Aa
transmission
hi...
my boy friend left me because i told him that i have hep c...iwas married for 9 yrs and have a son ,my ex and my son are negative.....my date told me by phone that i should not date anyone because i'm a infected person. I try to open he's yes about bad information on the net and becarfull with Dr. advice if they are not a specialist..because even few doctors told my ex husband that he will be infected. I'M depressed and feel like will be a issue in my life to have hep c and is so many bad information out there that is taking people happiness away.
How can i help people, educated people and help my 2 times ex date to understand that he will be okay?
Bia
my boy friend left me because i told him that i have hep c...iwas married for 9 yrs and have a son ,my ex and my son are negative.....my date told me by phone that i should not date anyone because i'm a infected person. I try to open he's yes about bad information on the net and becarfull with Dr. advice if they are not a specialist..because even few doctors told my ex husband that he will be infected. I'M depressed and feel like will be a issue in my life to have hep c and is so many bad information out there that is taking people happiness away.
How can i help people, educated people and help my 2 times ex date to understand that he will be okay?
Bia
I was only with one person, and it was at the very beginning of my treatment or right before, and he was absolutely cool about it. He asked some intelligent questions, and he was absolutely fine with it.
But I think you should ignore your ex. Shut him out of your life and let HIM talk to all the quack doctors he can, and let him obsess for weeks about a disease he doesn't even have while you get on with your life.
But I think you should ignore your ex. Shut him out of your life and let HIM talk to all the quack doctors he can, and let him obsess for weeks about a disease he doesn't even have while you get on with your life.
I found this forum when I was in a similar situation to yours. The guy told me he couldn't date me because of the Hep C. It was the first time I was even interested in anyone after breaking up with my daughter's father, who I was with for like 9 yrs. and I was devastated. This guy has 2 Engineering degrees, so he is not stupid. He did come around and we dated for 5 months, but I have to admit, that kind of reaction is part of why I finally decided to pursue treatment. I really don't want to HAVE TO have "that conversation". I would probably choose to tell someone anyway, as I think it is a good gauge of that persons character.
This tx is hard enough to go thru without an a**h*** like your boyfriend throwing obstacles in your pathway. You are too good of a person and too beautiful of a person to waste your time and treatment with that uneducated person in your life. Best of luck to you and i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Jennifer
If I were you I would absolutely forget about the ex'bf b/c he sounds like such an idiot. I've never heard of such a weak excuse, maybe someone understands his excuse but I don't at all. People like that aren't worth our time and if you focus on yourself and educate yourself about HepC, then I'm sure things would have ended differently if they had to end. good luck
I have had both experiences when dating .. those that it didn't matter and who were okay with it and went on to be intimate and those who chose to stop dating me because they couldn't get past the potential of risk to themselves, even that 5% was too much for them and I don't hold that against them. We decide if we're willing to date someone in a wheelchair, someone who is blind, someone who has Parkinson's, someone of a different ethnicity or size...whatever it is...and someone who has Hep C. We all choose what we can handle and if they are either too ignorant or it's simply not what they want in their package...let them go.
As for this guy, he hasn't even bothered to educate himself. I respect the dates who couldn't handle after taking the time to educate and understand it. Tell THIS guy he's an ignoramus / moron / insert your word of choice and let him go.
I would also suggest you find a way to share it with future dates so that the transmission method is clear. My explanation isn't for every one (particularly not Jim! :) but here's mine and you can figure out your own "If you were to bite my neck and drink my blood you wouldn't be at risk unless you had open wounds in your mouth...but if we decided to be blood brothers and pricked our fingers and exchanged blood into our open wounds, that would be a risk." I shared that with the one guy ..he paused for a moment and pondered that and then said "Okay". And we were good.
The best response I ever got from a guy on that was this one... "Well, I'd like to inform you that I've had my rabies shot when I was working on contract in South America, so you'll be happy to know that YOU are safe if I bite your neck and drink your blood." Lovely little vampire, he was. ;->
Good luck to you and keep your spirits up. :)
Trish
As for this guy, he hasn't even bothered to educate himself. I respect the dates who couldn't handle after taking the time to educate and understand it. Tell THIS guy he's an ignoramus / moron / insert your word of choice and let him go.
I would also suggest you find a way to share it with future dates so that the transmission method is clear. My explanation isn't for every one (particularly not Jim! :) but here's mine and you can figure out your own "If you were to bite my neck and drink my blood you wouldn't be at risk unless you had open wounds in your mouth...but if we decided to be blood brothers and pricked our fingers and exchanged blood into our open wounds, that would be a risk." I shared that with the one guy ..he paused for a moment and pondered that and then said "Okay". And we were good.
The best response I ever got from a guy on that was this one... "Well, I'd like to inform you that I've had my rabies shot when I was working on contract in South America, so you'll be happy to know that YOU are safe if I bite your neck and drink your blood." Lovely little vampire, he was. ;->
Good luck to you and keep your spirits up. :)
Trish
When I told my girlfriend, she didn't even flinch and has stood by me and has been very understanding.
In my opinion, his rejection of you because of what you told him about hep c is merely an excuse. You need to think about these things for yourself and come to your own conclusions, but I do not think his interest level in you was at a high level.
But don't get down. Be strong and love yourself. There is no reason to let this man's opinion of who you are or what you have determine your level of happiness. Focus on your treatment and your kids and forget about his approval.
In my opinion, his rejection of you because of what you told him about hep c is merely an excuse. You need to think about these things for yourself and come to your own conclusions, but I do not think his interest level in you was at a high level.
But don't get down. Be strong and love yourself. There is no reason to let this man's opinion of who you are or what you have determine your level of happiness. Focus on your treatment and your kids and forget about his approval.
A quick note. The above comments are true at heart and informative. I was some what in your shoes. I am not sure on how your HCV was detected and what you have done as far as treatment, rest asure life can and will get better. I received my HCV some how in the course of duty as a Firefighter. Younger at the time 29, now 49, it was difficult. Treatment was not approved and outcome was limited. I chose to wait it out. However, I was advised to stop all alcohol. That I did, socially its was difficult having numerous people/friend ask why don't you drink. I never took medication for injuries, just toughed it out. In 2001, a Specialist introduced me to interferon+ribavirin treatment for 6 months. (don't know if you saw my post today, I'm a first timer to this site, as you are, I'm looking for answers) I have a minor detection of the virus on routine blood work, so I have plans to see the Specialist to review and determine what is going on.
It is best to surround ourself with friends and family that understand. Maybe you soon meet that person that is right you and your kids. He will understand what you are going through and that life can be complicated enough without not being educated about your condition.
For What It's worth...
Intofire (rick)
It is best to surround ourself with friends and family that understand. Maybe you soon meet that person that is right you and your kids. He will understand what you are going through and that life can be complicated enough without not being educated about your condition.
For What It's worth...
Intofire (rick)
Also, sweet pea, if "your boyfriend" was really a friend he would stick by you. Good friends are hard to come by and I blame ignorance not the person for being afraid. However, unless this guy has a change of heart he is a loser. ( I'm being very judgemental) you dont need the aggravation of someone who cant support you in your time of need. So, as stated above, please arm yourself with knowledge, realize you are a precious human being, take care of yourself and seek the support you deserve.
Your boyfriend may end up being a lost cause, but from both personal experience (as well as the collective experience here) dating and having Hepatitis C should not be an issue. The vast majority of partners do not react the way this fellow did.
-- Jim
-- Jim
I have HCV and my husband of 13 years doesn't. I know friends that were married where one had it and the other didn't. As the others have said educate yourself and hopefully you will find an understanding person. There are many people on this site that have S O 's so it is doable. I wouldn't push the 2 date guy some people are comfortable with being ignorant.
Bia-
Your happiness is your responsibility. The best thing to do is educate yourself about this disease. Knowledge is power. This is a manageable disease. It is nothing you should feel bad about. There are many worst diseases that you could have. Count your blessings. In the near future new treatments will be available that will allow many more people to rid themselves of this disease for good. Cured. As long as you don’t have advanced liver disease now, you have a good chance of curing yourself of this disease and living the rest of your life without it.
Please try not to any mind to your boyfriend and anyone else who knows little to nothing about Hep C. Inform yourself, don’t try to convince others about anything. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself. Who you date is nobody’s business but your own.
The best way to protect others and yourself is to practice safe sex. As a single person this should be a given. There are many other things out there besides Hep C that you want to protect yourself from. Also don’t share with anyone anything like razors, toothbrushes, etc. that could have blood on it.
There are many hundreds of thousands of us living good and happy lives everyday with HCV. You can too.
If you boyfriend is really worried about having been exposed to HCV tell him to get tested. Then he will know. It's not your job to take care of him. If he knows so much about the disease than he should know how to get tested.
Hectorsf
Your happiness is your responsibility. The best thing to do is educate yourself about this disease. Knowledge is power. This is a manageable disease. It is nothing you should feel bad about. There are many worst diseases that you could have. Count your blessings. In the near future new treatments will be available that will allow many more people to rid themselves of this disease for good. Cured. As long as you don’t have advanced liver disease now, you have a good chance of curing yourself of this disease and living the rest of your life without it.
Please try not to any mind to your boyfriend and anyone else who knows little to nothing about Hep C. Inform yourself, don’t try to convince others about anything. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself. Who you date is nobody’s business but your own.
The best way to protect others and yourself is to practice safe sex. As a single person this should be a given. There are many other things out there besides Hep C that you want to protect yourself from. Also don’t share with anyone anything like razors, toothbrushes, etc. that could have blood on it.
There are many hundreds of thousands of us living good and happy lives everyday with HCV. You can too.
If you boyfriend is really worried about having been exposed to HCV tell him to get tested. Then he will know. It's not your job to take care of him. If he knows so much about the disease than he should know how to get tested.
Hectorsf
First of all you boyfriend is misinformed and ignorant of the truth of Hep C at this time.
You are a beautiful woman with a kind heart and you will get allot of good information from this site.
Hep C is a blood to blood transmission and you are probaby better off without your idiot ex. There are numerous stories on this site that will show you how to deal and sift through the misiniformation
I am sorry to hear you have the virus, but you are in good company and remember it is not a death sentence, many, many many people have this virus, and many many more have it and do not know it.
I'm sure you will be getting lots more information.
Blessing,
Mary4now
You are a beautiful woman with a kind heart and you will get allot of good information from this site.
Hep C is a blood to blood transmission and you are probaby better off without your idiot ex. There are numerous stories on this site that will show you how to deal and sift through the misiniformation
I am sorry to hear you have the virus, but you are in good company and remember it is not a death sentence, many, many many people have this virus, and many many more have it and do not know it.
I'm sure you will be getting lots more information.
Blessing,
Mary4now
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Hepatitis C Community
Learn about this treatable virus.
Getting tested for this viral infection.
3 key steps to getting on treatment.
4 steps to getting on therapy.
What you need to know about Hep C drugs.
How the drugs might affect you.
These tips may up your chances of a cure.
A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Condoms are the most effective way to prevent HIV and STDs.
PrEP is used by people with high risk to prevent HIV infection.
