HSV2 - Narrowing this down.

[mesa4bry]

Two weeks ago I was tested for STD's, all was fine aside from testing positive for HSV2 which isn't the end of the world. I am in a committed relationship and here are the details.

Our first sexual encounter was 4 1/2 weeks prior to my positive text result.
My level tested at a 1.15
I do not believe I have ever had an outbreak as of yet.
3-4 days after our first sexual encounter I got a minor rash/irritation on my "taint" for lack of the technical term. It was red, itchy, painful to urinate with but no blisters. This lasted a few weeks and prompted me to get tested.
My last sexual encounter before this most recent one was about six months ago.
I was tested and everything came back clean 4 weeks after that sexual relationship ended.  

I am not angry if my current partner gave me this virus, accidents do happen, but he is refusing to get tested but is still with me knowing that I'm positive.

My theories are as follows:
He's known for a long time, long before he met me he was positive.
He did not know he was infected & feels much like I do with the what's done is done let's move forward attitude.
He just can't afford the testing.
He's too scared to find out.

Is there a way to know he is the one who infected me? I have no clue.
Is it possible that with 1.15 levels I tested positive 4-5 weeks after infection?
Could it be I contracted it 7 months ago after having unprotected sex with this same man for years (neither of us cheated, 100% monogamy) just finally got unlucky the one last time we had sex then got tested too soon after infection (4 weeks)?
Could of my first sign ever (the rash) been a sign of my initial infection since it happened just days after the first encounter?

Not that it all matters, what's done is done and my life is still the same but answers would be nice.

[mesa4bry]

I just need to be sure we are both infected and he refuses testing. (He did have testing done a few months back for HIV an the othrr STD's but not HSV) Its possible he skipped that test to save on cost knowing it was already positive. I feel now that he knew, he thought he was being safe, he is ashamed for not telling me and thinks I will leave. Thats not the case, Im here for the long haul even if he accidently infected me. This all would be fine if he got tested or said he is aready infected, we could live with this together. Thank you for your reply.

[mesa4bry]

I only received a nlood test, I have an appointment to confirm next week. After thinking about it more and more signs point to me believeing my current partner was already infected an is aware that he was.

I know these are not medical reasons BUT my current partner wanted to wait an abnormally long time before initially having sex, he even suggested "after marriage" without a religious reason. He has poor excuses not to have sex for prolonged periods of time & will not undress near me during those times at which hes also very cranky. Like I said Im aware HSV2 is not the end of the world

[gracefromHHP]

your hsv2 igg is a low positive and will need confirmed with further testing. at this point I recommend your current partner seek out a type specific herpes igg blood test to see what his own status is and go from there.

when you were seen for your symptoms, did they also test you for yeast and bacterial infections vaginally? did they do anything other than just herpes blood testing?

for future reference, when testing for std's after a relationship, you can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia and trich after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months. just testing at the 4 week mark isn't properly covering your bases and puts your future partners at risk!

grace