Your PCP was WRONG. It is obvious your PCP does not stay up to date and informed on herpes. The IgM test is worthless. It is too unreliable. Trust your IgG test.
You can not spread your oral herpes infection to your genitals because you are already infected with it orally, and you will be immune or in the very least, highly resistant to a new infection anywhere else on your body.
In addition, there are two strains of herpes that are relevant when talking about genital herpes, and those are hsv2 (which normally causes genital herpes) and hsv1 (which normally causes oral herpes). Hsv2 can infect the oral area but rarely does. Hsv1 can infect the genital area and does so more often than hsv2 infecting the oral area.
That said, if someone catches hsv1 from oral sex on their genitals, it does NOT mutate to hsv2. It stays an hsv1 genital infection. This is important because an hsv1 genital infections tends to cause much less recurrent outbreaks after initial infection and asymptomatic shedding is much lower than with an hsv2 infection. Also, if someone is infected with hsv1 genitally, he/she can still become infected with hsv2 genitally.
Good to know about the antibiotic ointment. Yes my boyfriend has been tested and he is negative for both. I am now aware of it and am scared to spread it to him. I hate this virus. You didn’t mention anything about a weakend immune system though. I take a humira shot every other week that suppresses my immune system and from what I read there is a risk
Feeling undone thank you for your input but how do you know humira is not enough to weaken my immune system to self inoculate?