Oh hon, we've been over this. You literally protected everything, and then some, and I don't know how else I can explain it than what I already have.
The average time of symptoms from point of infection is 2-20 days.
Even if you hadn't covered yourself like you did, the chances of her getting herpes from you using a condom are slim. You took extraordinary precautions. I can't imagine how she'd have gotten infected.
You are only infectious from your genitals. You didn't need the shirt, didn't need to cover your neck with it, etc. YOU ARE FINE. SHE IS FINE.
PLEASE talk to your doctor about your mental health. This level of stress and anxiety is not good for you. You don't have to tell him about herpes - though if he doesn't know, he should so he can prescribe you some valtrex or acyclovir which might ease your mind - but talk to him about your anxiety. Please.
If you want to read over all of our other conversations, you can find it all here - https://www.medhelp.org/user_posts/list/1981322?personal_page_id=2507168