Just a note to let you know that although the days pass quickly, I know the pain takes a lot longer.... Hope you're doing as well as can be expected... Sincere best wishes to you and your family.
I told the doc either get me something or him either way it's a good thing....hugzzz tinab
WHEW!
I was begenning to worry about you, you hadn't checked in for a few hours, I thought maybe you had to kill him LOL! I am only kidding.
Now that you got him the drugs, make sure he takes them. If he won't take them, then you take them......at least someone will feel better LOL!
Good Luck!
Tina
LOL You guys are so funny, Made me feel better. I called the doc and got him some D R U G S!!! Some of your stuff just cracked me up...Fubar beating the dog with a dishrag , with a PB sandwich in his mout O MY GOSHHHH....too funny...
Thanks everyone!
It is hard to understand the actions, words...the rage. Even though I had been through two previous tx before my hubby did his tx, it was difficult to remember it is meds.....I felt so lonely sometimes because he just did not "let me in" during his phase with tx....and I tried to remind him of all that when I went through my last round of tx recently......You are in my thoughts, girl.....just make sure you unload here if you need to........
HA HA HA...i TOLD YAH SOOOOOOOOOO oh babe....hang in sweetie we all know what your going through to an extent....but mi amiga, yo comprenda....mi amour..una picito...lets go....you know i am there....mexico....costa rica.....where ever...but i have talked to him, he's a great guy and loves you and liv so much....its an adjustment period, he WILL mellow and settle into the meds babe.....rememeber...he hasn't had the research behind him like you do and have to understand the severity of whats going on, your all just gettin used to it right now...your a good ol girl and a tough ol babe....you CAN DO THIS......and when it gets to tough...you know my address and i'll pick you and liv up at the airport for a wee break.....you'll be okay honey...no one is as dedicated and your ability to express freaked out frustration is a great thing....vocalise vocalise vocalise......as long as you feel safe to have a comfort zone you'll be okay...you were there for me and several others, you';; be ther for him too sweetie......and then there is ALWAYS the kimmy 'get away' if needed....hang in
love yah tons girl
kimmy......
p.s. just got back from open stage and am up 'if yah needd me...call me'....hey sounds like a good ol blues standard.....
When I first started tx I noticed I was extremely short tempered. I had a couple of road rage incidents where I blasted my wife for making some driving suggestions. I'm laidback, normally, and this was very out of character for me.
The good news is that after the first month it seemed to subside. I am more "touchy" but try to bear it in mind that the meds can and will affect me. It's unfortunate that the ones we love bear the brunt of some of the sx.
Wishing you all the best and hoping that things lighten up.
Gulfcoast.
CALL HIS DOCTOR!!! Insist (DO NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER) on some Ativan (filters through the kidneys instead of the liver) and when you get it, shove about 1mg down his throat ASAP! You should feel much better in about an hour LOL.
My man is on Lexapro (that takes a while to build up in the system) marinol (that works if you take enough LOL) and Ativan (for a quick fix)
He takes 5mg of the Lexapro in the a.m. and another 5 mg about noon, he takes the ativan around 6 at night, or sooner if his day sucks. He skips the Marinol many days.
Girl, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about........he looks like your man......he sounds like your man.......and when you touch him he even feels like your man.......but boy when he starts spewing that **** he looks and acts like the devil himself.
My man was on Xanax the first go......not any AD's at all. Talk about a house of horrors. I really think the AD's in combination with the Ativan or Xanax is the way to go.
This is where you MUST take control and get the doc or nurse on the phone. If they only want to give you AD's, demand an anti-anxiety / nerve (Xanax/Ativan) med as well because I can guarantee you it will NOT get any better until you intervene.
If you think he is bad now
Yes, get him to the Doc right away. I know, I was there.
If you don't he most likely will either hurt you or himself, or others.
No kidding. This is no joke.
This is serious and life threatening.
He is not responsible for his behaviour and you have to remember that. Please, please call today, right now.
There is no shame or weakness in asking for help. Don't take no for an answer from him or the doc.
Call right now.
I almost lost my life from this and it is critical that you call right away and get him some meds.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I remember having a rage so bad that I was yelling and stomping my foot to make my point and after it was all over, I thought "Who the hell was THAT person?" Another time I chased the dog through the house trying to beat him with a dish rag because he stole a PB&J sandwich out of my hand. Anyway, the good news is that Ol' Mr. B will "adjust" in a few weeks. He still won't be the person he was before he started two weeks ago, but he will most likely learn to deal with his rages better. I noticed the longer I'm on treatment, the more apathetic I get. I'm not sure that not caring about anything is any better than having rages, but at least I'm not screaming my head off. Unless, of course, my kid tells me he doesn't like what I just served him for breakfast - like this morning. He got a bit of a rage for that one.
Rages generally last only a few minutes, so take a deep breath and remember, you are along for the ride with him, and sometimes it just ain't pretty. Thank God he has you to help him through it.
haha If you really want to get something going,,,while the rage is in process,,,Laugh..Of course anyone out there on tx or been there done it...knows,,,,that,,,you can either be raged or laughing at times,,,kinda like you lost it! The person going through the rage,,,well you know,,,face is distorted and you really can't hear them,,,Just See Them! I sometimes laugh so hard that it does break the rage and my husband will start cracking up and we realize what we are doing!!
Sher,,,Tell him to behave or we will stick him out on the front line in his rage armed with his pink pills only LOL
YOU are a tough lady. You know how to get what you need to take care of your family. Just do it. Let your "family" here guide you through this. They won't steer you wrong.
Always,
Jamie
Getting your hubby to a Dr is good advice, but if he won't agree could you get him to read this Forum? He may be able to see himself and his actions a little more clearly if he reads about others beahing the same way?
Very best of luck to you and your fmaily.
Luck for me, my DH didn't take Riba...just the Peg Intron and cleared anyway.
Thank GOD b/c he is full of rage on a daily basis, anyway. I think his doc was scared to put him on it--didn't want to be responsible for any mass murders.
Hey Sher, maybe you could send him out here and have him deal with my a****** neighbor?
Just a serving suggestion, but maybe getting Billy on generous helpings of B vitamins and magnesium could help chill him out a bit. And then there's the leafy green stuff, most helpful during the entry period.
buckle up the rage rules smile and agree Yes dear becomes your fav words
It will get worse before it gets better so smile
good luck darling Daryl
ahhh yes the Rage...
i was married for only one year when we found out...on the 2nd year of marriage i did tx....she not only was just getting to know me...but there was another persona that she had to deal with and i did not even know this one,,...antivan...member of the valium family...rx for .5 mg...did two sometime three a day but that was after 4 month into tx....what a nightmare tx is..
and yes stll married...but it was very trying for the S. O.
I THINK IF HE GETS SOMETHING TO HELP HIS RAGE...KEEP HIM CALM ALITTLE.
THE MEDS JUST CAUSE IT TO HAPPEN...
I HAD IT BAD FOR AWHILE...ALWAYS WANTED TO RIP ANYONES FACE OFF!
I DID LEARN THOUGH THAT ITS THE MEDS..I KEPT TELLING MYSELF THAT..
ALTHOUGH MY ANGER DID SEEM POINTED AT ANYONE.
I TOOK XANAX...ATIVANS...
BE WELL,
LIZE
i am declaring spousal riba rage week.....i get to be the queen, well maybe tinab or christie but i get to be something
hahaha Its been 2 weeks and you are leaving???? Okkk,,call the Dr and get you some AD's....
Would I be mean to say I'm heading to Mexico ...see ya in 46 weeks....food in the fridg!!! Your loving and knowledgable wife,Sher