Hi. I have had 1 sexual partner for 30 years. Never had oral sex with him or in my life until my new partner. In the last 5 months, I have had another one (monogamous both times). This partner is married and had 1 partner 2 months before me, and several as a teenager. I don't know his HSV1 or 2 status. He said he doesn't get cold sores. After first sexual encounter with new partner (unprotected) 1 week later experienced abnormal feeling on vagina and slight burning when pee. No sores, very minor irritation. Figured, I was just paranoid and didn't think much of it. Kissed my gf on lips (a peck) 24 hours later experienced swelling and soreness on my lips 10 minutes after vigorously kissing a friend. Went to dr. Valtrex 1 day, swelling and everything disappeared. He gave me antihistamine too. He said he didn't know what it was. 5 days later new partner kissed me and performed oral sex on me and me to him. 10 days later experienced that same irritation as the first time (no burning when peeing though). I thought...ugh paranoid....guilty about the affair. But we had sex for 2 hours (and I mean, 2 hours of consistent penetration and oral sex). He ejaculated in me several times and oral sex in my anal and vaginal area. During sex I had lower abdominal pain and burning inside vagina. I had him stop. He continued to stimulate me with his finger on my clitoris. I have no sores, but have been swabbed with vaginal fluid negative and some sores which didn't look like herpes and negative. Blood test after 10 weeks negative. I don't know my partner's HSV1 status. What do I do now? I have constant pain in vaginal area and legs all the way down to feet, tingling in btw thighs, no swollen lymph nodes, no flu like, just tired, but could be due to stress. What do you suggest go forward. I really want to have sex with my new partner and scared to infect my old partner. Please help.