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Can you still have GOOD sex with HSV-2?
The girl Im seeing and I both had symptoms after sex recently and were diagnosed hsv-2 - my question is concerning our future sex life as both she and I are very sexual in nature and enjoy very physical 1-2 hour sessions with a lot of foreplay, rubbing, grinding etc. Ive read that sex, friction and irritation to the skin can cause outbreaks. It seems some people have outbreaks triggered specifically by sex, especially in the beginning until the body builds up more antibodies.
We both plan on using a daily anti-viral pill as well as the Biogetica natural products to minimize shedding/outbreaks but I'm just wondering if our days of having wild and fun sex sessions involving a lot of skin to skin touching/grinding, oral/vaginal/anal sex are over due to asymptomatic shedding and now we need to be very cautious and boring in bed? And will that change over time? Also please note she's latex-allergic and we do not use condoms as a result, both of us have had our tubes tied.
We both plan on using a daily anti-viral pill as well as the Biogetica natural products to minimize shedding/outbreaks but I'm just wondering if our days of having wild and fun sex sessions involving a lot of skin to skin touching/grinding, oral/vaginal/anal sex are over due to asymptomatic shedding and now we need to be very cautious and boring in bed? And will that change over time? Also please note she's latex-allergic and we do not use condoms as a result, both of us have had our tubes tied.
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How were you tested and diagnosed?
Most people with herpes have a perfectly normal sex life, whatever that means for you. Since you both have it, you don't need to worry about shedding. Shedding is when the virus is active on your skin, but you could still be infectious. If you both have antibodies now (most people get these by 6 weeks), you can't get infected in a new location on your body.
Friction can be a trigger for outbreaks for some people, but it isn't for everyone. Whoever had it first - you or her - already knows that it probably isn't for them, or you'd have already known you had herpes, right? Time will tell for the other one, but it may not be. If it is, add lube. That helps reduce the friction, and can be fun. Since condoms aren't going to be used, you can play around with different types until you find one you both like. (Latex condoms require water based lube, but you can expand on that.)
Oral sex is not out. If one of you doesn't have antibodies yet, I might avoid that person performing oral if the other has an outbreak, but hsv2 doesn't like the oral area, and if oral hsv2 happens, it rarely recurs. After antibodies develop, I wouldn't worry.
If someone has an outbreak, it will really be about comfort (pain) levels, once everyone gets antibodies.
If you are using antivirals, you don't need Biogetica products, which haven't been proven to do anything anyway. Save your money.
So long story short - I wouldn't worry at all. Get your freak on, and enjoy it. :) Just listen to each other, and communicate if any problems arise, which you should do in the absence of herpes, right?
Most people with herpes have a perfectly normal sex life, whatever that means for you. Since you both have it, you don't need to worry about shedding. Shedding is when the virus is active on your skin, but you could still be infectious. If you both have antibodies now (most people get these by 6 weeks), you can't get infected in a new location on your body.
Friction can be a trigger for outbreaks for some people, but it isn't for everyone. Whoever had it first - you or her - already knows that it probably isn't for them, or you'd have already known you had herpes, right? Time will tell for the other one, but it may not be. If it is, add lube. That helps reduce the friction, and can be fun. Since condoms aren't going to be used, you can play around with different types until you find one you both like. (Latex condoms require water based lube, but you can expand on that.)
Oral sex is not out. If one of you doesn't have antibodies yet, I might avoid that person performing oral if the other has an outbreak, but hsv2 doesn't like the oral area, and if oral hsv2 happens, it rarely recurs. After antibodies develop, I wouldn't worry.
If someone has an outbreak, it will really be about comfort (pain) levels, once everyone gets antibodies.
If you are using antivirals, you don't need Biogetica products, which haven't been proven to do anything anyway. Save your money.
So long story short - I wouldn't worry at all. Get your freak on, and enjoy it. :) Just listen to each other, and communicate if any problems arise, which you should do in the absence of herpes, right?
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