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I contracted HSV-1 genitlly the night I lost my virginity to my longtime boyfriend. He had had standard STD test, but niether of us new Herpes wasn't included in that, atleast that's what I've been told. I guess with us being together you could say it doesn't matter but I don't want to really be with him anymore, but who else would want me. I feel as though I'm trapped in this relationship and how can I know whether he wants to be with me or whether his reason for staying with me are the herpes. I honestly don't want to live anymore and I've been hospitalised from attempts. I hate myself and can't ee anything getting better unless there is a cure soon. I don't know if I can wait the 10 years been quoted at the moment.
Hey I'm going through the same thing my boyfriend passed this onto me now I feel stuck with him.I'm depressed all the time and don't want to live anymore its a living hell.I don't know how people that don't have it can even speak on It. They don't know how it makes you feel, with me it's an everyday issue my skin is super sensitive I have excruciating nerve pain all the time I'm depressed alot I'm scared that it can spread onto my child if he accidentally uses my soap every time I have sex it seems like I have to wait a week or two for my body to heal .it's hard doctors try to make it sound like it's not that serious but it is and I've read plenty of story's.it's sooo depressing I try to get the Negativity out of my head and the suicide thoughts but it's hard to do so when you have sharp pains hitting you in all different places of your body.it feels like someone pricking me with a voodoo doll.I take medication everyday.also whoever said no one would want you because of genital herpes....yeah right unless thier already in love with you.I know if someone told me they had herpes I would not want to deal with them.it's kind of hard to be in a relationship and not want intimacy I would be scared to kiss them.we should not want to die of course not but I understand how you feel, if I didn't have it myself I would be telling you the same things that these guys are saying and not to feel like that but I'm in the same boat it's okay to feel that way just don't do it all we can do is stay productive and try to find happiness within our lives so that we're not sitting round depressed.I wish I could get rid of my boyfriend and have strictly platonic relationships cause at this point sex is something I can go without men always want it but if his pleasure is my pain **** him lol .mine is just extra hard to get rid of.sorry if my grammar is all overy the place I'm not good at writing
I hope you feel better and keep your head up try to stay busy to keep your mine of the problems as I will be doing the same.
Please dont give up. You can get help by talking to others that have felt like ending their life. I have had both kinds of help; by doctor and from other people who had feelings of ending their lives and overcome them
The doctor experience only made me worse. It wasnt until I spoke to and got advice from people who actually wanted to or tried to die and now are well living a wonderful life. You will be surprised how many sucessful happy people living a great life have experienced the feeling of wanting to die. When you see that they understand exactly how it feels to not care if you live or die and they overcame those feelings and now live a healthy happy life; its amazing! When I wanted to die I had no hope that I could ever feel any different so I thought I should just die now. It wasnt until I saw through others who had been there that it is possible for those "I want to die feelings to go away" It gave me hope that hey maybe I should stick around a little more cause there is a chance that could be me. And I promise you today Iam happy living a healthy life. And its really scary to me when I look back and I realize how dangerous it was for me to of had such sad thoughts Doctors in my opinion we're no help at all I felt I was just another sad freak in the waiting room waiting for my 15 minute talk that only made me feel worse about myself This is just my opinion and what worked for me I wanted to tell you there is a chance you can be me so please dont give up I also think that you should be more worried about your feeling of wanting to die than your hsv status right now When you get your happy back then you will be strong enough to deal with your hsv Please try to seek help and understanding from other people who had dark thoughts about life like you are having and try to put any other problems and relationships aside until you are feeling better about wanting to live your life
The doctor experience only made me worse. It wasnt until I spoke to and got advice from people who actually wanted to or tried to die and now are well living a wonderful life. You will be surprised how many sucessful happy people living a great life have experienced the feeling of wanting to die. When you see that they understand exactly how it feels to not care if you live or die and they overcame those feelings and now live a healthy happy life; its amazing! When I wanted to die I had no hope that I could ever feel any different so I thought I should just die now. It wasnt until I saw through others who had been there that it is possible for those "I want to die feelings to go away" It gave me hope that hey maybe I should stick around a little more cause there is a chance that could be me. And I promise you today Iam happy living a healthy life. And its really scary to me when I look back and I realize how dangerous it was for me to of had such sad thoughts Doctors in my opinion we're no help at all I felt I was just another sad freak in the waiting room waiting for my 15 minute talk that only made me feel worse about myself This is just my opinion and what worked for me I wanted to tell you there is a chance you can be me so please dont give up I also think that you should be more worried about your feeling of wanting to die than your hsv status right now When you get your happy back then you will be strong enough to deal with your hsv Please try to seek help and understanding from other people who had dark thoughts about life like you are having and try to put any other problems and relationships aside until you are feeling better about wanting to live your life
are you seeing any professional for counseling/therapy for your suicide attempts? If not, you certainly need to be seeing someone and seeing them frequently. Herpes is incredibly common - 1 out of every 2-3 people you know has hsv1 either orally or genitally. 1 out of every 4-5 has hsv2. This is NEVER a reason to take your own life and you really need to deal with the underlying reasons for why you are depressed and feel the need to hurt yourself/end your life.
Have you considered daily suppressive therapy so you get less hsv1 genital recurrences? Only a small percentage of folks with hsv1 genitally get recurrences as often as you do but it's worth trying suppressive therapy to have less of them. Also don't hesitate to seek out a further work up too to be sure what you think are recurrences are and aren't something else like vaginitis that needs dealt with too.
If you have a partner who has hsv1, they aren't likely at all to contract your hsv1 genitally. Just avoiding sex during recurrences is all it takes in a situation like that. Since there's a 50/50 chance that anyone you date has hsv1, why would you think no one would want you because of genital herpes??? Don't let the IDEA of having genital herpes mess with your mind dear, it's just a pesky virus that more of us have than don't. Continue with therapy and take back your life!! Herpes is never a reason to stay home on a saturday night and remind yourself that it's something you have, not the only thing there is about you :)
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Have you considered daily suppressive therapy so you get less hsv1 genital recurrences? Only a small percentage of folks with hsv1 genitally get recurrences as often as you do but it's worth trying suppressive therapy to have less of them. Also don't hesitate to seek out a further work up too to be sure what you think are recurrences are and aren't something else like vaginitis that needs dealt with too.
If you have a partner who has hsv1, they aren't likely at all to contract your hsv1 genitally. Just avoiding sex during recurrences is all it takes in a situation like that. Since there's a 50/50 chance that anyone you date has hsv1, why would you think no one would want you because of genital herpes??? Don't let the IDEA of having genital herpes mess with your mind dear, it's just a pesky virus that more of us have than don't. Continue with therapy and take back your life!! Herpes is never a reason to stay home on a saturday night and remind yourself that it's something you have, not the only thing there is about you :)
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