Am I being paranoid?

[worriedwart2009]

Hi there,

I was in a manogomous relationship with a guy for 5 months, 4 of them we had unprotected sex. We broke up 1yr 9months ago now. A very close friend of mine recently told me, hed known of my ex, as they lived in the same town (small town) and he had heard that my ex had given a girl herpes (years before me)!
I dont know if this is just a small town rumour, a assumption by this girl or the truth. I have had STD testing done since, but only recently realised they dont do herpes testing. But I havent had any blisters, sores or rashes, fever type illness, swollen lymph nodes, nothing! Iv had some itching, but Iv always been a bit sensitive there and its usually only after trimming, during hair regrowth (so on the pubic area) or sometimes after periods/condom use-been told its an allergy. Do you think I should be worried???

[gracefromHHP]

I'm a fan of everyone periodically getting tested for herpes. in the UK, far less folks have hsv2 genitally but hsv1 genitally is an issue so knowing both partners status is important to me. talk to your partner and see what he says perhaps?

grace

[worriedwart2009]

Hi Grace,

Thanks again! Think Im gona go with what the doctor said...as other than the itching from time to time, I think ive been fine... I would have been down to the clinic like a shot if any lesion lasting a week or longer had cropped up. If anything ominous crops up, Ill get it checked...think Im just being a little overly paranoid since an ex gave me HPV and now Iv met "Mr Right" and I love him and dont want to mess it up. Do you think that Im making an unwise decision or being irresponsible...or do you think like the doctor said, "Im more than likely fine"?

[gracefromHHP]

you can get type specific herpes igg blood tests from a private clinic in the UK.  You'll need to pay for them but they do them.  almost added that in my original reply but didn't - guess I should've.

yes, I read a few of your prior posts here before I replied and saw the whole hpv issue.

grace

[worriedwart2009]

Hi grace,

Thanks for replying. I live in London, I think things are a little different here, I called my local gum clinic today and spoke to one of the doctors there. He said to me they do not do blood testing, they only do tests from actual lesions and as I dont have any theres nothing they can do. He also said that givin its been 24 months since our relationship started and 21 months since it ended, by now I should have shown symptoms (not usual that it only comes out years later) and usually symptoms are visual. If I was asymptomatic, there would be nothing to treat anyway, so no point and not easily transmittable with no symptoms...besides this is all based on "IF" this rumour is true and "IF" my ex was having an outbreak round when we where having sex.
I remember I did ask him once about STD's, he replied he'd only had crabs once and nothing else. I had warts 2,5yrs ago (not since), so I would think that i would know by now as im a religious checker, but this is partly why Iv become a little obsessed about my sexual health! (oh and my present BF does know about my history with warts:). If you have any advice let me know, thanks again for replying.

[gracefromHHP]

have you and your new man been tested for herpes yet? if not, why don't you both go for peace of mind?  

grace