I was just recently diagnosed with genital herpes type one and I have a few questions that I don't think I can ask my doctor. I have contracted the virus from a ex boyfriend and have had sex with my new boyfriend without knowing I had the virus. I know my new boyfriend has gotten it from me, which I am very guilty over. But he is very supportive and says we will get through this together. What I was wondering is when we have sex can we give each other oral without contracting the virus orally? Of course it would never be during an outbreak, because it is extremely painful anyways. Also I am on my first flare up because I was just diagnosed, how long after the symptoms go away is it ok to have sex, even though we both have the virus