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87972 tn?1322661239
Quite an interesting story about PharLap, Linda. Coincidentally, he ran his final exhibition run in my little hometown in California at Tanforan Park. Quite the beast, he was; noted worldwide for his stamina, by the way!

Did I tell you I adore horses? (Well, not until today, to be honest :o)). Now if I can just suppress the urge to grab the next Quantas flight south…

Oh, and don’t worry about the nuns- let them find their own stallions…

Bill
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392759 tn?1200786083


To Bill
In Australia we would say Hiyoooo Pharlap
(which is very appropriate for me cause I think he immigrated here from NZ too)
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To Alagirl
   " this would depend mightily upon how good you are at sex with yourself..."
well over the years I have developed a pretty on going relationship with myself and I never have to explain to me exactly how and where to place the finger on the button and I never put the hard word on if I've got a head ache ( O ;
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jmjm and Alagirl
"People HAVING sex are frequently funny, and almost universally they make funny faces. "
I'm sure looking into the depths of some ones eyes while they're making funny faces can be very touching and heart felt....
any way I do enjoy a good giggle some times while making love so occasionally funny faces really do it for me.
Harry proves the point. His wife obviously enjoys a giggle while hmmm and seemingly hasn't had enough of his face as she apparently felt compelled to take a photo of her wild stallion during an obviously tender moment between them then posted it for all of us to see, how sweet ( O ;
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and "what else does one say when they constantly keep calling out someone else's name?"
I just give my fellas nick names to start with like "gorgeous man"or "big boy" (they've particuarly liked that one)
you know like- "Come here and do that gorgeous man".
that way they all have the same name and you never need to wake up with a start some hours later and wonder whose name you called out in the throws.
But saying you have a multiple personality disorder works too and in point of fact isn't too far from the truth for me right now.
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and Scratch
er ok I guess if my hand is numb the right hand won't know what the left hand is doing huh?
good plan.Thanks for the worldly advice people the nuns would be proud if they could read me now ( O ;
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315996 tn?1429054229
LOL I can only answer that this would depend mightily upon how good you are at sex with yourself... you know, how thrilling that is and all...  Mostly, for me its just funny and to describe it further would give cheap thrills to a non-paying audience...

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If you are going to have sex with yourself, use your left hand (if you are right handed) and sleep on your arm first until it is numb.




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264121 tn?1313029456
Just to cover myself, I find it helpful to tell my date I have multiple personality disorder to cover for any embarrassing gaffes with name substitutions.  That usually takes care of the first six months or so.... It can get a bit more diffficukt to explain after that.
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Ala: I find it helps to keep my eyes closed and hope that they aren't one of those, "why don't you open your eyes?"
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I find myself saying "why don't you open your eyes" all the time -- but what else does one say when they constantly keep calling out someone else's name?
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372366 tn?1284403873
Enough about my face, How'd you know.

Harry
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264121 tn?1313029456
Questions about sex are seldom funny and most of us are happy to answer them here as they get us away from the every day drudgery of tx.  

People HAVING sex are frequently funny, and almost universally they make funny faces.  I find it helps to keep my eyes closed and hope that they aren't one of those, "why don't you open your eyes?" types.  Explaining to someone that they make stupid questions during sex never bodes well....
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264121 tn?1313029456
Am I now just wanting an mono sexual life with only myself for thrills and titillation (sorry had to throw that word in what can I say I'm obviously extremely immature)
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LOL I can only answer that this would depend mightily upon how good you are at sex with yourself... you know, how thrilling that is and all...  Mostly, for me its just funny and to describe it further would give cheap thrills to a non-paying audience...

My personal opinion?  Get it however and whenever you can, and just thank any deity you can think of that you (and the farrier of course) are in a position to feel like "doing it" in the first place.  I puked on the last guy I tried to have sex with.  It didn't stop him mind you, but still, it did take a little of the enjoyment out of it for me...

I'm surprised Goofy hasn't chimed in yet, running commentary on naked women seldom finds him far away lol ;)
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87972 tn?1322661239
Hiyooooo, Silver!!
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392759 tn?1200786083
Yeah jmjm I always listen to the mum living in my head.
I'm used to being with my partner of some years, believe me if I did decide to jump on a  different mount the helmet would be placed very appropriatly on the head.
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If he's interested, I wouldn't give the age difference a second thought.  But given what you've been through with HCV, I'd listen to MUM and ride with a saddle. Lots of STDs out there on the range. If you still can't get over the hump -- so to speak -- then maybe some counseling as I think what you're experiencing is probably very common and very correctable. And yes, we still want details as things develop :)

-- Jim
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96938 tn?1189799858
I saw that movie too.  It turned out well in the end.  Good luck
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392759 tn?1200786083

Dearest people
Thank you so much for your posts to me around my post that was lets face it not really a serious med issue
(feeling some shame here, not)
I just accidentally posted it on the wrong forum then tried to cover my arse (quite a task at the moment)
JMJM I nearly piddled myself when I read your first post most appropriate of you thanks.
and I'm sure Harry (who lets face it if his photo is any thing to go on is a bit of a spunk really)
was having a little chuckle at me at the obvious point that Id just put my sensitive business or lack of it out there for every one to see.
I really need to laugh at my self at the moment, endorphins and all that you know( O ;
LL you get my sick attempts to laugh at myself it seems.
Good news my sex drive IS alive and running ...that's the problem really, It's running has slipped towards my feet with a few other bits of me.
My feetseem to have turned cold around a subject I've put allot of study into and been very dedicated to researching most of my life really,or till recent freak out any way. (which unfortunately is tragically real)
OH yes I think it is purely a psychological problem jmjm or more about one of ego possibly
My body seems to of really gone south and the expression gravity sucks is really starting to make sense to me. ) O ;
I did go through early menopause while on meds which I thought was great! now I can have the thrills with out having to worry about the consequences of the spills.
I can ride bare back now most of the time (of course I'll be careful mum) if I can just get my balance right (O;
I just need to regain the courage to get back on the steed.
I think this problem felt more full on to me cause this guy is about 15 yrs younger than me
(what is he thinking)and jmjm feel free to comment on this in your very appropriate way if u wish.
I think I'd feel way more comfy shopping in the grand father isle at our local IGA
I don't really want menopause to mean the pausing of men except for if the men pause my atheritic knee joints due to riding pegasys won't have too much trouble keeping up with them.
I'm sure if I laugh at myself a little bit more I'll get over it and soon I'll be singing "I'm back in the saddle again"
Aroha linda.( O :


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250084 tn?1303307435
And if you think that was a 'silly sex question'.......go back thru some past post !! :}

LL
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