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Betrayed?
I'm 36, have 5 kids, and been married 8 years and faithful. Previously married to and unfaithful man which prompted std check and clean bill of health 7 years ago. 6 months ago I found out my Christian loving faithful husband of 8 years was not who he said he was. He has been addicted to porn for 23 years. He swears he has never cheated physically in any way but considering recent developments I am very unsure of anything. Last week I was diagnosed with HSV1 (genital) I am very sad and afraid of a repeat of my last marriage. Question is for me to have this does it mean he had to have cheated?
Thank you for taking time to answer. I am still struggling with current trust issues due to the things that have come to light after 8 years. It seems strange that if he had it all along I would get it now, especially considering all we are going through anyway. I guess it all comes down to my commitment, not his. His being unfaithful by whatever means, porn, affairs, money matters, whatever, doesn't release me from my obligation to follow hard after God and move forward. I can't control him but I can do my best to press on and have faith in GOD. Thank you again.
good that they did a lesion culture and typing.
still no reason to think that your partner has been cheating on you that it's just now showing up in your relationship.
still no reason to think that your partner has been cheating on you that it's just now showing up in your relationship.
They diagnosed by culturing the sores and when I got this diagnosis I had my dr check all records from 7 years ago and I was tested for both by blood work along with all other stds.
no it does not.
odds are that neither of you have ever been tested for herpes before this. it's not a part of routine std testing. it also isn't routinely tested for during pregnancy either.
typically hsv1 genitally is acquired from receiving oral sex from someone who has hsv1 orally. even if your husband has never had an obvious cold sore, he can still have hsv1 orally and transmit it to your genital area during oral sex.
what testing did you have done to diagnose hsv1 genitally?
grace
odds are that neither of you have ever been tested for herpes before this. it's not a part of routine std testing. it also isn't routinely tested for during pregnancy either.
typically hsv1 genitally is acquired from receiving oral sex from someone who has hsv1 orally. even if your husband has never had an obvious cold sore, he can still have hsv1 orally and transmit it to your genital area during oral sex.
what testing did you have done to diagnose hsv1 genitally?
grace
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
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