Why do people close to you kick u when you're down?

[outthere22]

My story: HCV positive genotype 3 stage 2--just found out in November 2008.  29 yo mother of 2...husband is a total ********* and decided to leave me for my best friend of 7 years...he came back, why I let him I don't know?....only to tell me that he no longer loves or likes me and dosen't want to be with me anymore, ..I was scared and started tx ( Peginteron sot 1 per wk, riba 2 pills 2 times per day) i have been having side effects that are getting worse, as I am moving into the halfway point...the mouth sores are the latest....what can i do for them?  and am I wrong to think that my husband could have just sucked it up until I am done with treatment?

Thanks for reading i just need a friend who understands what I'm going through...Amanda

[outthere22]

Thanks, for the encouraging words...y'all are right...

[GreatBird]

IMHO "people" don't kick you when you're down, "axxhats" do. Treatment gives us a great opportunity to shed ourselves of dead and ugly relationships because we just don't have the time, patience, and wherewithall to put up with that krap. So let go of him and he will go away. (Maybe he'll need a bit of a shove.)

Hope you feel better.

[Rockerforlife]

I meant "can trust"

[Rockerforlife]

A blessing in disguise...your lucky he left before he could do more damage to you...things happen for a reason....i am totally alone while on this TX....i feel its better this way...to you question

Why do people close to you kick u when you're down?


because they can,and always will...its just a bulit in trait most people are born with..if you find someone who you cant trust while on TX...the person is a true ANGEL

[Trish77]

He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would have been of much support to you while going through treatment so you're better off going through it on your own steam. You won't be depending on someone who won't be coming through for you and worse, someone you depend on who would probably walk out at the worst points of your treatment.  Focus on getting better and focus on you.  He is certainly focusing on himself so why give him your energies when you need them so badly for yourself right now?  When you are better, you can decide what you do from there.

Good luck.

[Magnum]

The most important thing is for you to get better, not to worry about other people, or should I say other losers. People without sympathy and compassion are not worth being in the same room as me.

Naturally, I know you feel alone without him and that's probably the motivation for taking him back. I think back to John Wayne Bobbit and what his wife did. But if you did, I couldn't blame you. Kidding aside, you'll be fine as long as your keep your head about you while others around you lose theirs. Hang in there, you will make it...

Magnum

[GSDgirl]

A mixture of liquid benadryl & maalox works great.  Sorry to hear about the marital troubles.  He sounds like a looser anyway JMHO

Denise

[newleaf09]

Sorry here, too.  You are in for a very self-absorbed time, which is natural.  Sorry you will probably be obsessing on the bad personal situation.  You will move on in time but it's kind of hard to while on tx.  

Try any kind of mouth wash 3 times a day.  I'm trying the Biotene but Listerine would probably do as well.  Also got a lidocaine swish prescription, which at least makes eating less unpleasant.  No tomatoes or acid stuff like o.j.  Keep using the mouthwash even if it feels better.  I think it helps heal faster.  In my case, I think the mouth sores are related to low platelets and hope they will stay away once that improves.

[Marc1955]

It sounds like you have a very heavy burden to carry. If my experience is anything to go by, this treatment strains even the healthiest relationships. If your relationship was not in a good place to begin with, it doesn't surprise me that it wouldn't survive treatment. Maybe your husband should have sucked it up, but people don't. The treatment truly creates strains. Sorry you have to go through this alone, but it doesn't sound like he would have been much help and would only have added to your stress in the long run.

Best wishes.

[Bill1954]

Hi Amanda,

Sorry to hear you’re having problems with life; it can get challenging at times. I can’t help with marital problems, but you might try ‘Magic Mouthwash’ for the sores in your mouth. It’s a swish and swallow liquid that needs to be prescribed by a doctor, but works on contact. It contains lidocaine, Maalox, and Nystatin; it numbs on contact.

You can also try eating some yogurt; and there are things like Biotene toothpaste and rinse that seem to help some too.

I hope your life straightens out soon,

Bill