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can-do-man couldn't this time

Hello all, not around here much anymore so most people might not remember me. And most people who do try to forget me. :) Just found out that i relapsed. Disappointed sure, shocked no. As i'm sure not alone in the relapse class. knew the odds was very much against me. Time to figure out plan B now.

Hope the gals around here have been behaving. (not really)

For all the people who is in tx. or getting ready to start don't let this discourage you as alot of people beat this thing. And soon i think we all will.

Now back to misbehaving as i have more fun that way.

Can-do who can but couldn't this time but will.
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I just now read this thread. I am so sorry. I don't think we're ever prepared for the finality of death. And, I don't think any good soul ever believes they said enough of the sweet things. You loved him and he loved you and you both always knew. That transcends words. Be well, Mike
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zach - you really brought out alot of the old timers to wish you well, this is truly a nostalgic thread for me...and i do wish you well...you're in good company, friole, scruffy, all waiting for something new around the corner...

cutey - omg - have only been trying to get in touch with you for over a year...glad to see you here again, and i really hope you are well, i have missed you..

ina - my deepest sympathy to you.  i lost my husband 4yrs ago, and just know that i will be thinking of you....

chelley
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I am so sorry to hear this news, and yes I remember you. How could we forget, your kind of unforgetable ;-). You have a great attitude and I just know you'll beat this thing sooner or later.
Always keep the faith!!!!
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Those of us that have relapsed have to go on and CAN DO again, perhaps with other things and with Hep C another day.  I remember you and your hunting dogs...I hope you are enjoying life off tx and we will see each other another day on tx, perhaps, maybe not.  

You always cheered me up and I had a rough road, so did you!  Keep us posted and great seeing you.  

Hugs (Don't get no ideas!)
Linda
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Honey, Thanks HONEY. Glad to hear from ya, hope my HONEY been ok. I just love your nick:)

SFBAY, so hows my other california gal been? I know your not behaving:)
Hope all has been well for you

BUG LADY, Hope all has been well for you and thanks for thinking of me.

ANGEL, Put them durn pans away, but keep being bad:)

Can-do thinks all the BEST girls in the world come to med-help
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Cutey, Oh by so glad to see your name again. Gosh its been so long, hope everything has been treating you good. Just got home and was so glad to see your name, thanks for thinking of me.

Ina, so sorry to hear the news. Your husband was a very lucky guy to have you as i know you took great care of him. Will be getting ahold of you soon.

Can man heading to the can
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Hey there,,,What a nice surprise!!  It does get harder as years go on to check in at medhelp and I try to check in at least once a week while on computer just to see how newbies are faring and always looking for old tx friends!  I haven't talked to Vick in awhile but know she has been quite busy with the baby and her girls.  She would love to hear from you I'm sure.  I remember when my last one(the baby) went to college,,,that was the hardest!  Glad to hear you are doing good!  Same here,,,,only had cold/flu maybe once or twice in 3 years.  Take Care and try to keep in touch!
Honey/Sally
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I haven't read of your loss, but sounds like it was someone extremely close.  So sorry to hear this, I will go back and read the threads.  You have always been kind and given me great advise and support.  I agree with 4c and will hang around during xmas and new years, hopefully.  Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.  

Hugss and Love,
Linda
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can do is not reading. I can't send e-mails, 4see mailed him, but he is not familiar with her addresse, so he may have thrown it out.
I do that all the time....don't recognize the sender, and out it goes.
Maybe you can get through to him and tell him to read at his post.

It feels so good to see so many familiar names in one thread. I do miss the old board, it felt a little more like family. Sounds crazy, but...

Child 24, pretty poison, Jim, 4c.....thank you all for sending your condolences.

The first week has been very hectic, lots of phonecalls, people coming and going, family, all on the east coast needed notifying, etc.
But little by little there are less calls, less inquiries, and a silence is blanketing the house. A silence I am not used to, but am learning to accept.
This will be a quiet X-mas and New Year. I will spend it alone and reflect on the past 25 years.

Like 4c told me, live a day at a time, if you have to an hour at a time, look no further, just think of getting through the day ahead.....and that's what I am doing.

Ina
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GERD 95% better -- pretty much a non-issue -- although I was dx with Barrett's, which makes it an issue at least with my Gastro, so we shall see on that one. Psoriasis resolved quickly after treatment but was replaced with rosacea post treatment, similar to Ina's problems. Took about a year off the drugs, but I have it under control now although probably never will never be able to handle too much sun but that isn't good for you anyway, so they say.

NYGirl is SVR, Mr. Beagle relapsed, FLGuy is UND 3 weeks post treatment on his second try and is now waiting for results from his post tx week 12 PCR. But given his 3 week result and the fact he was UND at week 2 of treatment, I see that test simply as a formality.

Speaking of colds, like yourself, my immune system seemed to be in overdrive and only got one mild cold UNTIL about a month ago and then had a real doozee. Not sure if that is good or bad but I'll take it as good news that my immune system is normalizing somewhat. Who knows.

Good luck with your year 3 PCR. My two year post PCR is coming up in March I think, but not sure I'll even bother unless my enzymes go awry.  

Good to see your life is moving on as well as it appears.

-- Jim
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I posted to you above and am SO, SO glad to see you here.  I relapsed and have had a horrible year with post tx sx for life.  You are so smart and knowledgeable about this stuff, always were. I always loved your no holds barred opinions, popular or not. Gawd, am I happy to see you hear and as I have skipped months at a time posting, would love to see your posts again.  Yes, I am surprised at how many of us that still post and love it.  Thanks for checking in and hope to see you soon.  
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Jm, hi and happy holidays to you too!  it is comforting to see so many familiar names among so many new ones, and some familiar ones have changed a bit, I see.  i am glad my password of 4 years was still in the MH system and worked!  How are is the old issue with the skin nowadays, and the GERD? Hope it is better, much better.

to all who know me:
I kind of faded at the time the changes in MH happened and got busy with college searching, and the advent of 7 new  society finches babies, that decided to enter the world during the last holiday season.  Once I got "detoxed" from the board after a couple of weeks, I did not want to get hooked again, and there is always someone here to help the new ones out, so...it got easier to stay away than to come back.  Kind of felt guilty for forgetting about hep c and what others might be going thru, though.
My brother was dx recently, but has not called me for help, so I guess he is handling it ok.  
Just got my 3 yr post tx qualitative PCR, but did not get my copies yet. I have only gotten one and a half cold in those three yrs.  Not sure why, I got sick last yr after not having colds or flu for so long, but I figured that whatever positive changes the tx brought to my immune system finally wore off.  This yr, I am back to not getting sick.  Weird.  Wish someone would check post tx immune positive  changes that might be at work with some of us.
Honey, Angie, Nygirl, willing, and all those old friends, hello and Happy Holidays.  
Nygirl, is that the old girl, the one with the two genos?  What was the outcome of tx? sorry I missed it.  Update me with any others I might have missed, how is Mr Beagle? Florida man? and others?
Maybe I will try and read once a wk or so.  I am by myself, now that dtr is in college.  
How is Vicky, Sally? A lot to catch up to. I know.  what ever happened to some of the controversial characters here? line Njrsl and spacecoast?

Well, whoever has time can answer, if they want.  TY
Angie, i am so pleased that you were such a good friend to our Ina, when some of us were not. She is truly special!
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I am so sorry.  Thank you for sharing that beautiful poem.
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beautifully written...glad your old pal came to see you too...you're in my thoughts, whatever you think, you'll always be a tower of strength to me...
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Just read your threads. I am so very sorry.

May your beloved husband rest in peace.

-- Jim
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Holy Sh*tkabob, was just wondering the other day what ever happend to you.

Hope this finds you well and in case you don't show up for another year or two.

Happy Holidays and New Year,

-- Jim
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Zacky, may I call you that? never mind, already did.  How do the news suck? let me count the ways... Shoot! It truly sucks big time!  that the "thing" is still inside you.  I had heard it through the grapevine and had to come to yell at the wind, that it is just not FAIR!  Take a long rest, a much needed one and recoup.  Your liver had a big rest with those 86 wks, that is for sure.  My friend Sybil (Betty) is on tx for the 4th time, but she never did complete any of the other tx, because she did not reach undetect.  She was dx with cirrhosis.  At the last bx, there was histological improvement.  I am sure you have benefited also.  Keep us posted of what the next steps will be.  Love ya

Ina, I realized I did not say my condolences on the phone. Silly me.  You are so right, there is no way to prepare for the death of a loved one. it is still shocking and traumatic.  I am happy that you share so much and made every last moment count.  I am sad that you are going to feel the loneliness and sadness for sometime.  Take a vacation to the east coast and spend sometime back in the big apple, when you feel better.  take good care and we will talk soon. Love ya too.
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I got your e-mail and phone message.
So very nice to hear from you.
If you can talk endlessly about your situation, I can listen endlessly.
And remember, there are ways and there are ways.
If the kosher way does not work, maybe the well lets say "unkosher" way will get results.

Can't always do everything by the book, sometimes rules need to be broken.

I will fax foresee a letter about how to reach me a little easier, and she will e-mail it to you.

Stay well and hope to hear from you soon.
Ina

4see, you can never get on my wrong side...at least I don't think so :)
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nygirl
Yes, my voice was truly the last one he heard. Hospice had told me that hearing would be the last sense to go. I thought he might had slipped into a coma during the last couple of days, but not so.
I would hover right over his face, call his name and asked him to try to open his eyes. He tried and tried, but all he could do was lift his eyebrows.
At one point he still managed to squeeze my hand ever so lightly, letting me know that he had "not left".
Sometime during the day I asked him to blink with closed eyes, and he did. I had studied his motionless face for hours and never observerd any movement of his eyes, except when I asked him to.
All the things I should have said during his lifetime I cramped into his last few days. I told him over and over again that I loved him, words that I had said far to infrequently during the last 25 years.

I had month and month of preparation, but when he finally left I was not prepared at all. When he took his last breath I went into shock......I couldn't believe it, he was gone, gone from my sight, gone forever, gone to a place were my words could not reach anymore.
The finality of it is tearing me apart.
I am looking for signs of his spirit still being around, I asign meaning to things that may indicate his presence, and I talk to him just as I did when he was still around.

Hospice left me a little book, the last page reads:

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says: "There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone at my side says:" There, she is gone!" ther are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout:" Here she comes!"

And that is dying.
Henry Van Dyke

Thank you to all that posted,
Ina
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Of course I am not behaving!!  OMG I am so sorry to hear of your relapse, it is really depressing.  I too relapsed and am trying to go on with life. No way, no how am I going back on tx. I am heading off to grad school in January, if I can. Still having sx from tx.  You most likely did your liver good with the tx and helped yourself doing so, hopefully you don't have lasting sx. What stage are you, I forgot?  We still need to have that pool party, but it is darn cold here now.  Wishing the best for you and your family. I miss you sweet funny thing and hope to see you around again.

Love,
Linda
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You were already an icon before I started tx. Everyone loved you for your sense of humor and spirit....nothing has changed...you're still a can-do-guy. Good luck...
Bug
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  Seen can do on here when I first came to the site, haven't seen Eisbein. (here the past 7 mths.)

Just wanted to send my condolences to you on the loss of your husband. To be there with him, as hard as that had to be, at home is very special. I wish you strength and healing in the days ahead.
So sorry.

Can do......so sorry for you too. What a rough road that 86 weeks had to be.  Feel so bad for you that go thru so many weeks :{
  Your liver must be better now to hold out for plan B. Good luck to you, like you said, you'll beat it.

                                                                       LL
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Cando!  You crazy guy lol   I'm so very sorry to read this as I think about you often and was so sure you would be home free!    You are such a sweetheart,,,,,just doesn't seem fair at times!  One thing for sure is you should have a liver that is like brand spanking new!  I'm sure the meds healed alot!  Well,,,you know we all love and miss you so you definitely have the support here at medhelp!  Keep us posted on your future plans Candy Man!!

Ina,,,Bless your heart!  You have definitely had your plate full the past couple of years and to read this about your husband.....I'm so very sorry!!   I was glad to read that your husband was able to stay at house with you and not go to nursing home!!  Take care Ina!
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Forsee,

I sent you a belated e-mail also.

Thank you for your help!
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