This has to be a false positive. Getting hsv2 from oral sex is so unlikely that I can't imagine it happening.
First, oral hsv2 is very rare. It does happen, but when it does, it rarely recurs (meaning the people who have it don't usually get outbreaks) and it rarely sheds. This means they don't transmit it.
Given that it's so rare, recurrences are rare, shedding is rare and transmission is rare, I can't imagine the odds that the 2 men you've had oral encounters with would have oral hsv2 and transmit it to you. You might as well buy a lottery ticket, but you won't enjoy your winnings because you'll get hit by a bus after being struck by lightning. ;)
However, the chances of a false positive on an hsv2 IgG test? Pretty good. In this case, at those numbers, it's probably around 80-85%, statistically, if you'd had a risk for hsv2.
The supplemental tests mean nothing. I've talked to a bunch of people here who have tested positive on the supplemental tests and gone on to get negative western blots. I can find no rhyme or reason to that, either.
You state that you're going to get a western blot with us - we don't offer it, so I hope this means you copied and pasted this from Terri Warren's site. If you haven't talked with her, she's the one to talk to about the western blot, but I don't see any reason to run out and get the western blot except for peace of mind.
Has a doctor seen your symptoms? You may need a prescription cream. Using cortisone can help ease symptoms, but it's not really meant to be used that long, and sometimes balanitis needs an antibiotic. Since it's lingered this long, it's time to get it checked. If you don't have insurance, call your local health department and ask what services they offer for residents with no insurances. To find your health department, google your county and health department, like Cook County Illinois health department.