I'm so sorry you have had to go through all of this; but if I were you I would call it a lesson learned. Turn and walk away and never look back. I know that sounds harsh, but from what you've said, you care about him, he cares about him, and no one is caring about you.
Ann
Time to cut your losses of time, effort, money and frustration. Be compassionate from a good distance.
Addicts can the most deceitful people in the world. They have only one agenda. Getting high. They will tell you, doctors, support groups, clergy, etc - anything you want to hear as long as it allows them to keep on using and abusing. Sounds like he doesn't care what happens to him and will exhaust every possible resource to obtain the drugs. It's so sad but happens everyday. I think he's past the point of getting help, and luckily you are in the emotional recovery process and will continue to be a productive individual despite everything you've been through....My heart goes out to you and I wish you a happy life.
Trinity
I have a compassionate heart and I was totally in the dark about his past; I work in the medical field and the doctors here and I were discussing the way my husband was so easily treated his way; WE were just wanting to know if guidelines were out there for the kind of person my soon to be ex is.
I hope he did not put the arsenic in my blood; most ppl have a certain level. I am having to go through multiple test for this due to the fact of the cdc having to monitor water levels etc.
I have started psych therapy due to the fact of what I have been through. But I want to say I did not know he was actually chewing the patches or the snorting thing until he was gone. I would not have condoned such behavior. I believe in doing things right. I am embarrassed that this man abused the friends and family who tried with all their heart to make his quality of life better. Little did I know he had other interests. I did not mean to seem sympathetic to him but he has to be a very sick person besides the terminal illness he has do use hospice and doctors (family dr) to get what he wants.
I'm sorry but the thing that I picked up on was "arsenic in your blood"?
You didn't actually say but are you implying that he somehow did that to you?
Even if that was not the case then all the things that you allowed him to do to you were horrible.
Why did you allow all that and why are you still so concerned about him after all that he did to you?
I may be off base here but perhaps you should think more about yourself and your own need for counseling to answer the above questions?