hepatitis c & oral sex

[lisami1323]

First, let me apologize in advance as I am sure this question has been asked over & over & over again.  I have found this website to be a wonderful resource, and am excited to have finally created an account and have the opportunity to be a part of this.

I am currently in a relationship, that has recently become quite serious.  He is positive for Hepatitis C and I am not.  I do however, have HSV type 2.  Now, I am well aware of the risks that are associated with engaging in unprotected sex, especially when I am undergoing an outbreak.  I also realize the risk we both purpose to each other.  The question I have is in regards to oral sex.  Me performing oral sex to him.  This is something I want to do quite badly, and I would very much prefer NOT to utilize protection.  I have read many things regarding the trace of HCV (viral load) in semen.  And how all findings have been inconclusive regarding the transmission of HCV via oral sex and the ingesting of semen.

I was just hoping that someone could possibly share their experiences, perhaps in a long term monogamous relationship and/or marriage.  My partner is in no way pressuring me, this is just something that I have wanted to do for a while, but because I am a single mother; I have been too scared even if the possibility of transmission is extremely low.

Thank you so very much for taking the time in reading my post, and I TRULY look forward to any and all responses.

[leah_the_mighty]

i struggled with heroin addiction for 12 years. I was on & off the street, in and out of jails, hospitals, & institutions. Heroin is a different type of animal. Even more so than morphine believe it or not. Now, for the first time in my adult life I have a year clean & sober. I commend you if you truly cared for your child & put him first all the time. I have a beautiful 6 yr. old daughter and I cannot say that I did right by her ALL the time. The nature of addiction makes this impossible as far as i'm concerned. I know this is a hep C forum, but I read your recent post about your heroin addict friend and I had to try to talk some sense into you. Bottom line: If he has used recently and/or doesn't have some type of strong 12 step recovery program which includes a sponsor, he will continue to use or relapse and you will be in for a world of hurt. Most addicts put one thing before all else in their worlds - before family, lovers, friends, and children - their addiction. I'm sorry to say that I think you are being very naive for being an addict yourself, or else you are too caught up in puppy love and lust to think clearly, because you seem like someone who normally conducts themselves with some measure of intelligence. You say your son never paid the price for your addiction in the past, well, if you continue this relationship with a heroin addict who has a nice penis but no recovery, you'll have to cross that off your "never did that" list. I know I may sound like a b%tch, or a pessimist, or anti "true love" or whatever, but the truth is, I am a realist. And I have the life experience to back it up. Do yourself a favor and go find yourself a nice boy from your church with a real job, some stability, and with a track record that proves he could someday be a positive male figure in your son's life. At least think about it. And if you don't, just remember that anonymous chic from the hep forum who tried to stop you from walking off the edge of a cliff, when everything crashes and burns around you and him. Hopefully your son has a play date that day.

[lisami1323]

I just wanted to say thank you, for all of your responses, your time, and insight.  I TRULY am grateful. Thank you again.

[Trish77]

We joke around a lot in here but as was said by someone else, this IS  Hep C support forum and amidst all the joking we do, the information you came for was given.  Beyond that, your relationship and parenting issues are for another place other than here and not a whole lot to do with HCV - and if some want the "blow by blow" so to speak of your sexual adventures, they can send you a PM and ask and you're free to share all you want.

" I hope you continue to make your son the first and most important priority in your life. "

I can't really improve on that so the only thing I have to say is "ditto".

Best of luck sorting out your thoughts and emotions and good on you to be thinking of it from the perspective of what is best for your son.  Hold that thought.

Trish

[nygirl7]

LOL boy Lisami you are generous to dedicate yourself to this project for us! Kudos to you :D

And dont worry I was quite a successful addict (boy if only they would pay you for that how great life would be ha!) and took care of my kids as well - nobody in here would even think any different, we might be very silly but as much as I can tell everyone in here is a good person and doesn't do any judging.  hell if they do we get rid of them  ;)

4 rounds huh boy I remember those days - vaguely very faintly but I remember. The good old times, the golden ages.

Well keep us updated we are obviuosly enjoying living vicariously through you (some of us like me anyways ;)

[lisami1323]

This may also be a ridiculous question to ask; but by the end of the day, approaching the 4th round (unprotected) I noticed that we both seemed to develop a heat rash of sorts; around our groin areas.  There was no blood, it almost appeared to look like prickly heat.  Is this something I should even be giving a second thought?

Quick disclaimer: through all my surgeries, pain management & struggles with addiction (it was 3 yrs, not 5) ; I have been gainfully employed on a fulltime basis & have ALWAYS financially & emotionally provided for my son; he has & always will be my first & only priority...sorry I just needed to state that.

But back to my question; should I be concerned with sweaty rash on rash friction?  

And after giving it some thought; I really cannot imagine maintaining the mood while in the midst of sexual behavior attempting to sensually wrap a penis up in plastic wrap.  You know how clingy that stuff can be!! I think I might try it just for demonstration purposes.  I can return & give you a full report on that as well if you would like??!!

[willbb]

Well...glad you were able to focus on the task at hand and that everything came out ok  :)

I won"t comment on your situation ,as this IS  an HCV forum.other than to say I hope you continue to make your son the first and most important priority in your life.

Best to you....

Will