Could I Have Contracted Herpes or another STD

[Disappointedinmyself]

11 days ago I had an encounter with a CSW in an Asian country (have no idea about their std status). This was my first time with such a person. When we got to the room we started to undress and the person turned out the lights before we finished undressing - which I thought was weird. We went to the bed and both laid naked in bed very close to each other while I kissed and licked her breasts and chest for about 1 or 2 minutes. I did lick the nipple for a few seconds. They laid on their back and I laid on my side against them. At the same time the person was rubbing my penis while I touched their genitals at which point I found out it was actually a male. At that point things pretty much stopped. I sort of sat up in bed. I could see their penis and anus which didn't look like it had any visible sores, but it was pretty dark. Not sure for how long we laid in the bed from start to finish or for how long they had their hand on my penis because it was on it while we were undressing. But not too long though. Hardly any kissing on the lips. Our lips just barely grazed Two or three times over the course of our encounter. There was no anal or oral sex during this encounter. A few minutes after I found out it was a male I asked them to leave, washed my hands and went to bed in the same bed we both laid on earlier.

Really worried (very major anxiety issues) about HSV both 1 and 2. Not exactly sure of what defines a panic attack, but I'm sure I've had several since this encounter. Part of the stress is worrying about contracting something, another part is having to tell my partner (in a long term monogamous relationship) that I have hsv2. This makes me extremely sick when I think about it. Not sure if I currently have hsv1 or not because I never remember having a cold sore but my partner and I have never had a cold sore since we have been together. I'm sure that before the event I'm describing here neither of us had genital herpes.  

I have had a very mild sore throat off and on for the past 11 days. Sometimes with sinus drainage. Sometimes I feel run down and have headaches. Other times not. Sometimes I feel like I have a fever sometimes not. At first I thought it could be because I was a little run down after the weekend as I had only about 8 to 10 hours sleep over a 48 hour period plus a very stressful journey back to my home.

Freaking out about any itch, pain, or sensation around my cheeks, nose, mouth, chin and boxer short region. I have pretty much been reading this board and other websites about hsv nonstop for the past 11 days. About 2 days ago I had a slight burning and reddening (rash like, I thought it could be a heat rash because it is still pretty warm where I live) of the sides and back of my scrotum and the area between my scrotum and anus. Sort of went away yesterday but it came back today. I don't think this person touched the area between my scrotum and anus but cannot be sure. Also have strange pains in my lower left lip and left side of face and chin (which is where our lips touched).

What I have read on the forums here is that the likelihood of contracting hsv2 from handjobs, is low but it is possible to catch it from the body to body contact, which there was while we were laying next to each other. Could the rash like symptoms, sore throat, and sinus drainage be from acquiring hsv from this person by laying in contact next to them? I don't remember us ever grinding on each other or other passionate contact - I was never on top of them and I don't remember our penises ever touching. I have not seen any blisters yet that I can tell. I really worry about this rash like thing in my groin and the sore throat and sinus drainage (I equate that to flu like symptoms and the rash to a herpes rash). Also I understand that you can acquire herpes without having symptoms so I’m worried that I may have herpes and am experiencing the flu like symptoms and rash with no blisters. I also have a lot of what look like pimples spread over my butt that are not painful, and I am worried these could be blisters (but they could also be pimples) – are the blisters always painful?

How painful are the rashes associated with herpes? How hard is it to find a blister? Some things I read say you sometimes cannot see blisters and could even be like cuts in the skin – bigger blisters of course would be obvious.

I'm in a long term relationship and don't want to infect the other person. Do you think I could have contracted herpes or another STD from this encounter?

Do you think I need to be tested before I have sex with my partner again?

[Disappointedinmyself]

after looking at some of the pictures I've taken over the past 1.5 weeks of this red patch. Here is the progression.

1. Started to get slightly inflamed 12 days ago (13 days after the event described above - a Sunday)
2. Went to the doctor 3 days later with what I could tell at the time as a red spot with no bumps which the doctor diagnosed as foliculitis - as he said he saw a hair coming through.
3. Didn't really worry too much after that but from looking at the pictures I took over the last weekend and earlier this week, the red spot has slowly gone down and now I can see three or four very small distinct bumps that might be blisters but I can not tell. As I said above I am still having to take a picture and zoom in to see them. They are definitely not red like the skin around the bumps. Some pictures look like a hair is coming through on them others do not.

So far this area has been essentially painless and these bumps or perhaps blisters do not appear to be changing. There has been no oozing or crusting yet. I suppose they look skin colored - not quite sure. So, not sure if this is actually foliculitis or an outbreak.

I know that I should see a doctor, but there is only one at my location and I have sort of projected my anxiety on him and I can tell he is getting tired of seeing me. I spoke to the Westover team a few days ago and they said they weren't worried about the hsv2, but would be most concerned about the hsv1 and reccomended a blood test forwhich I will need to wait for two more weeks when I return to the U.S.

Interested any any thoughts on these bumps or blisters. Thanks.

[Disappointedinmyself]

Thanks Fleetwood.

[Fleetwood20]

Almost always an outbreak occurs on primary infection with HSV and always involve the site of entry.

Recurrent outbreaks (more than 3 weeks after infection) can in theory occur anywhere but in reality are often in one or small number of areas.

[Disappointedinmyself]

Thanks for your feedback Fleetwood. Thanks for suggesting the Westover Heights. That looks like a fantastic resource. One other question related to hsv. Would a primary outbreak or recurring outbreak occur at the place on the body where the virus entered? In other words if the virus entered on the lower left lip, would the outbreak occur there as well?  

[Fleetwood20]

Believe me, if you had a primary infection of HSV1, you wouldn't be using a magnifying glass saying "what could this be?", you'd know!

[Disappointedinmyself]

Thanks for your feedback everyone. One more question. I just yesterday I developed a red spot on the vermilion border. There might be a small bump, but it would be so small that it's hard to tell from looking and zooming in at pictures I've taken. This is on the opposite side of my mouth where I remember contact with the persons lips. Up until now the red spot is painless. During and out break does the skin reddening come before the sores and if so approximately how long? I also have another bump elsewhere on the vermilion border but this looks like true pimple and is also painless. Does this sound like a cold sore starting?

[Fleetwood20]

This is essentially a zero risk event for herpes transmission. The CSW would not have the virus on their hands and there was insufficient rubbing with areas that in very rare circumstances may had had some virus present.

11 days on with no outbreak is a great sign, but to be totally expected given what you describe.

STDs and herpes are not airborne biohazardous diseases. They require the sex part to represent any realistic chance of transmission. The odds of transmission of anything given what you describe are not only low, but as close to non existent as it gets.

[ukmale52]

Go on westover heights clinic website and ask the question , it'll cost you a few dollars but at least they will address your concerns , and by experts too

[ukmale52]

by what ive read on these forums they all seem to say no risk , but I,m sure Fleetwood . howard or life will give you some info

[Disappointedinmyself]

Hello. Does anyone have any feedback on this?

[ukmale52]

I'd repost if I we're you , they've probably missed your question