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Did he lie?
I was diagnosed with herpes, (down there), February of 2011. I had already been in a relationship for 6 months. We were only sexually active with each other. I had heard rumors when we first started dating that he had herpes. I asked him to get tested and he brought me the results which came back "clean". So I thought, I'm no doctor so I couldn't even tell what he was tested for. In February I had my first breakout and was completely taken by surprise. My boyfriend acted like he had no idea what I was going through. So I went to the dr and was told I had herpes. So I guess my questions are, is it possible he knew he had herpes when we started dating? Is it possible I had it and it was dormant? I have only had sex with one other person without a condom, and that was my sons father. I was also put on birth control in 2010. Do they test for herpes? Help me, answers please!!!!!
make an appointment at planned parenthood or call your local health department to see what your local low cost/no cost options are. be seen and get some basic testing done and an exam to try to see what all is going on.
daily suppressive therapy with acyclovir is under $20/month even without insurance. you just need a prescription and then you can take it to walmart or a similar place to get it filled.
too late now to find out if your man lied about knowing he had genital herpes or not when you met. his testing now, 2 years later, if he tests positive, don't help you know if he had it and knew it or not when he met you.
I also encourage you to pick up a copy of Terri warren's "the good news about the bad news" book. It really goes into the psychological side of having herpes and will teach you a lot about living with herpes. I mean living as in enjoying life, not just existing through the day to day.
daily suppressive therapy with acyclovir is under $20/month even without insurance. you just need a prescription and then you can take it to walmart or a similar place to get it filled.
too late now to find out if your man lied about knowing he had genital herpes or not when you met. his testing now, 2 years later, if he tests positive, don't help you know if he had it and knew it or not when he met you.
I also encourage you to pick up a copy of Terri warren's "the good news about the bad news" book. It really goes into the psychological side of having herpes and will teach you a lot about living with herpes. I mean living as in enjoying life, not just existing through the day to day.
I don't have any health insurance but as soon as I can afford to see a doctor I will. What other causes do you think are causing my symptoms? I think it's possible when he was tested he failed to ask for the herpes test. As far as trust issues, I think we had more trouble at the beginning of our relationship. We have been together for almost two years and we have never had any problems with infidelity. I just feel betrayed by the fact that I have only been intimate with a handful of men and... I guess what I'm saying is I feel like he gave me this horrible disease that I didn't deserve. My life will be forever altered because of his irresponsibility. I'm embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I refuse to tell anyone much less another man. I'm angry inside and haven't expressed it at all. When I break out I just let it heal on its own without meds. I wish some miracle would occur where it went away or some doctor would tell me there has been a mistake. I don't understand how we were together for so long and never had any problems then one day I catch a bad cold with a fever and have a cut down there, next thing I know I have bumps all over down there. I'm angry, hurt confused and embarrassed. What good man is ever going to want me now??? I feel like I should prepare myself to be alone for the rest of my life.
correct, monthly ob's or more often aren't very typical. yes some folks do have them but you need to make sure it's all your herpes going on at this point.
the health department most likely did not do a herpes igg blood test on him. if they did any testing at all, it was a herpes lesion culture and if he didn't have symptoms at the time, that was useless too.
sounds like there is a definite trust issue between you and him. perhaps this is something you two can work on? if you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have a relationship.
the health department most likely did not do a herpes igg blood test on him. if they did any testing at all, it was a herpes lesion culture and if he didn't have symptoms at the time, that was useless too.
sounds like there is a definite trust issue between you and him. perhaps this is something you two can work on? if you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have a relationship.
I'm sorry but did you say it's unusual to have recurrences 1/2 times a month? I usually "break out" right after my period, shaving or even sex. And it is always in the same spot. I have other medical issues and I'm pretty sure my immune system is down. As for my boyfriends test results, they conveniently are lost. I know he went to the health department, I went to planned parenthood.
I encourage you to go back and be seen again the next time you have symptoms. confirm that indeed everything that is going on is due to genital herpes. you can have recurrences 1-2x/month but it's unusual to have such. also make sure you get tested for yeast and bacterial infections vaginally too while you are seen.
if you are still together, ask him to please get his herpes test results again for you to post here for me to look at e.g. hsv1 igg 4.3 and hsv2 igg .23 or whatever they are. that way I can help you see if he was properly tested or not.
if you are still together, ask him to please get his herpes test results again for you to post here for me to look at e.g. hsv1 igg 4.3 and hsv2 igg .23 or whatever they are. that way I can help you see if he was properly tested or not.
Unfortunately I was so distraught during my first outbreak I didn't ask what kind. The doctor did a swab of the outbreak. I wasn't tested through my blood. What kind of differences are there between the two. Ever since my first outbreak (which was the most uncomfortable, painful experience) I breakout in the exact same spot about once to two times a month. I never noticed him with a breakout until after I broke out but maybe he hid it well. I feel betrayed and have a gut feeling he knew but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt but I'm pretty sure he gave it to me and knew he had it. And yes we are still together.
unfortunately herpes is not a part of any routine std testing. odds are you've never gotten tested for it before this.
when you were diagnosed, what testing was done? do you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?
are you still with this partner?
grace
when you were diagnosed, what testing was done? do you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?
are you still with this partner?
grace
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