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When I went to the doctor, she asked have I ever been tested for Herpes. I said yes, I just had an annual exam. She said no you weren't tested because you didn't specifically ask for that test. Then I said what about when you are pregnant and they test you for AIDS and STD's wouldn't they have given an Herpes test to me too, since that's considered an STD? She said no. Then I told her I was never taught about Herpes and really didn't know what it was. Well after I was tested positive, I had a lot of questions. Why isn't this test forced or talked about like the HIV test? How come we are not educated on this subject? Hell all I know is every so often I see a damn Valtrax commerical on TV but it doesn't explain what Herpes is. Wouldn't you think this could be prevented greater with more education about it. Such as doctors suggesting the test to woman when it's time for there annual exams, they suggest the HIV test so how come they don't suggest the Herpes test. It pisses me off that I have asked over 30 people in general what they knew about Herpes and have they ever been tested and none of them knows nothing nor have ever been tested.
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101028 tn?1419603004
You need to call and ask them to read you the test results.  Just because they didn't give you a number, doesn't mean there wasn't one.

grace
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Lol, you are so funny with the vibrator comment. That's how I feel forreal. I even bought a new one because I thought my sex life was over, hell can't go wrong with pleasing yourself. But a few other people have told me I'm just going through the depressive stage. I think so too because like I said before I feel unattractive and unwanted.

As far as the results, I have another question posted on here as well below is part of the question.
My doctor never told me a number she just told me "Your Herpes test came back positive" I went home and cried and watched the video she gave me and then went back because she didn't even tell me which Herpes Type 1 or Type 2. So that made me mad because she didn't correctly inform me. So she then told me HSV-2 and that was it. Should she have told me a number like everyone else on here has? Should I have a second opinion?
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101028 tn?1419603004
Definitely I have to look at your blood test results. Give the clinic a call tomorrow and ask them to read them to you. All I need is the actual numeric results ie hsv1 igg 6.8 and hsv2 igg 4.3 or whatever they are.

You can still have oral sex too.   I mean come on - with 1 in 4 adults having genital herpes, do you think we give it all up and just sit at home with a vibrator wrapped in latex all by ourselves?  

You stop believing the stigma attached to genital herpes and I betcha the fellows you talk to about it will too. The only thing that has changed is your attitude towards yourself, herpes hasn't interfered with your sex life at all.  

I also recommend you pick up a copy of Terri Warren's new book "the good news about the bad news" - sounds like you need more accurate information about herpes in general as well as a lot of the myths and fears around it dispelled for yourself.

grace
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Hey grace thanks for the uplifting. But it's still not the same. Sex has been down hill for me since I was diagnosed. I feel unattractive and the men I have been honest with are too scared to get involved. Like I said who would put theirselves in a situation like that. If a man told me they have Herpes then that's a turn off to me and I would just move the other way. I mean I wouldn't treat him nasty but I would just tell him no thank you. So I'm not mad about me turning me down because I would do the same. Also, I'm someone who loves oral sex so and that's out of the question now. Sex is just going to be boring now. So why bother! What do you mean blood test results? I was tested because I was having too many yeast infections which I guess is a symtom or sign of Herpes and my test results werer positive for HSV-2. I haven't had any outbreaks unless my yeast infections are considered to be outbreaks. I get a yeast infection every other month and I'm so used to them I just go get the over the counter medicine for treatment.
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101028 tn?1419603004
You aren't limited to only dating hsv2+ men.  If you take daily suppressive therapy and use condoms, the risk of transmission is 1%/year. That's the same risk as you getting pregnant while on the pill.  

You can still have babies. If you are infected with hsv2 prior to becoming pregnant, the risk of transmitting it to the baby during birth if no symptoms are present is less than 1%. The risk of having a baby with a birth defect in general is 3%.


Also if you haven't listed your blood test results here yet for me to look at and confirm that you were properly tested and don't need additional testing, feel free to do so.

grace
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Yea that's the same thing my doctor said HIV is fatal they have to suggest that and Herpes is not that important. I told her to hell it aint! It's forever and it stops your life. Now I have to date only men who have it as well, because who in there right mind would date someone who has it and you don't. I wouldn't, put myself in that situation. Oh I have herpes and you could get infected we just have to use a condom. Condoms break all the time. (But back on track) Herpes also puts you at risk of having an unhealthy baby. Just considering that there is no cure for this virus should tell doctors that it atleast needs to be talked about more frequently. Or even suggesting the test during your annual exams. I mean because look at the facts, they can't tell you how long you have had it and half of the people who do have it don't have outbreaks. I was diagnosed 4 months ago and have not had an outbreak yet. So how long have I been walking around with this virus and how many people have I infected? I don't have unprotected sex a lot but I do oral sex. So now I feel bad because it's a hand full of men out there that could have gotten this from me and don't even know it. Where if I was informed about the test and was tested long time ago I would have been more cousious.
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Its frustrating for sure.  To be honest I don't even think if he took a swab of the bumps I went in about, just one of those q-tip deals.  So really there will be no test for herpes at all.  I'm gonna have to go again.
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Wow! Unreal. Can you believe that I went to one of the top rated hospitals in the country and two doctors there told me that I don't have Herpes, I have just been exposed to it based on my IGG test.....yikes!
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It should be routine, in fact today when i had an std test the doc said he was using a swab to test for herpes, but then the person that took my blood said the swab was only for gon and clamydia.  This person also said that everyone with herpes shows symptoms so theres no need to do blood tests because people already know they have it.  Can you believe that?
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101028 tn?1419603004
Preaching to the choir for the most part on this one.  1% of adults in  the US has hiv but cdc has recommended yearly testing for everyone over 12 years of age.  25% of adults in US have hsv2 and 56% have hsv1 but it's not a part of routine testing.  Makes no sense at all to me.

grace
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I totally agree wiht you. Its unbelievable how little is known about Herpes. Especially HSV2. It can range from a mere skin problem every once in a while for some people to frequent severe outbreaks, nerve problems and other things for others. This definitely should be included in every standard STD test...I can't understand why it is not. By far way worse than ANY STD besides HIV.
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897535 tn?1295206435
HIV and HSV are worlds apart. Do you realize HIV is a very serious virus that causes AIDS?

HSV on the other hand is a mere skin condition. You won't find much in the way of death statistics from herpes like you would AIDS (25 million people have dies from AIDS since 1981)

How were you tested? HSV1 or HSV2? Have you ever had any oral or genital symptoms?

If you have HSV1, statistically it's more likely to be oral. About 70% of the adult population has oral herpes; it's incredibly common.
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