3 months since exposure, no lesions, constant prodrome symptoms, is this herpes?

[scaredbutstrong]

Hello-
3 months ago to the day I was with a new partner. 4 days later tingling sensations started and for the next 3 months, daily ive been having tingling, burning and pinching sensations in my genital area/inner thigh. There have been no lesions or redness. I probably check myself at least 5 times a day. All of these sensations im feeling sound like what people describe as prodrome, but also I read that prodrome doesnt last this long.
Finally went to the OBGYN Monday who has tested me for all STD's..I wont get results for another couple of weeks but her first reaction is that this is not herpes but more Vulvodynia as she feels I would have had lesions by now. But Ive read there are many people infected who dont have lesions. Also I find it odd that all of a sudden I start having all these tingling/burning/pinching sensations after sex with a new partner. ( did not see any physical signs on him. Looking back his lips were chapped the next day and did he did perform oral, but it didnt look anything like a cold sore)
Fast forward 5 weeks, still with same person and now my lips start to feel tingly and i feel tingles in my cheek. a red spot developed right at my lip line and i paniced and purchased Abreva and put it on and nothing ever happened. I dont know if the red spot would have developed into something but I sure didnt want to give it a chance to find out. About a week later i feel the same tingly nerve pain in my cheek up towards my eye while at work. Now my eye is having occasional discharge, albiet a very small amount, and occasional bouts of burning on the skin around the eyes..but to look at the skin around my eye it looks normal. At one point a small red patch developed in the outside corner of my eye where it was burning but went away in a day..also the membrane ( or whatever you call it) which is in the inside corner of this same eye is visibly swollen compared to the other eye, but no discomfort, sensitivity to light or pain in my eye itself, just the burning feeling in the skin on the side of the eye and the discharge.
With all of this going on, I do fear I have contracted genital and now oral herpes that has also spread to my eye.
I do not know the other persons history.
I would love to think all of this is simply Vulvodynia and the lip and eye things are just other irritations/stress as I am certainly stressed over whats been going on. For the past 3 months ive been convinced I have herpes, been under extreme stress, lost a lot of weight and have had a lot of anxiety. I know the body can do a lot of things to itself but at the times I felt these lip/eye things I wasnt thinking about herpes or anxious.
Also the prodrome feelings are almost constant for 3 months. I get relief maybe 2 hours a day, if that, and when i lie down in bed. I think in the past 3 months I have had 4 days where I didnt feel much...the emotional toll has been awful.....
sorry so long, but my question is, is this herpes?  I know ill have the results in about 2 weeks, but im trying to figure this all out. If it was just isolated to my genitals I could see vulvodynida, but these lip tingles/red spots ( no history of ever) and eye burning/discharge makes me think its all related.

Thanks

[feelingundone]

Herpes doesn't stay or go. You have it or you don't. If you keep testing negative and have no lesions when symptoms arise then it's highly likely you do not have hsv. I have delta with many folks with symptoms like yours and I can not recall any of them confirming hsv is or was the cause. I do agree that everyone is differant but hsv is a virus and all viruses follow certain patterns.
I hope your physician gets to the bottom of your issues.

[pdomeq]

I have have had for almost 3 months same tingling in the legs, and penis, inner tigh feels weird.  It was a quick encounter, condom not rightly used.  I am convinced it is herpes., but until now now positive blood result.  For what I read, there are people under this condition.  And I think there is still a lot to get known about herpes.  Doctors are biased because they only see patients where it is obvious.  So when someone like is seen by doctors they think we are inventing this a sickness. That is how I have been treated.  I think our bodies are fighting the sickness and this syntoms are part of this fight.  At the end our bodies will decide if Herpes stays or goes.  My only concern is that my wife is pregnant, and I dont want her to pass herpes to her.  Hopefully more people can share their outcome.

[tar517]

Hi there, did ur symptoms go away, did u retest? I slept w someone hsv2 pos and 6 days later,flu,sore throat, malaise,lower back twinge,shooting pain down lower legs. I feel I am stuck in prodome land,as I read many people are. I got red dots on my bum that were tiny and burned. No blisters. They look like nothing and maybe 3 or 4 not too close to each other,size of pin point. Also got a tiny anal fissure that itched n bled  but went away in 2 days. The fissure came back neg during a swab as it was dry, and the dots are too small/dry. My blood came back neg, but was only 10 days post encounter. We slept together 4x in a month, once without condom and Bam! It's been 20 days since sex, none after, and 15 days since flu.obviously I will retest in 3 mos, but I am hearing about people who don't get blisters, but seem stuck in prodome. The guy I'm seeing has no symptoms n didn't know he had it. However, when we fool around,not sex, his penis bled a tiny bit from dryness. Maybe that is the virus making his skin weak. Thoughts??? Also I have been on antivirals 10 days now and lysine up the wazoo. God bless

[Rainy12]

Yeah, hind site huh? I will pray for you and I hope your next test has good results . Be strong, easy for others to say right? Like you said , it is liveable but sometimes it feels like its the end of our normal worlds.

[cal86]

Thanks Rainy that's very kind, your encounter sounds the same as mine, one off, there were no signs this person was ill, didn't really mean anything but may have ruined my life. How stupid huh, I have always been extremely careful in the past so I guess i got into a mindset where i thought it couldn't happen to me, in the heat of the moment i thought one time would probably be okay.

[Rainy12]

I know everyone makes mistakes but what is hardest for me is this was one time and he was asymptomatic, never any Bo before. The chances are so low yet I think I got it. I m sorry to hear you feel so bad and hopefully it will not be herpes  but then you need to find out what is causing your symptoms. I try to remind myself there are people who suffer with a lot worse then this but it is still hard when the area between your legs does not feel normal. Take care and let me know how you make out. Your in my thoughts....

[cal86]

Thanks for the support Rainy, I guess none of us are perfect in our decision making so we can't beat ourselves up too much. I can relate to your story about poor medical services, in my case they have inspected me visually and said because I don't have obvious classic lesions by now I don't have it. Although I have had small blister/pimples, i had to insist on blood testing. They don't take into account all the other crazy fatigue and nerve symptoms. You're lucky if you don't have these, I've read that herpes can cause long term chronic fatigue which I've been battling the last couple of months, and I'm worried I'll have it for life. Previously I was fit and active with a wide social network, now I can hardly move and have to sleep all the time. I'm worried I won't be able to work if it doesn't get better. I'm negative for all other std's. in two weeks time it will be twelve since the exposure, I'll have a further blood test and let you know.

[Rainy12]

Hi, do not feel bad, it is more anxiety and depression. I hate myself for putting myself in this situation. I just find it strange that results before we're negative. I was never given numbers but it stated less then 91 was negative, now at 16 weeks at 1.08 equivocal. Just to coincidental . You might want to wait longer then 2 weeks, results might still be accurate. I had a doctor visit yesterday and very disappointed in her knowledge of herpes. I gave her the details and she said cannot get it unless person has sores or visible outbreak which goes against everything you read. She also said shedding is more contagious from woman to man then man to woman. I do not feel confident in her knowledge of herpes at all. When I told her about the tests she thought it strange and told me to test again in a month. Another month of torture! I think you should wait until 12 weeks. I waited for 16 weeks and last at 9 was negative. Try to be strong, eat healthy to help you feel better. Keep us posted

[cal86]

I feel the same as you Rainy scared and ashamed, but if the worst happens then it's far from the end of the world, and you may still be negative, your numbers are still very low. Have been unwell with this? I've been feeling weak and extremely tired every day since the encounter

[Rainy12]

I got my test results today. First 3 tests negative at 2,6,9 weeks. Today at 16 weeks came in at 1.08, equivocal. I feel pretty darn sure I have it. The more I read herpes can cause on going irritation similar to vaginitis . Going to doctor tomorrow. One stupid judgement call and now this for the rest of my life...

[cal86]

I was tested at 8 weeks and was negative IgG HSV 1 .380 and HSV 2 .180. But I know it doesn't mean much because it's only conclusive after three or four months. I still have constant burning sensations in my penis, thigh, buttocks, lips, arm, tingling hand, hot calf, buzzing feeling in legs at night. But no obvious lesions but a few itchy spots on buttocks and redness on knob. Also mega fatigue and lost appetite and weight. Going for another test in two weeks, feeling pretty miserable at the moment

[whiteshadowcgb]

Have you been test yet?

[cal86]

Hi this sounds very familiar to me, I'm experiencing exactly the same symptoms you have described, including burning lips and eye, complete fatigue, weight loss, burning in my leg and buttocks, no idea what the cause is, started roughly a day after unprotected sex 9 weeks ago, before this I was fit and healthy, never any health problems, not had any obvious outbreak on my skin or lips yet

[whiteshadowcgb]

did you get any results today? I am just doing the waiting game. I don't know what to think. I keep getting on an off symptoms which from what I read isn't "typical" of herpes. In my thinking I had symptoms for 3 days (which isn't typical) then I had a few good days. Then I only had "symptoms" when sitting down. It just doesn't make since. I even thought I had herpes in my eye. I went to the eye dr and he said that I don't but everymorning I wake up with swollen eyes. Maybe that is because all I do all day everyday is read the internet... Anyways, I have my fingers crossed for you :)

[Rainy12]

When was your encounter? If it was 3 months or longer you should feel confident in the results. I just went to the doc today. Since I was diagnosed with BV I tried a home remedy. Vitamin c inserted in the vagina. It burned but I did for 2 nights. Yesterday I saw on inner labia bright red spots, looked like blood. This freaked me out, thought it could be herpes. Doc thinks it from the vitamin c but us now doing cultures for bacteria, herpes, staph and strep. I am scared to death. She did say it did not look like herpes but I am still scared. Should know results by Tuesday. Thinking of you Nd scared, your in my thoughts. Keep posting...

[whiteshadowcgb]

Thanks for the update. I am suprised by the amount of people that post symtoms here but don't ever post the diagnosis. It's frustrating. So I thank you. I realize that you can't diagnosis yourself over the internet but reading other people's stories sure help ease the mind a little. I don't feel so alone. I am testing at the 16 week mark since last sexual encounter. I am hoping that it isn't "H" as well but I have "symptoms" that suggest so.  I wish this disease wasn't so tricky. Although, I must thank the good Lord that I didn't have any leasions. I have no idea what would have happened to my mental state.

[francisl]

Well, this thread seems to be dead but I'd thought I'd add that my test results came back negative... I still don't feel reassured. I'm going to get tested again soon.

[francisl]

My appointment on Friday got cancelled due to snow... I've been a nervous wreck all weekend.

[Rainy12]

Glad you got answers, keep us posted on how it feels in a few days. So happy for you

[gracefromHHP]

glad you are getting answers  :)

[scaredbutstrong]

Well i followed up with my OBGYN..she did a physical exam and found that my pelvic muscles on my left side is very tight and feels this is what is causing my pinching/burning. So i dont have the classic vulvodynia where any light tough triggers pain, but yet possibly triggered by this muscle tightness....i have been referred to pt to work on the muscle......just wanted to share..so ladies with pain down there and your negative or are waiting, there are lots of things that when u google your symptoms, dont come up that can be causing your genital discomfort...this is called piriformis muscle...

[Rainy12]

Let us  know how your test results, wishing you the best. I feel like you do, I read a post last night where the person had constant burning feeling and had herpes, no lesions, etc.... Scared me, I have a constant burning feeling at the vaginal entrance that is always a bit pinker the rest. That upset me and I am very depressed today.

[francisl]

I went to the eye doctor today and he doesn't think that what I have is herpes. I still don't know though, I dont see any other explanation at his point. I also have had no sores or anything down south aside from tingler that ended a couple of months ago. Now it comes and goes from time to time without explanation. I'm going to get tested on friday, we'll see how that goes, I'm well past 16 weeks at this point. If it comes back negative I'll be amazed and overjoyed. Yet it does seem possible as I am quite neurotic and a thorough hypochondriac.

Good luck to those awaiting tests. I've gotta say that once the tests come back negative at 16 weeks I think fears should be laid to rest. The prospect does remain horrifying though.

[Rainy12]

I tested first at 2 weeks, that was before I read anything about herpes. Then again at 6 and 9 weeks. I am just so paranoid. Mt gyno just told me last week she does not think I need to test again as she has not seen any physical sign of herpes and she doesn't think I have it. I am sti going to. I don't think I can rest right until I know. If it is poitive I know I will be devastated. I am so scared that since I have HSV1 that it may just be taking my body longer to build antibodies to HSV2. All the experts say the chances of contracting from a one time encounter with an asymptomatic partner is very low but with my luck I would be the one who does. So good to talk to someone who understands, I don't have anyone to talk to about this. So ashamed...