I really feel for you and your husband. I witnessed my best friend go through something very similar. He was an alcoholic and developed stomach cancer. They removed his entire stomach and 1.5" of his esophogus as a result. He became very depressed and started drinking very heavy after that. Almost straight alcohol with a little soda to add color. Everyone tried to talk to him and I even had a major argument with him where I screamed at him and told him to look at what he was doing to himself and to think about what this was doing to his poor wife. It was really hard on her. We basically watched helplessly as he drank himself to death. It was very sad, we had been best friends since we were in elementary school. Even though we lead totally different lives (he drank and I did not) we stayed very close all those years. In NJ we could not have him committed to a detox against his will which is what he needed. In the end his eyes turned yellow, then his skin until he ended up in Intensive care. I will carry that pain around for the rest of my life. The only hope is if he stops drinking. Unfortunately unless your husband realizes he has a problem and wants to get help to stop drinking you may have a rough road ahead of you. He needs to realize he can not do it alone he needs to get help, my friend said all the same things. His wife hid the keys and took his credit cards away but still he managed to find money (he had it hidden) and would walk miles to the liquor store as soon as she left. I am not trying to depress you but reading your story really brought back the feelings of what his wife and I went through. I will pray for you.
You brought tears to my eyes. I do know what is ahead after living years of this. I feel like I am sitting on railroad tracks and waiting for the train and the impact. Many times he has said he knows he has a problem. This time with not sleeping for days he was SO desperate and said he wants to stop and he said it is a choice but than he drank the same day he told me he was done. He also told the Dr. HE was done and it was finally for HIM not for someone else. Only for him to drink last night and the night before. His excuse is he needs to sleep and the medicine is not helping. There is always an excuse no matter what you do. He has no control over this at all anymore. I know with him losing 22lbs (that seems to really slap me in the face where we are now) we are not headed down a good path. People tell me to leave him, I don't know what to do. I know if I leave him he will drink, if I stay he will drink. This is INSANE. I am calling the Dr. this morning to see if the labs are in and we will go from there. I am very very sorry you have that pain with you but KNOW that he is out of pain now, seriously ...he hated it too and he is finally NOT suffering so I hope you can find peace with that. Sometimes I wish my husband would just be out of pain.
First of all, this is a patient to patient forum, with no doctors present. Most of us are Hepatitis C patients, and by no means medical experts. Anything you read here should be validated by a qualified physician.
Your husband could have any number of things going on with him; it sounds as if his doctor is moving forward in a methodical manner. The blood tests should help him paint a better picture of your husband
Just a couple of quick thoughts to add. It sounds to me like you
you are in a tough spot. My buddies wife went through the same things that you going through and had all the same feelings of helplessness. She wanted to leave him but could not. I imagine you will be no different. If you stay your life is miserable if you leave you will you will have the guilt of walking out on him. It is easy for people to tell you what to do but it is not an easy decision any way you slice it. Hopefully he will decide to get help he can not do it alone. He will need an inpatient treatment. The excuses will never stop they never do. They also can not do it alone. I pray for you.
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