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Can I transmit Herpes to my children through indirect contact?
I have genital herpes and am worried about secondary transference of the virus to my children through, say, a towel... Hypothetically, if I touched an area where viral shedding was occuring and then touched my child or something else that my child touched can my child acquire the virus through indirect contact? Can the virus (during shedding) be tranferred from, say, your genital area to your eyes or mouth or something from your hands? Any additional info would be greatly appreciated.
So far from many articles have read I hv gotten to understand they are two types of d virus, genital and oral. So I think you can only spread if u had rub the blister and used the hands on ur baby eyes.. 2. There must be a mucus area for the spread to occur, so far I think u just have to avoid sharing or using the same towel when u have an out break. Most importantly show love to your children and partner. Just know that herpes is not a death sentence. Live ur life and keep living. Take pills when you need to. Most importantly pray in faith only God can turn things around. Cheers
I have a friend she has it and my child love being around her can my child get it if she don't have a outbreak at the time??
i am in the hospail for a differ reson...but iv had herpies for 4 years i had it and got prenget now my son is 2 an also has easm ,,i wonder about the same .?. kan you pass it tow your kiids by sharing towls or kiss them on the lips...so i ask my docter right and he said NO as long as i didnt have a outbreack os sheading(SHEADING MEAN DRANIS FROM THE OUTBREACK) if you did have an outbreack you should take your kids to ther docter and let them no,whats going on.my docter aslso said it best ot talk to your kids about herpies an that you have the dessie..so they can be more AWARE OF WHAT IT IS SO THER NO NOT TO THOUGH YOU THING......AND IT WONT MAKE THEM THING DIFFER OF YOU THER YOUR KIDS THEY LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT (STAY STRONG) herpies is not as bad as you think
I have hsv2, but tested negative for hsv1. I have never had an outbreak above or below and less than a year ago, everyone in my family tested negative for both types.
My daughter just got what looks like a cold sore. Is it possible that my hsv2 could cause hsv1 in her? Waiting for tests to confirm if she has been exposed, but in the mean time, I am freaking out!
My daughter just got what looks like a cold sore. Is it possible that my hsv2 could cause hsv1 in her? Waiting for tests to confirm if she has been exposed, but in the mean time, I am freaking out!
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Very unlikely! Hsv1 can transfer to your genitals as hsv2 but it's unlikely (not not impossible) for hsv2 to transfer to hsv1... It's in your genitals not your mouth, so kissing would not cause it
Even if you take medication for the herpes you can still spread it? Sorry for asking but I think I might have facial herpes thanks to my rhemutiod arthritis shot I have to take every week it lowers my immune system I have a little girl who loves hugs but right I'm afraid to hold her because I have a sore on my chin and another near my nose I'm pretty sure its herpes and I agree with you it is stressful..
Why in the world would you touch your genital then change the babies diaper?? ....like that's odd ...... Anyways you should wash your hands good with very warm water and maybe use germ x let your hands dry then change your baby's diaper then wash your hands again... And don't pick at your blisters because you might forget to wash your hands and you might pass it on without realizing it
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She thinks she gave it to him by kissing his face... The rash is on his face not his genitals
Hi, I share your pain and here to also say it happens. I have HSV-2 orally and genitally, although I have not had any outbreaks or symptoms for a long while now. Despite using suppressive therapy all the time, I believe I may have transmitted it to my 10-year old son. I've been very careful about sharing things in the house, but even asymptomatically, it seems to have happened. How do I deal with the guilt, shame, and the overwhelming sense that I have let him down and saddled him with this for life? Now he will need to be on suppressive therapy, too. It is hard to go on day by day, but I have to. I have no other choice. I, too, don't know how to tell anyone. As with all who have this virus, you waiver back and forth between wanting to feel like "this is normal and more people than you think have it" and feeling diseased, guilt-ridden, and that your life is forever changed--because it is. I'm not a religious person, but I keep thinking about that adage that what doesn't kill you makes your stronger and we don't receive burdens we cannot bear. I have to be here for my son and find a way to manage the guilt and possibly find some redemption in this lifetime.
I know how you feel, I too was diagnosed with HSV2 on my B-day a year ago. I have it orally and have been depressed ever since. I have a 7 year old and I talked with his Dr about the possibility of spreading it to him and was told some of the similar things I have read from other people (Not to worry, it won't happen). Well, I am here to tell you it can happen and happened to me. My son has had an outbreak of bumps on his cheeks, redness on his neck and shoulders and complaining of itching and headaches. These are the same symptoms I have. I literally think of killing myself everyday. I am so depressed and feel lost. When my son's school called to tell me had a rash on his face that looked aggravated I wanted to die. I don't even know how to tell them he has herpes at 7.
I know how you feel, I too was diagnosed with HSV2 on my B-day a year ago. I have it orally and have been depressed ever since. I have a 7 year old and I talked with his Dr about the possibility of spreading it to him and was told some of the similar things I have read from other people (Not to worry, it won't happen). Well, I am here to tell you it can happen and happened to me. My son has had an outbreak of bumps on his cheeks, redness on his neck and shoulders and complaining of itching and headaches. These are the same symptoms I have. I literally think of killing myself everyday. I am so depressed and feel lost. When my son's school called to tell me had a rash on his face that looked aggravated I wanted to die. I don't even know how to tell them he has herpes at 7.
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Please dont be hard on yourself! It could be anything! Over 50% of people contract hsv1 (oral or coldsores) before they become teenagers. He is your son... Of course you are going to kiss him! Just make sure to avoid kissing or sharing cups, untensils ect when you have break outs or cold sores. I would just get him tested. But please dont feel that way ): I know how it feels.... I have been single forever and have just met who I think is the man of my life....and I just found out I have hsv2... I had to tell him and I'm not sure if he has it or not... I'm very depressed to think that he might not and will leave me... But you need to stay positive about these things. If you need help join a support group and if you ever get so low that you are actually contemplating suicide please call a suicide hotline... Its not worth it, life goes on. You'll be in my thoughts.
And I'm only 21 and have a 2 year old daughter... I'm worried because I have been taking her in the shower with me since she was born
... She will sit in bath water while I stand under the shower
.. I am terrified now...
... She will sit in bath water while I stand under the shower
.. I am terrified now...
Im so scared of passing it to my 11 year old son. How can i prevent this from happening?
I am so scared because I think that my 5 year old son may have gotten the virus from me I don't know how that it is possible but I think back and he has used my towels and maybe even my wash cloth. I try to be careful about it but my partner is not and he watches him for me while i go to school and I am afraid that he has the virus and I do not know what to do any suggestions?
I have been diagnosed with hsv 1 for a year now with no symptoms. Have a 3 month old that loves affection but I am afraid to kiss, change her diaper, let her touch my face, hug, or even have her lay in bed with me to watch tv. Plus, I know Id gotten it from my husband because I'd previously tested negative for all stds but one cold day he came home from work complaining of itching & burning of the lips which subsequently revealed a cold sore. After it healed & I'd gotten retested a few months later, I am told that I have hsv 1. I had a major breakdown & blamed him as he is my only partner but he denies it & goes to get tested & says he's negative with no formal proof to say that he is indeed negative. Help on can I kiss, hug, change her diapers, bathe, & have her lay on my pillow with no symptoms? Can I kiss my husband without him possibly passing it on to her if he truly doesn't have it? If I have a pimple on my nose & it pops, can the hsv 1 spread through the pimple's secretion? How can I wash my face without transmission despite not ever having an outbreak?
I have been diagnosed with hsv 1 for a year now with no symptoms. Have a 3 month old that loves affection but I am afraid to kiss, change her diaper, let her touch my face, hug, or even have her lay in bed with me to watch tv. Plus, I know Id gotten it from my husband because I'd previously tested negative for all stds but one cold day he came home from work complaining of itching & burning of the lips which subsequently revealed a cold sore. After it healed & I'd gotten retested a few months later, I am told that I have hsv 1. I had a major breakdown & blamed him as he is my only partner but he denies it & goes to get tested & says he's negative with no formal proof to say that he is indeed negative. Help on can I kiss, hug, change her diapers, bathe, & have her lay on my pillow with no symptoms? Can I kiss my husband without him possibly passing it on to her if he truly doesn't have it? If I have a pimple on my nose & it pops, can the hsv 1 spread through the pimple's secretion? How can I wash my face without transmission despite not ever having an outbreak?
I'm a 15 year old virgin and my mom has herpes and I am very scared me and my sister could get them from using the same towel. I asked my doctor about it and she did confirm that it is possible. She told me to watch for painful red bumps. I have been freaking out ever since. I confronted my mom about the possibility of spreading them to us and she didn't seem to care, she told me it was none of my business. I feel completely alone on this. Yesterday I noticed a red bump down there and it hurt. I broke down and cried for along time...keep in mind I'm not one to show my emotions...I have set up a doctors app and I am very nervous. And to think my 7 year old sister could end up with the same problem scares me even more.
honey it is ok just go get her tested before jumping to conclusions. the dr will understand your concern. i have an almost 6 year old girl and i also have been diagnosed when i was pregnant with her with hsv2. i worry everyday and i also am careful. just try to cope and stay strong for her please! she needs her mother and she needs a strong mother the rest of her life. this is not worth her losing her mommy. i hope everything is ok now but please reply and keep me updated. i will pray for you and your daughter.
I caught this disease 4 years ago from a scumbag boyfriend who cheated on me all the time. Only I got it on my mouth. I only had 1 outbreak when I first got it and then never again until now. I had a 6 year old at the time who is 10 now. I was super careful during the first outbreak so she wouldn't catch it and then I didn't have to worry about it again since then. It is only she and I so we share everything, drinks, towels, she steals my lipstick, etc. Well this time when I first started getting the sores on my mouth, of course I was super careful again about sharing drinks, etc. Then one day she got into my purse and put on my lipstick that I had used while I had a sore. Next thing I knew, she came down sick with flu like symptoms and now she has blister-like sores on her face, her chest and her lower back. I want to think they are eczema but the ones on her face, close to her mouth really make me think herpes, especially since she got sick before hand. I've never heard of getting it anywhere other than your lips and genital region but I'm pretty sure she has. I am very, very depressed about it too. I ruined her love life before she could ever have one. We all know girls have enough to compete with while looking for a mate and now I gave her another huge obstacle. I feel suicidal. I hate myself. My need to have a boyfriend and sex ruined her life.
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grace
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grace
I've had HSV2 for a decade. I've had two kids, both by c-section. One is 3, the other is 1 year old. The older one is fine (as of yet). The younger one had her first genital herpes outbreak when she was 10 months old. It flipped us out. Neither one of us had had an outbreak from which we could have passed it to her (and it seems somewhere between highly unlikely and impossible to even imagine a circumstance in which we could have passed it to her genitals somehow). No one else is around her who could have possibly exposed her. I did not have an outbreak during my pregnancy. I did have outbreaks during the 3rd trimester of my first pregnancy, but I took a lot of valtrex becuase I was hoping to have a natural birth. With my second baby, I knew I would have a c-section so I wasn't taking a lot of valtrex because I didn't want to needlessly expose her to a drug if I was having a c-section anyway.
I'm coming to the conclusion she was most likely born with it, though she had no visible outbreaks (thank god) at birth. I've read so many different things about HSV transmission in general and during pregnancy, and been told things by doctors with such confidence that they were a "given." However, I'm beginning to think that the "facts" as are known about HSV transmission from mother to child are not as clear as they are portrayed to be. I believe the transmission of HSV is something that is still not yet fully understood. Partially becuase of the fact that so many people can be exposed to it and carry it without having/ long before having an outbreak.
My children are my world and I love them more than anything. If I had know that I could be passing this on to them, I might not have wanted to risk exposing them. People make light of HSV by saying oh 1 in 3 people have it, but if you have it, you either choose to live in denial and deceive your loved ones until you likely eventually give it to them, or you seek out another person who has it so that you will never have to be in the position of betraying and contaminating someone who you love. There are websites for that, but its a limiting way to live your life. It is a life-changing disease. There are worse things; my daughter could have HIV or another disease. But it crushes us to know that we caused this limitation on her innocent life, with so much stigma and shame attached to it. She will find someone to love, but the odds are they will resent her for it and/or she will accept less than what she should in a partner. Undoubtedly she will suffer additional anguish and heartbreak because of this.
And I suppose the odds of my son making it another 15 years without getting HSV from one of the three of us are rather slim....if he doesn't already carry it without symptoms. We are grief-stricken that we've hurt the people we love most in this world.
I'm coming to the conclusion she was most likely born with it, though she had no visible outbreaks (thank god) at birth. I've read so many different things about HSV transmission in general and during pregnancy, and been told things by doctors with such confidence that they were a "given." However, I'm beginning to think that the "facts" as are known about HSV transmission from mother to child are not as clear as they are portrayed to be. I believe the transmission of HSV is something that is still not yet fully understood. Partially becuase of the fact that so many people can be exposed to it and carry it without having/ long before having an outbreak.
My children are my world and I love them more than anything. If I had know that I could be passing this on to them, I might not have wanted to risk exposing them. People make light of HSV by saying oh 1 in 3 people have it, but if you have it, you either choose to live in denial and deceive your loved ones until you likely eventually give it to them, or you seek out another person who has it so that you will never have to be in the position of betraying and contaminating someone who you love. There are websites for that, but its a limiting way to live your life. It is a life-changing disease. There are worse things; my daughter could have HIV or another disease. But it crushes us to know that we caused this limitation on her innocent life, with so much stigma and shame attached to it. She will find someone to love, but the odds are they will resent her for it and/or she will accept less than what she should in a partner. Undoubtedly she will suffer additional anguish and heartbreak because of this.
And I suppose the odds of my son making it another 15 years without getting HSV from one of the three of us are rather slim....if he doesn't already carry it without symptoms. We are grief-stricken that we've hurt the people we love most in this world.
Hi Sid. I've had HSV2 for 25 years. I just found out that apparently I infected my 6 year old at birth, though he had no symptoms whatsoever when he was born. I was just getting over an outbreak and they told me there was no sign of it and it was fine to do vag delivery. I did. All seemed well until now. He just got an outbreak, on his FACE. I'm so horrified and am so upset that I didnt insist on a C section. They say it's only a 3% chance to pass to your abby at birth if it's not your initial outbreak. Well...whatever those statistics mean...the odds didnt work in my favor. I'm just so overhwelmed. He came home frm 1st grade yesterday and said kids were teasing him and asking him "what is that ugly thing on your face?" It's one thing for me, as a grown adult....but for a little boy to go thru his whole life like this...and SO OBVIOUS...on his FACE! I'm just lost. Please do your research and consider a C-Section. I trusted my medical provider and now my child has to live with this, publicly forever. My thoughts are with you.
Hi there. I tried replying to you a few days ago but I'm new to this and I dont think it went thru. I am in the same boat and just found out I transmitted to my 6 year old. I assume it happened at birth as I was just getting over an outbreak. I'm very distressed and feel like the worst mother. I could really use someone in the same boat to talk to. Are you still out there on this forum? I'm not eating lately and am so overwhelmed and depressed. How have you been coping?
im not understanding how to use this forum. Tried to connect to notme2012 but dont know where my post went....I'm in the same boat and would like to try to connect to another mom who passed it to her kid. Just found out my 6 year old has it. I'm guessing he got it at birth as I was just getting over an outbreak, but there were no symptoms then. Any mom willing to connect via email? I created an email for this purpose.
Recently my son went to the fair and played in the air filled plastic bubbles on the water- later he described the inside as hot and moist and My concerns about getting the flu etc. was very high. Is it possible for transmission of herpes (oral) under those circumstances. (the kids caugh laugh and fall face 1st all over the surface of the bubble and sound like a good place to spread germs). He has over the last week developed sores aroung this mouth - not on his lips and I am concerned what it is. The scabs that are forming remind me of cold sore scabs.
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