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I just had my first shot today and will start on the ribavirin tonight...what can I expect over the next couple of weeks in the area of sexdrive and other side effects? I am a newlywed and hope that this is something that we can get through without problems in the bedroom as well as my lashing out at my wife. Please give me some answers!!!
Very Nervous...
Very Nervous...
1.“what can I expect over the next couple of weeks in the area of sexdrive”
I think you are putting unfair expectations on your self by limiting it to a couple of weeks
2. “I am a newlywed and hope that this is something that we can get through without problems in the bedroom as well as my lashing out at my wife. Please give me some answers!!!”
Just tell her your tying something new by talking dirty to her and it will take quite a few weeks for her to adjust to it.
3.“I find that if there is a time in the day where I feel OK, to strike while the iron is hot. If I wait until late at night after the kids are in bed I will be to tired and probably asleep b4 them”
If she falls asleep first, try not to awaken her. They have a tendency to get mad if they wake up and catch you sneaking some in after they go to sleep.
4.“There are times when you barely feel you can lift your arms”
Limit foreplay to 2 thumps to the head.
I think you are putting unfair expectations on your self by limiting it to a couple of weeks
2. “I am a newlywed and hope that this is something that we can get through without problems in the bedroom as well as my lashing out at my wife. Please give me some answers!!!”
Just tell her your tying something new by talking dirty to her and it will take quite a few weeks for her to adjust to it.
3.“I find that if there is a time in the day where I feel OK, to strike while the iron is hot. If I wait until late at night after the kids are in bed I will be to tired and probably asleep b4 them”
If she falls asleep first, try not to awaken her. They have a tendency to get mad if they wake up and catch you sneaking some in after they go to sleep.
4.“There are times when you barely feel you can lift your arms”
Limit foreplay to 2 thumps to the head.
I believe the antidepressants do not help at all for me that is, I've been on lexapro 10mg daily for the past 5 months and definately a big change between me and my wifes relationship, not only in the bedroom but also our standard communication, it's like treatment is pushing us apart after only 6 years of marriage, i keep telling her it's the treatment but she kind of understands in a way and she doesn't. Hopefully once treatment is over we can get back what was lost. Tony
"If you have this, definitely get some, sleep aides, antidepressants, and tranquilizers."
Don't forget to tell him that most anti-depressants have sexual side effects.
Don't forget to tell him that most anti-depressants have sexual side effects.
even those who can't lift their arms can still manage to squeeze their 3rd leg!!!
do bears not still blank in the woods? hello?
I think operatively Davie, it's best if you get the wifey do be on top....one time when letting someone else do the work will seem entirely logical.
Just hope you don't get the skin thing. My skin got so touchy that even a pat on the hand felt like fingernails on a blackboard. It comes from the jumpiness and anxiety the Riba can cause some. If you have this, definitely get some, sleep aides, antidepressants, and tranquilizers. It's taken all three for me to sleep or stop having major jitters.
I read some research paper yesterday that said the overreaction to Riba was due in good measure to not just low seretonin goes due to SOC, (which I knew before) but was also in direct correlation to one's cholesterol levels. In other words, the lower your cholesterol (which late stage liver patients often have low cholesterol) the less seretonin in your brain, so the more likely the Riba effects will be more severe. This means one way to keep on a more even keel would be to increase your omega oils etc, if you are low on cholesterol.
But back to lifting arms, and such, being newlywed means there's lots of love to go around, so you maybe at a disadvantage when your wife is much more likely to be understanding. If nothing else, it will make you a whole lot more sympathetic in the years to come...when she has a headache.
Good luck, and like someone said, don't wait too long if you really are having issues since some of the RX solutions take days or weeks to start to help.
mb
do bears not still blank in the woods? hello?
I think operatively Davie, it's best if you get the wifey do be on top....one time when letting someone else do the work will seem entirely logical.
Just hope you don't get the skin thing. My skin got so touchy that even a pat on the hand felt like fingernails on a blackboard. It comes from the jumpiness and anxiety the Riba can cause some. If you have this, definitely get some, sleep aides, antidepressants, and tranquilizers. It's taken all three for me to sleep or stop having major jitters.
I read some research paper yesterday that said the overreaction to Riba was due in good measure to not just low seretonin goes due to SOC, (which I knew before) but was also in direct correlation to one's cholesterol levels. In other words, the lower your cholesterol (which late stage liver patients often have low cholesterol) the less seretonin in your brain, so the more likely the Riba effects will be more severe. This means one way to keep on a more even keel would be to increase your omega oils etc, if you are low on cholesterol.
But back to lifting arms, and such, being newlywed means there's lots of love to go around, so you maybe at a disadvantage when your wife is much more likely to be understanding. If nothing else, it will make you a whole lot more sympathetic in the years to come...when she has a headache.
Good luck, and like someone said, don't wait too long if you really are having issues since some of the RX solutions take days or weeks to start to help.
mb
My sex drive is fine during tx....
I also eat a lot of watermelon and that helps.
but it takes me forever! so I run out of steam sometimes!
I think it is the celexa.
bandman
I also eat a lot of watermelon and that helps.
but it takes me forever! so I run out of steam sometimes!
I think it is the celexa.
bandman
Was that you in the house with the upstairs lights on and the Still Having Sex sign on the front lawn? I misstook it for a McCain campaign sign :)
That was hilarious!! Laugh out loud was right!!
GoofyDad: I thought I saw you driving by today :-)
David: I agree with Trish-keep the communication open and things will work out. Best of luck to you
Isobella
GoofyDad: I thought I saw you driving by today :-)
David: I agree with Trish-keep the communication open and things will work out. Best of luck to you
Isobella
I'm not having any trouble with having a sex drive at all while on treatment....being single, it's not having a passenger to go along for the ride .... not being able to life your arms? personally, I'm not seeing the downside to that ... ladies?
Frankly, David .. if you and your wife keep the communication open like that, I'm pretty sure you'll manage okay in the bedroom department too .. or the kitchen, the livingroom, the shower or wherever you happen to be when the "iron" is hot ....
Good luck :)
Frankly, David .. if you and your wife keep the communication open like that, I'm pretty sure you'll manage okay in the bedroom department too .. or the kitchen, the livingroom, the shower or wherever you happen to be when the "iron" is hot ....
Good luck :)
Marc: but when the side effects kick in – if they do – there are times when you barely... can lift your arms.
Jim: I think David was talking lower down.
Maybe Marc was thinking David lives alone?
Jim: I think David was talking lower down.
Maybe Marc was thinking David lives alone?
Marc: but when the side effects kick in – if they do – there are times when you barely... can lift your arms.
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I think David was talking lower down.
BTW "striking when the iron is hot" is good advice, as long as your wife is within vicinity or unless you have a very modern marriage. I felt just fine with sex until the anemia kicked in which unfortunately was about two weeks into treatment.
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I think David was talking lower down.
BTW "striking when the iron is hot" is good advice, as long as your wife is within vicinity or unless you have a very modern marriage. I felt just fine with sex until the anemia kicked in which unfortunately was about two weeks into treatment.
"to strike while the iron is hot."
Brilliant metaphor!
The closest I came to a sex drive was driving around the neighborhood looking at houses where people were still having sex. But everyone is different - some continue on with physical labor and exercise. Thast wasn't in the cards for me, but it is for some.
Brilliant metaphor!
The closest I came to a sex drive was driving around the neighborhood looking at houses where people were still having sex. But everyone is different - some continue on with physical labor and exercise. Thast wasn't in the cards for me, but it is for some.
David - In my opinion, there is nothing in the medication per se that suppresses sex drive. However, there may be periods of time when you are so tired that any sex – even alternatives to intercourse – is extremely difficult. I don't want to be dramatic, but when the side effects kick in – if they do – there are times when you barely feel you can lift your arms. As you can imagine, at those times, you aren't going to be the most eager sexual partner.
My advice, already mentioned above, is strike while the iron is hot. Often it takes 7-9 weeks for the side effects to kick in. Go for it now. You don't know what the future will hold.
BTW, I take an antidepressant because of psychological side effects of the interferon, and this does suppress libido and sex drive. Cialis seems to help a bit. I'm a walking pharmacy -;)
Good luck!! - And one piece of advice – if you feel yourself getting seriously blue, go on antidepressants. Your relationship is too valuable to risk. For some, the mental side effects of the treatment can't be managed without pharmaceutical help.
Good luck again. It's a shame you have to undertake this at this point in your life. All the best.
My advice, already mentioned above, is strike while the iron is hot. Often it takes 7-9 weeks for the side effects to kick in. Go for it now. You don't know what the future will hold.
BTW, I take an antidepressant because of psychological side effects of the interferon, and this does suppress libido and sex drive. Cialis seems to help a bit. I'm a walking pharmacy -;)
Good luck!! - And one piece of advice – if you feel yourself getting seriously blue, go on antidepressants. Your relationship is too valuable to risk. For some, the mental side effects of the treatment can't be managed without pharmaceutical help.
Good luck again. It's a shame you have to undertake this at this point in your life. All the best.
Fatigue, headaches and possible rash that makes you uncomfortable in your own skin can hamper the drive. I have been married for 13 years though, a young newlywed should fare better. I find that if there is a time in the day where I feel OK, to strike while the iron is hot. If I wait until late at night after the kids are in bed I will be to tired and probably asleep b4 them.
im like you im only married since june and only started treatment on friday.
ive already sat down wit wife and talk things through from riba rage 2 loss of sex drive.
we had a great chat and look 4ward 2 being hep c clear at the end, fingers crossed.
jus one thing the doc told me is 2 make sure my wife dosent get pregnant as dis can damage the unborn
good luck on ur treatment
wayne
ive already sat down wit wife and talk things through from riba rage 2 loss of sex drive.
we had a great chat and look 4ward 2 being hep c clear at the end, fingers crossed.
jus one thing the doc told me is 2 make sure my wife dosent get pregnant as dis can damage the unborn
good luck on ur treatment
wayne
You must be a young man or at least in a loving and caring "young love" relationship with your wife. I haven't tx'ed as of yet, but one thing I learned years ago is that sex is much like a computer. "Meaning if you can't get in one way, you can get in another way", that may be a Bill Gates quote who knows.lol I suggest if you are truly concerned about it, explore your options now or soon. Nobody knows on this forum whether they've tx'ed or not, if you're gonna be able to perform. All they can share with you is their experience, which may influence you mentally. You don't need that, IMHO. With that said, back to the computer. You need to be able to please your wife in other ways sexually, besides intercourse. In young love alot can be said with your mouth sexually. Without getting vulgar or saying anything inappropriate, use your imagination. Be creative, use toys if you have to. I'm not saying to go out to your nearest porn store and by a bunch of dildos or anything like that, in fact I finished off one of those tubes of M&M's one time. lol Trust me most women, at least the ones I've been with, love creativity. Also, not everyone txing will go thru every single sx's listed or spoken about on this forum. You may have very mild sx's, in fact I guess it's even possible that the anger some get from the Riba may give you added stability and an added plus in the bedroom. Similiar to makeup sex, or grudge sex. lol If that don't happen, have a plan B ready. There are all kinds of aphrodisiacs on the market today. Good Luck
Just tell her, 'Sorry honey, that was the interferon talking.'
Kind of a shame this awesome excuse is being wasted on a newlywed.
But, to calm your fears. It's not like you don't have control over what you say. I had a three outbursts, in public dealing with strangers and was very careful with my family.
It's good that you ARE newlyweds and don't have any old restentments that come out or you suddently decide to start re-hashing something from 20 years ago.
I had some anger/resentment issues that seemed to be more powerful on the treatment, but like I say, I managed to keep my mouth shut, and away from the keyboard/email. But, like the 'that's the interferon talking' don't forget to tell yourself 'this is the interferon thinking'.
Don't play those mindgams of 'she's not giving me enough support' or 'she doesn't understand.' Just bite the bullet and come on here to pis/s and moan so...you know..we can make fun of you and stuff.
Most importantly, keep a sense of humor. It will save you.
Kind of a shame this awesome excuse is being wasted on a newlywed.
But, to calm your fears. It's not like you don't have control over what you say. I had a three outbursts, in public dealing with strangers and was very careful with my family.
It's good that you ARE newlyweds and don't have any old restentments that come out or you suddently decide to start re-hashing something from 20 years ago.
I had some anger/resentment issues that seemed to be more powerful on the treatment, but like I say, I managed to keep my mouth shut, and away from the keyboard/email. But, like the 'that's the interferon talking' don't forget to tell yourself 'this is the interferon thinking'.
Don't play those mindgams of 'she's not giving me enough support' or 'she doesn't understand.' Just bite the bullet and come on here to pis/s and moan so...you know..we can make fun of you and stuff.
Most importantly, keep a sense of humor. It will save you.
Side effects are different with everyone. Some people have very mild side effects and others more severe. The most common side effects with the first couple of shots are fever, flu like symptoms, body aches. Tylenol will give you some relief and it is very important to hydrate the body. Make sure you drink lots of water. It helps reduce the severity of the side effects. Fatigue is another side effect. I am in my 26th week of treatment and that is my primary complaint. It's not so much that you lose your sex drive because for me the desire is there, but much of the time I am so fatigued that all I can do is think about it! Now of course you are newly wed and probably much younger than me so my advise is it feels good, go for it!! As you continue with treatment, you will learn what works best for you. Do not over exert yourself to the point where you become extremely fatigued on a daily basis. Pace yourself and that applies to all areas of your life (being a newlywed I'm sure that statement does not appeal to you right now)
but my point is you must listen to your body and adapt accordingly. Things will change, hopefully it won't be too drastic in your case. Many of us work full time and try to lead as normal of a life as we can. Physically, the medications weaken you. I certainly do not have the stamina I used to have but remember this is only temporary, just a short time in your life but if you SVR that will last a lifetime. If you feel your emotions are becoming to extreme, ask your doctor about an antidepressant. Many on treatment take them and it helps. A good website to learn more about the side effects and management of treatment is janis7hepc.com. I wish you and your wife the best - keep a positive attitude, that can make huge difference in how things can effect you. Welcome to the forum - someone is always here to give exceptional advise or just a kind word. Good Luck.
Trinity
but my point is you must listen to your body and adapt accordingly. Things will change, hopefully it won't be too drastic in your case. Many of us work full time and try to lead as normal of a life as we can. Physically, the medications weaken you. I certainly do not have the stamina I used to have but remember this is only temporary, just a short time in your life but if you SVR that will last a lifetime. If you feel your emotions are becoming to extreme, ask your doctor about an antidepressant. Many on treatment take them and it helps. A good website to learn more about the side effects and management of treatment is janis7hepc.com. I wish you and your wife the best - keep a positive attitude, that can make huge difference in how things can effect you. Welcome to the forum - someone is always here to give exceptional advise or just a kind word. Good Luck.
Trinity
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